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Question for 17, 18, 19 year olds here

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by onceaking, Jul 21, 2019.

  1. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    Would you spend time chatting and calling a woman in her 60s? My Mother is in her 60s and this guy in the age group I mentioned contacted her on Facebook and is now calling and texting her. I just don't know what he is getting out of the conversations. They talk about work and she says she his English teacher (English isn't his first language). I overhear some of the conversation and some if seems fine but sometimes the conversation seems inappropriate. Sometimes I think it's some sort of weird online affair. I don't know what is going on really and don't want to jump to conclusions but why the hell would a guy in his late teens be talking to a woman in her 60s? I was once a teenager and I remember having no interest in doing such a thing. To say the least I am not happy about this.
     
  2. Infrasapiens

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    I'm about to be 22 but I can say without a doubt that this is messed up.
     
  3. Hros

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    My first thought is that it's some kind of scam, or leading up to some sort of scam.
     
  4. Infrasapiens

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    That makes sense to me.
     
  5. brilliantidiot

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    Probably a scam. He'll get a certain amount of info and try to get your money, or something similar.
     
  6. Angus McGyver

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    He is probably a scammer, swindler or charlatan of some kind (call it whatever you want).
    He is trying to sound interested in her everyday life in order to squeeze and extract as many details as possible.
    He will eventually ask things such as what bank and type of accounts she is using, or he tries to sell her some expensive, fraudulent and useless stuff that she can never reclaim. These people tend to sound very charismatic, convincing and proficient about their product(s). Almost like the TV-preachers for those mega-churches who try to sell people all kinds of blessed products which will be equivalent to an indulgence if purchased.
     
  7. Read this info from the FBI website. It can apply to phone calls too:

    https://www.fbi.gov/news/stories/romance-scams

    The part of the story about the caller wanting to learn English is also very concerning. Maybe your mother will also be willing to look over the info at the FBI websites about scammers.

    When you speak to your mother remember to be calm, respectful, and let her know you’re very concerned about her.

    What you’ve shared so far sounds bad to me.
     
  8. Is your mom a milf? I know its hard to say but think about the answer, bc thats my forst thought. Hes probably moving slow and working his way up to it, as i imagine an operation like that could take a long time. But i wouldnt jump to conclusions, or just confront him
     
  9. Shocked at reading the replies, i didn't think it was a scam. I would've went w attempting to have sexual affairs w an older woman route. But i dont think we should be jumping to conclusions. Maybe they're just friends.

    Also @King Og of Bashan , my guy, also ask yourself "why would a 60 something year old wanna talk w a 19 year old so much?" It goes both ways
     
  10. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    I don't know. Who thinks of their mother that way? I know some people do. I have come across porn site where guy are obsessed with their mothers and fantasise about them but I not that kind of person. Such a thought creeps me out. Don't think it's healthy.

    I think I know the answer to that. My mother is a devout Christian and she said the reason she's talking to him is to tell him about Jesus. The guy is a Muslim and she think she should convert him. I don't agree with this, if he wants to be a Muslim let him be Muslim, no need to convert imo.

    But I was wondering maybe he's a recruiter for Islamic State. Just because he's a Muslim doesn't mean he's a terrorist but it's not impossible. He lives in a Muslim country that a number of terrorists come from. I remember a story from a few years ago where this Sunday School Teacher was almost recruited by IS and it began with her talking to a Muslim on social media.
     
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  11. Yeah so i didn't realize the dude lived across seas. I thought he lived in the same town. Slightly concerning lol
     
  12. Hros

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    I find it hard to believe that ISIS would try to recruit a 60 year old Christian woman overseas...but who knows?
     
  13. badbanana

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    This is a very common scam, once he forms a solid foundation he will ask for help. These guys will spend months developing a relationship before they ask for anything. They prey on the elderly because of their vulnerability and retirement funds. I'm not saying she is either one of those things but he is playing his odds.
     
  14. Hros

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    King, think about it this way: as far as you're aware, he could be talking to dozens of elderly people at once, all over the world, knowing that at least one person will be gullible enough to fork over some cash or whatever.
     
  15. Also try this government link:

    https://www.usa.gov/stop-scams-frauds

    There are links on bottom of the page about how to contact people to get more information about your concerns and to report violators.
     
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  16. onceaking

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    Well, I confronted her. She said she's trying to help him. She says he's a poor boy who had to give up his education to work on a cotton farm because his father died. He sent her a video of the cotton farm he works on and she believes him. IDK I can be cynical and my Mother is far more compassionate than me. She offered to give me his name so I could talk to him. I think I will but not sure how to go about it. If his story is true I feel bad for him but I don't fully trust him.
     
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  17. MikeyRamirez

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    There are all kinds of people in the internet. Practice Caution.
     
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  18. onceaking

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    I would also add they have had video chat so he isn't afraid to show his face. I've read a lot of scammers avoid using video chat.
     
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  19. kropo82

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    Make sure that she knows not to send him money nor to share bank account details.
     
  20. brilliantidiot

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    Definitely a scam. This is exactly the position he wants her to be in. She is already extremely sorry for him. He is probably doing this to multiple people at once too. MAKE SURE she is NOT open to sending him any money or telling him any details about the bank.
     
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