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New to NoFap - porn addict years before the Internet was a thing

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by OysterBoy, Aug 23, 2019.

  1. OysterBoy

    OysterBoy Fapstronaut

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    I'm hopeful that sharing common experiences (I have a feeling I'm not alone) and having a community of people working toward the same goal will help me break my porn addiction.

    Thanks for listening.
     
  2. Jake n Bake

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    I’m an addict long before the internet too brother. Welcome.
     
  3. OysterBoy

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    Thanks Jake n Bake. I recently went to a group therapy session, but there was a heavy religious-based focus and that's not for me. I read through the welcome documents on this web site and decided to give it a try.
     
  4. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  5. Breadman

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    Welcome. Get on the bus with us. Tell us about your efforts and why you finally came to Nofap.
     
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  6. OysterBoy

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    Thanks. I’ve been obsessed with porn for more than 40 years. Recently began working from home. Internet porn is so accessible. I decided recently that it’s tine to address my compulsion. I went to a therapist and then a couple of group therapy sessions. But I didn’t connect with the others. The intro docs I read from NoFap resonate.
     
  7. Breadman

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    P is a dark mistress. How far down the rabbit hole of porn did you go before realizing this? Married? Single? How negatively did it affect your life?
    Good luck getting to the root of your addiction. Start digging and just don’t lose heart or give up.
     
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  8. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal, we could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  9. OysterBoy

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    I replied from my phone last night - not seeing it here though. I've been married and generally kept this all as my own secret. I only recently started speaking about it to my wife and people to whom I'm close. It's never caused me to seek out prostitutes, go to strip clubs, or have an affair. I suppose it's been an outlet for my deepest fantasies, and to avoid performance issues. I'm sure the excessive masturbation affects my ability to perform. It's definitely wasted my time at work - I work from home so it is too accessible and too easy to visit the rabbit hole. When I did visit group therapy, I went 20 days without looking at porn and generally not masturbating. But the urges became intense one day, and when I looked at porn that day I literally felt a rush of something throughout my body. And then I binged on online porn again since. That was a couple of months ago I did therapy.
     
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  10. Breadman

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    You’re lucky you are only dealing with porn and M. I’m bi so it’s even worse.
     
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  11. rafael33

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    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    Urges will again become very intense and there will also come times of flatline when you maybe wish there would be some urges. The community will support you. Without any religious fundamental ambitions (I hate this sin talking).

    Well - I also know the time where there was no internet. Fortunately I never was porn addicted. I watched a few porn clips and didn’t like it. I instantly recognized that the subject was lust and not an emotional relationship between two human beings.

    How is your coming out going on? How reacted your wife? Might be helpful when the partner is supporting you. But you have to accept when other people do not understand your addiction.
    In this community you will find a lot of „fapstronauts“ who are also porn addicted and have realized they are addicted, I first had to realize that I am M addicted to start my NO PM journey. True happiness includes to get rid of any addiction.

    Good luck to you and your wife. Maybe you want to make some commitment -not to the community but to yourself.
     
  12. Breadman

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    My wife was wonderful. She just wanted reassurance I loved her and I wanted to stay with her. Plus, I don’t do sex with other men, just fantasize.
     
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  13. OysterBoy

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    Thanks for your candor. What do you find most valuable on this forum? Groups for instance?
     
  14. Breadman

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    I usually check the 40+ group. I look for guys with my problem then find 2 or three to converse with regularly in conversations.
    Sometimes I just click on different forums to see what’s going on there.
     
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  15. I’m so groovy

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    Oh damn working from home must be the worst! That’s why till today I’m avoiding getting any job that solely deals with computers!
     
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    For sure, it makes it WAY TOO EASY to just fire up a porn movie and watch on my home PC while working on the other. But I'm trying to shift my paradigm. Thanks for the comment.
     
  18. OysterBoy

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    I enjoy inspirational quotes, thanks.
     
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  19. OysterBoy

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    Thanks, I just posted something there. I'm in my fifth day and doing OK. Ample opportunity to surf for P but have not had a major urge.
     
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  20. OysterBoy

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    I find these threads very confusing, I'm having trouble understanding if I am replying to the right comment. My wife was surprised mostly. She doesn't ask for any specific details - probably does not want to know - and listens when I need to talk to her. My commitment is to stop P & M for 90 days. The urges are there today, but I am keeping busy. This forum helps. Thanks for your comment.
     

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