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Difference between genuine sexual feeling and a deceptive, subtle urge to fap?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Eaglevision_2019, Aug 14, 2019.

  1. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

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    Hi Guys. First, I want to thank you all for your support and encouraging comments. I didn't believe I would make it this far. After my last relapse, I felt like I lost it all.

    The withdrawal symptoms were full-blown and experienced several days of depression, extreme mental fog, confusion, social anxiety, and a complete decline of interest in nearly everything that I loved-even watching football, which I consider one of my favorite stress-relieving activities.

    I also had a flatline where I did not have any interest towards women and sex generally. Today is day 39 and there are improvements here and there. I hope to write a detailed report of how it has been-what has changed (benefits) since I started this nofap journey.

    In the meantime, I have a question for you buddies. So, since yesterday I have been having random erections, even a slight thought of a woman tickles my D down there. I have been thinking a lot about sex over the last 24 hours (well, with a real woman).

    However, how possible can one tell whether it is a subtle urge to fap or its a genuine libido. It has been years PMOing that it is difficult knowing how it feels to have an authentic libido or desire for sex. I hope to hear from you buddies. Cheers!
     
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  2. wuuzap22

    wuuzap22 Fapstronaut

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    well, do you want to bust a nut or have sex?
     
  3. Headspace

    Headspace Fapstronaut

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    Does it matter? Wouldn't it only matter if you are about to actually have sex?
    My reality check usually goes something like this: Are the feelings I am having related to an actual social interaction? Or are they mainly popping up in my mind?

    I have a further perspective: There isn't either an 'urge to fap' or 'genuine libido'. It is not black and white. All of your fantasies might lead to fapping if you indulge in them too much. But none have to. Thoughts can't be controlled, but they come and go. It depends on your attitude what you do with them.
     
  4. Seems like your experiencing a flatline which is normal during recovery. Good thing is it’s only temporary. From my experience the urge to pmo slowly fades away then replaces with the urge to procreate (sex and the urge to connect with others).
     
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  5. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

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    Well, hard to tell. But my mind is constantly thinking of penetrative romantic sex. When I talk or think about this person, I become hard.
     
  6. Eaglevision_2019

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    Thanks for your reply. I agree with you. There could be no definable difference between the urge to fap and genuine libido. All I'm sure of is that I feel more like having sex with a specific person in mind. In all honesty, I do not desire watching porn or masturbating. But again, as you mentioned thee difference could so thin and what matters is what you do with how you feel. Thanks
     
  7. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks buddy for your contribution. On the contrary, I think I am entering a new phase which is not a flatline. I find myself hard at night and also have random erections during the day without necessarily having sexual thoughts. Also that feeling of a "dead/numb" D is not there anymore; it is quite sensitive and I can feel sensations at a slight touch.
     

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