Strength to not look

The title of your thread contains all we need: "not look". There is no secret, we males are very responsive to visual stimulus.
It is all a matter of knowing who you are and what you are capable of doing. If you see a beautiful girl in the street and you know that it is not impossible for you to be with her, I think it is ok to look, considering you are not looking to use that memory to masturbate afterwards.
Another case would be watching porn or any other "trigger". If what you are seeing makes you have a fantasy that that will not happen (I will not give examples because I don't want to make our imagination fly), then I think it is not ok to look.

 

I have the very same problem ...
I was clean for about 2 months, what I did was filling my time with some other stuffs and activities not related to computer or internet ...
I think quitting internet addiction is first Step ... most of the time I search for some keywords or name that leads to a P-site, so I think that being busy may help too
Good luck for rest of your 90 Dude

 

Abstaining from internet could be a good idea, at least in the firts weeks. If you can't stay away from it, try using a public computer (where there are other people seeing your screen).

 

me too .. but im trying to keep myself busy as much as possible

 

yeah this is good too ...

 

I think to answer your initial question, you need to look deeper as to why you look in the first place. Most of us use PMO to fill voids in our life. Are we ineffective in how we deal with stress? Do we have a tendency toward depression, isolation, loneliness, etc. that we try to cope with through PMO?

While some can just STOP looking… many people with that mentality only relapse and reboot over and over again. Gaining a good insight as to why you do it, what your triggers are, then ultimately improving control of life, being open and accountable to others, etc. are typically all required for long term success.

 

I recently watched a porno, started edging even, the rush was insane. But I stopped about 30 seconds in. Thankfully so, but the video is burned in to my mind like it was the first porno I have ever seen.

 

Thanks for telling us, pauts. It is very common for everyone to think that "it will do no harm to watch only one video".

 

Agreed. Sharing is critical, including when you mess up. Also, just remember that the more time you stay away from it, the further those memories get from your mind.

Hang in there!

 

Anyone posting because they want to know if just a little bit of porn is going to prevent them conquering their addiction has answered their own question. If a lifelong alcoholic were sat with you asking you if just a little drink would be ok, what would you tell them?!