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How to handle flatlining?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by downwegoe, Apr 5, 2015.

  1. downwegoe

    downwegoe Fapstronaut

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    I'm about a month into my nofap journey and have effectively flatlined. Meaning, there isn't much arousal happening these days. Which helps a lot in keeping the relapses at bay. But the thing is, I've been trying to get back into dating and am worried that my current non-sexual state is causing problems attracting and getting women.

    I've heard that no fapping brings testosterone levels back up but I'm not currently feeling like there's any there. Just, you know, life. Which doesn't seem much of a magnet for the ladies.

    Any thoughts (or links to previous discussions about this) would be appreciated!

    Cheers!
     
  2. mike47

    mike47 Fapstronaut

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    hiya downwegoe -- I just started into flatlining, too. Here's a post I made on the 40+ forum a couple of days. Just to let you know that someone else is having the same kind of symptoms.

    I'm an old geezer but a fountain of knowledge. Please don't put too much pressure to perform upon yourself. Some women may expect to get fucked on the first date, but not many do. Most women want to establish a level of emotional comfort established before they are ready to give it up. Most women also respect a guy who doesn't try to bang them on the first date. The ones that want to jump right into bed with you may have some emotional issues that you will probably not want to have to deal with.

    If she does want to climb into bed with you after some dates but before you are ready, just give her what she really wants - lick her pussy (clitoris) 'til she orgasms! If you do that well, she will be too far spent afterwards to worry very much about you. Besides, the sights, sounds and smells of a woman having an orgasm is the most erotic thing that I've ever encountered .....

    I'm thinking you'll likely be out of flatlining before events really start to fall together. Don't hesitate to start dating. The ladies will appreciate what an exceptional guy you are! Mike

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    Over half way to my 30 day goal. What's happened the last couple days has me thinking I'm into flatlining now. I have no yearning at all for porn - amazing! My libido has all but disappeared. The Lizard is lying there limp, and doesn't seem to want to go anywhere in a hurry. I feel asexual. But I'm not depressed, more like submissive. Through your posts you guys have done a great job getting me prepared for this. If not, I would probably be freakin' out at this.

    I explained the process to my wife so she wouldn't think I was going on permanent AWOL. She actually seemed relieved that her hypersexual hubby won't be banging on the Beaver for awhile .... (do ya'll like all the animal analogies ?)

    BTW - I have bipolar disorder, and we BP's do tend to be hypersexual versus the general population. Probably has something to do with the nuerochemical instability. Or maybe we just have an embedded genetic urge to populate the world with little bipolars. Insanity loves company ....

    Mike
     

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