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Advice on how to hide my superhornyness?

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Deleted Account, Jul 30, 2019.

  1. Describes very well my thoughts and feelings.
    Congrats to more than 300 days fap free! You show me that it's possible :)
     
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  2. Xouman

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    Meditate every day,you will open your chakras,so the sexual energy will fuel your entire body and not be stuck on the testicles,you will have a lot less sexual urges,also,avoid food that stimulates the sexual organ like ginger,the chilli,garlic,eggs and onion.
     
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  3. kingbob3

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    Your words are like gold to me.
    I am totally avoiding any pictorial content or video content which has the potential to trigger the urge. I am using mozilla firefox web browser on my phone which has this feature of no pictorial content mode on, so no picture at all. Youtube I have disabled and on my Mac I am disciplined enough not to watch any thing apart from my studies and this forum. There was this incident when I was about to give up n quit and I find it amusing that in the heat of the moment I wanted to access the porn but there was no platform to watch it on I was thinking like immediately download google chrome lol, and in the end I did not gave in. So I can relate what you mean when you explain BlockSite.

    I will come directly to the point which is annoying me. Its been more than a month and nobody is more content than me with all the benefits and positivity I am gaining from this wonderful achievement. Yesterday after posting I think my brain slipped into the overconfident douche. I was deliberately trying to test the waters. I must explain here vividly. Nothing triggered my urges. But I was in a mode of experimentation. I was trying to remember all the pornographic contents which I had been feeding my brain all my life and since its been only 30days the connection with the memory is weak not gone. So in the aftermath, filth took over me. My brain was hijacked and I think it was the longest urge which lasted the whole day and even now I feel a little tipsy down there. Let me describe what I mean when I say filth. "I describe filth as the immoral acts which I desire to commit myself with the opposite gender, for my sole pleasure. Even if it comes with a baggage of regret, depleting my energy, my self esteem and my self confidence." For e.g my fetishes to play with the body parts of females n all(I don't want to test the waters again by visualizing what I am writing here).
    I am completely aware of my achievement still this danger of filth looms over my head. The good point is I have now experience of 30days in my arsenal to fight against these urges and not quit. The most important point is I need to cut the filth out. Women objectification should be gone, they are humans only not any object. I know that I am talking like a naive who has just begun his journey of nofap like 2or3days max. But we are who we are. I am strong and have achieved a major benchmark of my journey this should not make me overconfident I desire complete reboot cuz their are millions who begin their journey, thousands who achieve a major benchmarks and only handfuls who make it to the other side.
    I am aiming to be one of those handfuls. I can categorize these days of feelings as flatline stage1. These stages will go to 2 and 3 level someday, I have heard people suffer through flatlines for days lets see for how long mine is here to stay. I must be prepared for those days.
    I need to be strong and only comments and good advices of fellow fapstraunauts can make me realize of what steel I am made of. Everyday when I come here to write my journal I see the votes of visiter, it motivates me. SO I urge people to write to me and help me achieve the sky.

    Read my other posts in my journal and find out ups downs I encountered in my small journey of 4weeks, you will learn a lot. Also comment on it if you like, it would be a boost in my confidence, to fight and finally achieve my goal.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-streak-join-me-and-elevate-yourself.240120/
     
  4. kingbob3

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    Enlighten me with the chakras thing. I want to know more about sexual transmutation without actually becoming a buddha monk you see.
    I have been consuming onions on a daily basis, albeit I am a vegetarian. I work out, and sometimes filth take over me. So how to do this thing.
    Since I have done nofap now for a continuous month and have been following nofap for more than 2years now. I can say I am now comfortable controlling my urges. So still I need to avoid food like which you mentioned?
    I refrain myself from consuming any content which can trigger a potential of filth in me and I plan to stay like that for a while.
    I have a goal which I aspire to achieve, and I know its going to take long to achieve it. So I want to add this weapon in my arsenal so that I can use it for my better good and also stay on track of celibacy. I want to channelize my sexual energy to achieve my goal only and nothing else.
    Kindly teach me about the chakras, sexual transmutations and all the other stuff related to it.
     
  5. Xouman

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    I think that the key is to be always busy with intellectual/creative things,so you will never have the time to be like "humm,i feel horny,let's touch myself a little bit",and you end up by playing with fire,but feeling sexual desires or more,sexual urges is fine,as long as you don't ejaculate every day and waste your energy,you're on the good road.

    For sexual transmutation,i advise you read that book by Mantak Chia :

    https://www.docdroid.net/WBBelYo/ma...ets-of-lovecultivating-male-sexual-energy.pdf

    You don't have to be Buddha to practice sexual transmutation haha,it's easy,people make it a big thing(it is at the same time of course)while it's accessible to everyone,for the Chakras,you can open them with many ways,Kundalini Yoga is one,meditating while listening to a music that have specific frequencies is an other,i don't know all of them personally.

    Try on this one :

    - Be in a calm room

    - Be sure not to be disturbed while meditating

    - Choose your position(lying down with hands on the thighs is a good one),take a good helmet,turn off all lights,be in total darkness

    - Put yourself under the blanket or put a headband(or anything else that covers at least your eyes)

    - Wait until it's the night before you start

    - Inhale and exhale very slowly

    - Do not put too much sound,the goal is to relax the body and mind

    - Go to the toilet to evacuate if needed just before,to be quiet while listening

    - Be as light as possible,short,t-shirt,it will be more comfortable obviously

    - During all the music,do not move and keep your eyes closed all along

    Once you have opened your Chakras after the first listening finished,you can come back on it the day you have a headache or physical pain somewhere,it will heal you a lot or fully because that realigns them.
     
  6. Get behind me Satan

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    If you want it then you'll find yourself looking at every girl you pass so no point asking the question..... if you're genuinely trying to control it walk with your head down..... you don't have to worry about being a 'beta-male', if you keep your posture strong and upright it doesn't look like you're feeling sorry for yourself.
    If you get horny on your own, then put your mind to use and do other things.
    You have more control than you think.
     
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  7. kingbob3

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    Your words are really appreciated.
    The music is trippy. Its seems very intoxicating and alluring. With all the surplus energy of more than a month inside me, I think this thing attracts me even more. Just the music is giving me rushes kind a feeling of being high, healthy high.
    Cant wait to do that in the evening, its day here while I am writing this post.

    Few doubts.
    I just need to lie down in a room full of darkness with some cloth on my eyes and put this music on, and relax, thinking nothing. Thats it.
    This will open my chakras. I have to do this every day.
    Will this make me master of my sexual energy and I will be able to use it with any activity I want to.
     
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  8. Davinblake

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    If I were you I would chill a bit, you think too much like me. I strongly believe that deep inside of you, you never cared about the objectification of women, so already it can't work as something that motivates you. The "i'm testing myself" is just something that you are ultra extremely 100% creating. You are not a rat, probably a sinner, but inferting sofference won't solve your "sins" (or humanity, call it whatever). Chill out and remember that you do not really need to force experiments on your skin to learn, they will come believe me. Chakras stuff is bs (sorry if you believe in it), do not get sucked into strange stuff. Right now you're really fragile to any seduction from any culture, so keep yours and wait for a more appropriate moment to change it. This said, another vital point. Getting yourself so busy that you can't do "stuff" anymore means that at one point you'll forget why you've started and just fall in it again because:"oh yeah, but now I can because I have spare hours every day". Why do you think some people still fail after 200 days? So create yourself a discipline, not a restriction. Keep it up and chill, stress is not good for you rn



    (What I meant with bullshit, was that it's something that will not help him achieve his goal, I would never insult religions or thoughts.)
     
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  9. Robinthehood

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    I find my hornyness resides and comes from my mind. From fantasising, which for me only makes things much more difficult. Life becomes all about fantasy and suppression, so that I can actually get some work done. That was my downfall on my last streak. I came to realise that hornyness has no place in the mind, it shouldn't be there. It should reside quietly in the body until the time is right, then you are always ready for sex, not going crazy about it all the time in your mind. I proved this to myself by having cold showers when my head was full of desire and craving, I'd actually feel these energies leave my body and my mind as the cold water shook me back to reality. Though I was far too horny to get back on track, I ended up pmo after a few days of fighting it. This time my idea is to keep a clean mind. No fantasies, no following erotic thoughts, I just block them out or stop them if they do come into my focus. So far it is working. Its not a perfect method and I am no saint but I think the idea is sound and makes sense to me. I know that if I let them in it gets nearly impossible to fight the urges or at least masturbation, the hormones running crazy through the body distorts the perspective of the mind until the idea of nofap becomes something unrelated to anything and a ridiculous notion.
    So, rant over, but my advice would be, don't get horny in the first place, easier said than done but I think it is possible.
     
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  10. I believe that you are right. Very fucking so, I now take cold showers every morning, and warm ones every evening for a comforting sleep among other pluses. Every positive trait of mine has improved by three fold and my horniness has lessened, I now convert it into socialising.

    Thank you for the comment! I enjoyed reading it.
     
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  11. DesertExplorer

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    Why not gaming?
     
  12. Gaming is a very bad idea. On the other hand, chess, and other board games are good ones. As you are physically playing and using your mind in tactical ways, instead of flicking your thumbs, damaging your eyes and brain with other negative mental factors. Not to mention time-consuming and wasting your life away.
     
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  13. Robinthehood

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    Yes, lots of evidence re. gaming being addictive, involving dopamine hits and blah blah, bad idea.
     
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    Have you ever considered what may apply to many may not apply to all? I have a full time job, a blog, I work out, I go out, and play one or two hours a day instead of watching a movie.

    My point is... let's not be absolute here. Gaming isn't fapping. The line between healthy/unhealthy isn't that clear as with fapping (you either abstain or engage). You need to have the right balance (as with nearly every hobby).

    Having said that, I will need to address your points as well.

    First of all, you said that gaming is a bad idea. Let's see what you followed this apply-to-all-under-any-conditions claim with.

    You compare video gaming with board gaming. It's true that you use your mind in tactical ways with many board games. But the same is true for many video games as well.

    Now, there are many cases that people damage their eyes (I don't know what you mean by "brain" though, it's too vague) with gaming. Most of the cases include pre-existing issues with their eyes (so they shouldn't be playing at all or very little) and gaming addiction (very long hours each day). Though obvious by now, I will emphasize that these are cases that do not have to do with every single gamer. And it shows us how extreme use of gaming may cause such issues. So, we can safely assume that long hours of gaming may harm someone's eyes in the long run. That would not be such an exaggerated statement at all.

    Time-consuming? Yes. As any hobby. Wasting your life away? Too subjective to analyze further. I could say the same about people who love watching movies and no one would be able to derive any information from that statement other than "DesertExplorer doesn't find movies entertaining".
     
  15. I gamed for every year throughout school, changed my priorities from every education to video games, as well as socialising. And now I am stuck in position where I need to get a job with minimal work experience and a lack of a degree.

    Video gaming provides positives but the negatives out-weighs the good
     
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    Sorry to hear that. It can be very addictive, that's for sure. Most people who I hear they quit is because of this reason. And when it's about these issues, I would even go ahead and advise people to quit. For a lot of gamers, quitting is far easier than balancing it into their lives.

    I don't know why I maintain a healthy relationship with it but it probably has something to do with the fact that I play to express my joy in life rather than get entertained to escape from my problems. And I hope this explains why it might seem like I defend gaming.
     
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  17. I responded with anger and defeat, but you have a different reason towards why you do it and it is not a bad one. I just prefer the social aspect of life and not the man-made electronic toys (anymore), it was fun, too excessive for me, but fun. We all have our reasons to and not to
     
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    Why Marijuana is called a gateway drug??
    Hope the above question hits the bullseye, if not in future it will.
     
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    So, you mean that you're asking the question without expecting a personal reply from me? Is it intended to be a response to my arguments? If yes, I will have to answer it anyway.

    I don't know. People who are misinformed about the use of marijuana are probably the ones who say this. And I have never been a user (not even a smoker). I am just interested in some history and studies concerning the subject.

    So, having said that it doesn't hit the bullseye. But even if I did believe that marijuana is a gateway drug, as a person who would like to view himself as rational, I would have a hard time making the connection between marijuana and gaming.

    Is this about dopamine? If it is, it does hit the bullseye. Most games are designed to be addictive and only offer that. I avoid them like the plague; they're meaningless and I don't have time for them. And I'd like to believe that I am not one in a million and there are a lot of gamers who choose to live an experience (or have fun with friends) instead of just chasing gaming goals that accomplishing them provides them with dopamine release.
     
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  20. kingbob3

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    The best way to stay away from an argument is to avoid one.
    I would like to add that your life is way too short to commit all the mistakes and learn from them. So try to be in a category of people those who learn from mistakes of others as well. Thats the only progressive way. I am happy for you that you don't smoke but isn't it good to at least be aware of science behind how the addiction of almost anything affects your overall efficiency. I don't know at what phase of life you are right now, but 2hours of gaming per day counts to 730hours a year and 7300hours in a decade. Why did I do the math.? The point I want to make here is, if you consume even a few minutes of porn in a day that can have an overtaking impact on your psyche. Now for whatever reasons you are gaming so much on a diurnal basis, you cannot remain ignorant of the fact that its affecting your brain and the way you think. Anyone can make out from your post that your brain is under some kind of spell of being ignorant. I would highly recommend you to be vigilant of the content you feed in your brain be it visual, auditory, verbal or written.
    If you are not able to get my words watch the video given in the link below and in the mid of the video the orator gives an example try to relate that with gaming. If still not anything try abstaining from gaming for few days(just for inquisitiveness) and then come here again in the morning.
    Hope you will get some insights of what I meant from my question about marijuana. You don't have to get wasted to know about these stuff. We are human beings, we are social animals and we need each other in order to survive, thrive, prosper and move ahead.
     

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