Bad voice in my head

Bro I'm not sure what you are talking about with the masculine/feminine voice, but I know the voice is probably a part of depression. Start meditating and lifting heavy weights, that should get rid of the voice and some of the depression.

 

I have 8 voices in my head, well 7 because that one do not talks.

 

Read the Power of Now Eckhart Tolle. I promise!

 

Recommend CBT:

What Is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy that treats problems and boosts happiness by modifying dysfunctional emotions, behaviors, and thoughts. Unlike traditional Freudian psychoanalysis, which probes childhood wounds to get at the root causes of conflict, CBT focuses on solutions, encouraging patients to challenge distorted cognitions and change destructive patterns of behavior.​

and this book:

"Visual CBT: Using pictures to help you apply Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to change your life"​

Ref:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/cognitive-behavioral-therapy
https://books.google.com/books?id=Z29UB4oom58C&lpg=PA1&pg=PA1#v=onepage&q&f=false

Hope that helps.

 

As Christian convert I remember this inner monologue as well. But once I made my way to church for the first time, it got unexpectedly angry on me (way beyond the usual) and even managed to trick me into a detour. Once I finally made my way past the doors, it became silent instantly.

It came out again, once I left and got home, was throwing a fit for hours. But I returned again a few days later and for a third time a week later and since then I got rid of it.

Not at all. But guess how surprised I was once I found out who it was talking me down for 30+ years...

 

Low testosterone can cause anxiety and depression in men. The likely culprit: PMO. Stop pmoing and do other things that will raise test. Lifting weights helps with test, dopamine (which helps depression and anxiety), and also will gradually increase confidence (which will help you worry less.)

I've gone through this too and when I get on a longer streak I actually start feeling like a man and I've heard other men say this as well. I think it's very likely that PMO is causing this.

 

Negative thinking is an attempt to maintain control in a reality where we don't have much under our control.

If you choose to believe or predict that you aren't worthy of something or that things won't go your way, you'll lower your expectations (and soften the blow by protecting you from possible pain, problems, and negative experiences). It's much easier than believing and taking a chance on yourself to go for something you want in life that has no guarantees.

Your thought patterns is an identity you've reinforced. Which manifest themselves in your behavior and loops back by strengthening your thought patterns. It's just an identity you've built.

Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms one's preexisting beliefs or hypotheses. If you think about yourself in a certain way, you'll find a way to remain consistent with it in order to confirm your bias. You'll self sabotage opportunities in order to remain consistent with your chosen identity.

Have you considered the fact that you could be wrong in the way that you think about yourself? Have you ever tried to challenge those negative assumptions? And yes, these are your thoughts, that voice is you and not some separate entity.

- Talk to yourself in a more positive and constructive way to change your identity / thought patterns / confirmation bias.
- Let go of the need to protect yourself from possible negative experiences via lowering your expectations with negative thinking.