My cousin stole my crush lmao

Sounds uncomfortably familiar. Except for me it was friends and not family members who ended up with the girl.

We all need to quit the shit and be real men that can control ourselves.

 

Why didn't you just shoot your shot?

 

Tough break man. Don’t worry though, you can always get more.

https://www.amazon.com/Crush-Soda-Cans-Pack-Orange/dp/B00C0AF3IM

 

How do you become too much of bitch to talk to her? If you were a bitch wouldn't you bark?

 

She wasn't stolen. She was never yours to begin with. You made sure of that.

This pain / suffering / negative experience / dissatisfaction... don't release it. Embrace it. Work with it. You got complacent, content, and comfortable to the point where you didn't take any action for 2 years. You had no sense of urgency. Life was fine the way it was. No need to face the uncertain, uncomfortable, and challenging things that you knew you had to do to have a better life and to become a better person.

Instant gratification escapism methods like PMO / junk food / alchohol / drugs / tv / etc are ways to release tension / pain / suffering / dissatisfaction immediately. You've conditioned yourself to escape and release at the first sign of any tension. You've numbed yourself.

If you've allowed yourself to feel and experience the tension long enough, you would be able to harness it and channel it towards something positive (higher quality solutions, pleasures, and positive experiences). Porn is a low quality way of experiencing mediocre pleasures, quick fixes, and weak experiences. It made you comfortable and satisfied. Then in comes life to slap you in the face so that you would wake up to all of the things in life that you're dissatisfied with.

Will you release this tension for the sake of instant gratification / comfort / ease / certainty... or will you embrace the tension, sacrifice short term emotions for the sake of long term outcomes, get dissatisfied, face uncertainty / adversity / discomfort, and change your life?

 

sound painful, well imagine 1 year from now having done semen retention and nofap for a year you'll get a better girl for sure!

 

Crush your cousin.

 

I strongly relate to this because I've missed so many opportunities on girls I really liked before, and then they pass by. Like you said, it's another reason to quit pmo. Try to look at it like you weren't meant for her, but for someone else.

Bro trust me, if there's one thing I learned from the (few) relationships I've had with girls, there will ALWAYS be someone better. You'll see

 

Dust off yourself bro, take this to improve yourself.
My pray for you