In need of some NON-JUDGMENTAL encouragement

Don't think you are the worst person around here or anything, some of us have done much worse, trust me on that. Thanks for confessing, that took lots of guts. Now you can start to feel better and get over this habit you have developed.

 

Way to go Seth, once you acknowledge what the problem is then that's where you start to correct the problem, your on the right path in my opinion, now that you know what the problem is find something to keep yourself occupied in other ways when you start to feel your cravings, I don't know a lot of ways yet to do this but I'm learning what works for me, I have two major passions in my life one is my baby girl and the other is bow hunting, so when I feel the urges starting to come around I instantly either go play with my baby girl or start looking at pictures of here and think of the memory that was made in the picture or I go shoot my bow for a while to take my mind off the situation, you can do it man, I believe I can say, even though I'm new here and learning as I go, we as a community believe you can, it's a one day at a time struggle but you can make it

 

Good job by giving up your sitting area.

You being able to sacrifice your gateways to your addiction is a great sign of rebooting. Getting over addiction is all about sacrifice! Remember that

~Squeaky Soul

 

Brave post, well done man.

In the NoFap Academy videos he describes this as 'juicing' - i.e. thinking, fantasising, looking at small pics, occasional video, getting yourself a little worked up, but not actually PMOing. I found this a useful word because when I do it I can remind myself 'no, I am just juicing' and stop. Having a word has helped me, anyhow.

Good luck!

 

Thank you for sharing! The more Fapstronauts that can come out as "human" the more this place will be full of real encouragement! Good on ya!

 

You are aware of the triggers existing in your head, the good thing is you did something about it. Good on you

 

Voyeurism is something most of us here can relate to. It could be said that watching others having sex is essentially voyeuristic. I am not saying what you do is "OK", but you are among a community of people that understands how we end up doing stuff like this. You may well find that you are more judgemental toward yourself than we would be! Like any other behaviour related to this addictive desperation for dopamine, you have to stop it and develop strategies to protect yourself against it. You have identified a direct, detrimental impact from this behaviour - brain fog. That is a starting point to motivate you to sit elsewhere. So it is a win-win scenario.

 

Wow Seth,

Thanks for being honest. It takes a lot to finally let out your "deep, dark secret" that you thought you could never let anyone know about. Now that it's out there, and from peoples replies, I hope ya realize that you aren't alone. It's no longer a deep dark secret now. And to echo what others are saying, It's HUGE that you are able to actually recognize that sitting in that chair is preventing you from your goal.

I'm proud of you man, and i hope you're proud of yourself as well just for being aware of your thoughts, and then sharing your "deep dark secret" I hope it doesnt feel so deep and dark now.

Love you all!
Brandon

 

Keep up the positivity man! It's an inspiration for the rest of us to hear the story of someone who's fighting the same thing with the same passion. Thanks for being honest

 

What everyone else said. Thanks for being brave and honest. Next time you go to the library, take us with you. When you're tempted to sit in that special chair, imagine all the other guys you see studying are fellow fapstronauts, and WE ALL KNOW about that chair, but none of us chose to sit in it. Give us a nod, choose another seat and get to work.

You can do it.

 

Agreed, it takes a lot of courage to air out all of your dirty laundry, even anonymously. But I think it's a key part of any real recovery. Congratulations and thanks for sharing.

 

Seth - I'm not going to encourage what you did, but consider this. No one got hurt from your voyeurism except yourself. The porn industry victimizes, degrades and dehumanizes women. They can only be hurt by this industry. Those of us who used porn supported this process whether we were aware of it or not.

So, please turn loose of your guilt and shame about this. It's in the past. Most of us have actually done worse ..... Mike

 

Right now write down all of the motivational thoughts you are having against sitting in that chair. Then whip it out next time you have a weak moment. Motivation and willpower wear off so you are going to need a tool in your tool belt for when you become weak. Another idea might be to write out the ways in which your brain tried to trick you by using the chair instead of porn. Then when you hear it pipe up you can be ready to call it on it's BS!

You got this.

 

I'd rephrase that.

Good luck dude, you can do it! Admitting that is a great step forward.

 

LOL!! Yep.

 

Admitting something you are ashamed of is deemed highly respecful, from my point of view
Good to hear atleast you are over that phase of living without it... Soon more will follow

 

I completely recognise the feeling of 'cheating.' My goal is completely based around stopping watching internet porn but I find that once I have been successful in the for a period of time, maybe a week maybe 2 months I often start to look at attractive girls on Facebook or similar 'not really porn but stilling filling the same role in my life' sites and I'm sure it strengthens those same bad pathways. Its so difficult to stop it but I guess realising it and admitting it on here is the same as admitting it to myself. Like you say once you admit it you feel like you have to stop it, you cant just let yourself get away with it any more. Hopefully now we have admitted these things we can both stop doing them. Keep us updated with how it goes.