I can't help thinking about PM

Firstly acknowledge the desire as there is no point in lying to yourself. The desire to orgasm is a perfectly natural thing and would give you some brief pleasure.
Then think beyond that brief moment to how the O would really make you feel. You have set yourself a goal and you want to achieve it. Fapping takes you away from where you want to be. Fapping gives you a brief thrill but would make you feel bad yourself overall.
I think of it as like a long distance run. I could sit down (fap) at anytime and it would give temporary relief but it would move me no closer to my goal, after the act, I would feel bad and regret doing it.
So give yourself a reason to feel good about yourself and accept that you have a temporary craving but that it will pass and you will feel better and stronger if you if you do something else.

 

Let go of the idea that you can abstain for a day and not have hard feelings come up. If you can learn to sit with the hard feelings, you will gain further confidence. Trying to make them go away and expecting instant results are both addictive thinking.

Peace,
-Quinn

 

Since you’re so young I’m going to suggest reading some of the journals of the older men.

Imagine if you keep this up what your life will be like.
Imagine you meet a beautiful woman, you guys get married, you have kids. Life is great! But you’ve still got this porn problem. You eventually lose all attraction towards your wife. She keeps bugging you for sex, but that thought doesn’t interest you one bit. You wait for her to go to sleep and get off to P. A few times a year you give in and give her pity sex because you don’t want her to leave you, and lose your children. Oh shit! Your dick doesn’t work. Wtf!? Now she starts to question if it’s because she’s ugly, maybe she gained too much weight during pregnancy, maybe you’re cheating. She asks her female friends if it’s normal and she finds out that all her friends husbands can’t take their hands off them, the women wish their men would settle down a bit. So if this isn’t normal she believes it has to be because she’s ugly. And in a way she’s right- porn taught you that fake airbrushed women are attractive. She then finds your porn. She might leave you or she might stay. Either way, your dick still doesn’t work properly so if she leaves you it’s not like you’re physically able to go fuck the hottest women at the bar. If she stays your life will become much harder than it is right now.
You’re too young to go down this road. You’re way better than that. You’re growing up in a time when we now the harm of porn. You know you’re better than it just keep fighting one day at a time. You got this.

 

Empty shell, thank you

I was dealing with an urge, and this post was a wake up call.

You showed me a glimpse of a possible future. I don't want that future.

Now I am more motivated than ever to give up !

I'll keep this post for emergency.

Really, trully, thanks.

And Asterflars, listen to this gal

Stay brave bro

 

You’re welcome and no need to thank me.... you’re the warrior. Keep fighting.

 

If you are religious, then the advice is very simple: trust Jesus.

 

What if you have a different religion?

 

Then I would give the same advice anyway

 

As in to tell a Jew or a Muslim to try Jesus?

 

Exactly.
If you guys have time, and are interested, I´ll share my testimony with you here - that can help you understand my advice better. If you decide to read it, thanks for the patience in advance, because it´s quite long... Cheers!

 

No thanks. I have my religion.

 

What is merely having a religion good for?
(I know, you probably didn´t mean it that way, but it´s difficult to say from such a short statement)