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Completely without motivation....

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Fangthanefool, Sep 3, 2015.

  1. Fangthanefool

    Fangthanefool Fapstronaut

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    Dudes,

    I have a serious problem with motivation on doing anything. Well I would consider myself as hardly addicted to porn.

    I could watch porn for hours, orgasm, have a little break doing nothing and then starting it over and over. I am student and have to do a lot of paperwork, but instead I would wank. I ought to clean up, instead I will first take a look if there is some new porn. I ought to prepare a healthy meal, instead I am fapping for hours and then decide to satisfy my hunger with junkfood. And the worse!: I ought to go to sleep, instead I decide to fap... next day I am always missing courses because I fapped half of the night searching the right video to orgasm.


    Look, this is not my first attempt with nofap. My longest streak was 23 days. This was 3 months ago, back then i relapsed because i started to comb through facebook profiles. Then I continued to watch some videos on Youtube and it all ended with uninstalling K9 from my mac.

    Why did I relapse? Because sometimes, well most of the time, I can not motivate myself to do ANYTHING. Getting up, brushing teeth, cooking, etc. I feel like a f**** zombie .... then I get bored and I am starting to watch porn. Then I feel this rush of dopamine and I feel great!

    Today is day 3. Want to complete the Nofap September on hard mode. But i am feeling like a zombie all the time. I AM COMPLETELY WITHOUT MOTIVATION.

    Does anybody know this feeling? I could sleep all day, it is like a really bad depression :(
    I think this has to be a side effect of my addiction, lack of dopamine. But how long do i have to endure this phase of reboot?

    Right now I have to clean up my flat and start to write a paper ... but I cant break out of the comfort zone. I am sitting and listening to music.
     
  2. nomo

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    Motivation will come with time, but no motivation will come if you fill your time by looking at porn. I swear that porn zaps all motivation and kills things that matter. You are tired because you are trying to recover. Stop worrying about the dopamine picking you up, after that rush you are crashing lower than before you started. See how it works, it makes you tired from all the crashing after the rush.
    Put together a long streak of not watching porn and try to accomplish one thing a day instead of filling time with porn. It will work.
    Stay strong.
     
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  3. DudeFromAfrica

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    Something I started was keeping a Bullet Journal (you can google it and find how to guides). It helped me keep myself motivated and complete taks, also it gave me a small hobby which didn't require much time. I was a serious procrastinator, but now that I'm past my goal and keeping myself in check with a "to do" journal I'm doing better
     
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  4. RyanRVA

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    @Fangthanefool ,

    What happens if you watch porn without fapping? Do you still get that rush? If so how long can you keep that rush going? A long time ago, before I ever expirimented with semen retention, I was experimenting with this and I found that if I masterbated to porn and then just stop in the middle of it and walk away I would have more energy and motivation all day long. This eventually led me to the understanding that the sex organs are a big source of energy for the body. The problem is, after an orgasm, they kinda shut down for a while.

    I think for a lot of NoFappers, when they stop masterbating, their sex organs become overall more active automatically, but that may not be how it works for everyone. I found a few ways to trigger that sexual energy response that doesn't include porn or masterbation. How about you, does anything give you that rush besides porn?
     
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  5. ThatOneGuy56

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    Don't rely on motivation. You just can't because its not always going to be there. That's why for me (and you) it can be difficult at times but you just have to push through. Use the motivation when its there and when its not just remember why you started and what you want to see improve from yourself.
     
  6. Sign of the Times

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    I think it is something of a feed back loop you may be experiencing mate. Unfortunately, this may be a symptom of coming off the P M O. The brain is very unhappy it is not getting what it wants and what it is used to. I find that in the early stages of a reboot I can become exceedingly angry and in a terrible mood for no apparent reason. Road rage, anger at pathetic comments made by loved ones, shitty commercials on television. The main thing is to stick it out. Give it time to change and I am sure the motivation will be reborn in new ways.
     
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  7. Fangthanefool

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    Well I get that "rush" only from typing the name of my favorite website. What you are describing is a method many bodybuilders use to increase their testosterone level before gym. I used to do this before workout, but then the PM took overhand and i couldn´t stop before O.
    I get that rush also from getting compliments, neither it is a girl talking nice to me or a good grade at university. Unfortunately this moments have been rare due to PMO in the last years.

    Thank you for replying! I´m looking forward to master the NoFap September together with you guys.
     
  8. Fangthanefool

    Fangthanefool Fapstronaut

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    Dude, thats exactly what I am thinking. Some kind of side effects from PMOing ... would love to skip that part. What do you think, how long will it take to pass this trial?
     
  9. Sign of the Times

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    Couldnt tell you mate. My PB is only 9 and a half days. Long way from the recommended 90! what I can tell you though, is that I feel myself getting better even in a relatively short time span. And the more attempts made at it, the better I feel about myself too. So, I would suggest just keep going. People get really caught up in the numbers side of thing sometimes in this movement. But my philosophy on it is so long as the general trend is heading in the right direction, you are making progress.
     
  10. CrossGlow

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    Sure. I feel like this alot of the time. It's scary when you have responsibilities and yet you have no motivation to do them and just feel like crap. I'm on Day 4 and I'm all of a sudden being swamped by work, but all I want to do is sleep, pmo, and play video games.
     
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  11. Sign of the Times

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    Go through hell and keep going man
     
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  12. @ThatOneGuy56

    Don't rely on motivation. You just can't because its not always going to be there.

    That's just golden!
     
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  13. Lyart

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    Bro.
    You even said it yourself.

    Nofap doesn't give you a better life - only you can do that.
    What you must do is, you said it: Clean up your flat and write this paper.

    If you have started, you won't even think about the lack of motivation.

    Good luck !
     

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