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  1. I am a 46 year old male from Italy. I am not married or engaged and at the moment I do not have the chance, I will explain later why. For now I can say that mine is a partly voluntary, partly forced renunciation.
    However, nature seeks its outburst, and that's why I'm here: I don't want to be late into the night on pornographic chats on Internet or to download videos or images that then, as soon as the pleasure is reached, I delete promising not to want them anymore (but falling down again in a short time). I do not want to find in looking at pornography a refuge from anxieties and problems, as often happens to me.
    I do not want to? Yeah, I don't want when sober, but when I feel the desire I want it with all of myself, and I don't hesitate to uninstall all the blocks I had set up in my computer in a few minutes.
    I have a job that I like, I have many interests and I am an esteemed person. No one knows about my addiction. Reading the experiences of others, I hope to find and help.
     
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  3. Jake n Bake

    Jake n Bake Fapstronaut

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    Welcome brother!
     
  4. No one knows ... it is good you joined. Cause talking and sharing helps. Welcome and stay on track.
     
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  5. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal, we could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  6. Anew2019

    Anew2019 Fapstronaut

    Hi Greateastern! Welcome! ☺️
     
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  7. Thank you!
    Anew2019, I like the sentence by G. Maté you wrote on your profile, "It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behaviour." It's really true: what are we missing, or what did we not give ourselves because we go looking for it in pornography? In fact, if we limit ourselves to wanting to get out of addiction without remedying what has triggered it, our inner "hole" we tried to fill with pornography will remain open...
    We must remember we are not "vicious", but "addicted": I think that more than vice or guilt, there is suffering behind our compulsive behavior and if we do not cure this suffering, which is the basis of our behavior, we will not be able to really remedy the effects.
     
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  8. Gabor Maté helped me tremendously, listened to him on Youtube for hours. That quote is so true. Thanks for mentioning it here, I'll keep it in mind. Also he says: First question is never why the addiction but why the pain.
    Sto imparando l'italiano, mi piace molto, la paese, la lingua e naturalmente la cucina. Spero che tu sia bene e sono confidente che vinceriamo. :)
     
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  9. If you want I'll help you learning a little Italian, Se vuoi ti aiuto a imparare un po' d'italiano ;)
     
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  10. Davvero? E molto gentile da te. Ti contatto in privato
     
  11. *Davvero? E' ("e" without accent means "and"; "è" with accent is a verbe, indicative present of the verbe "essere", "to be", and means "he/she is") molto gentile da parte tua ;)
    Ti sentirò volentieri :)
     
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