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I'm new to this and need some guidance

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by defyingmybelief, Jul 16, 2019.

  1. Jul 16, 2019 #1
    defyingmybelief

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    I've managed to get a couple of weeks under my belt and am realising that without being able to masturbate, I have no release on that front. I need some help in learning how to talk to women so I can actualise myself as a man.

    I feel like I need to look at myself in a better light as porn has led me to have a pretty dim view of myself. When I talk to women I feel like I'm leery or just looking to bang them. I am a bit, but that's not all I want :)

    Has anyone else felt they have missed out on the training of chatting to girls? I need some guidance.

    Thanks,

    J
     
    defyingmybelief, Jul 16, 2019
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  2. Jul 17, 2019 #2
    Rehab_warrior

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    Hey defyingmybelief,

    I struggled with girls during my teenage and first years of adulthood.
    Then I read a lot.
    And I learnt something critical... That helped me a lot...

    Women are not men.

    I repeat. Women ARE NOT men.

    We men are physicals, and we like arguments.
    And women are emotionals, and just like to talk !

    We have a fear when talking to a woman because for us, talking must be about something important, accurate. And running out of things to say frighten us.

    But women don't give a damn, as long as she finds an emotion in the conversation. Even if you are talking about rocks.... !

    Practice, practice, practice.

    Try talking about her shoes. Like starting by looking her in the eyes and telling her she has dope shoes. In her brain, you'll look sexy because you made her feel happy, and she'll eventually tell you that she bought it at etc. etc.

    See ?

    Nothing to do. Initiate the conversation and then keep listening, smile, and show interest :)

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    I don't know if that's what you expected as answer thought, don't hesitate to tell me. I'm new to the forum and don't want to polute it ;)

    Stay brave bro
     
    Rehab_warrior, Jul 17, 2019
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  3. Jul 17, 2019 #3
    defyingmybelief

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    Thanks man that's a great response. It's fucking scary, I always freeze up but maybe you're right, maybe just the act of conversation is good enough for women to an extent rather than trying to come up with gold every time i speak.

    Thanks mate x
     
    defyingmybelief, Jul 17, 2019
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  4. Jul 18, 2019 #4
    lolos

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    Other dude hit the nail on the head. If you want more shit like that read the book of pook
     
    lolos, Jul 18, 2019
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  5. Jul 18, 2019 #5
    Rehab_warrior

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    Hey pal,

    So much could be told about communication...

    Since those past times of despair and awkwardness, like I told you, I read a lot.

    And I'm deeply interested in non verbal communication. Some say 90% of what say doesn't come out of your mouth, but your body !!

    And women are native reader of non verbal.

    We are not.

    Therefore, we try to speak with our language (english fo exemple) when they also "listen" to your non verbal. So, instead of searching gold things to say with your mouth, keep a smile, nod when she speaks, keep your body posture dominant, arms opened, etc... She will read confidence all over you, and with a grin on your face, she'll find you damn sexy in seconds.

    Honestly, you don't have to fear to freeze.
    Just chill ;)

    Be a dominant, masculine, confident dude.

    It is hard to be one when you do not really feel confident, but with pratice you'll feel like it !

    And nofap IS THE PLACE to get back your manhood !!!

    Stay brave bro
     
    Rehab_warrior, Jul 18, 2019
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  6. Jul 23, 2019 #6
    Wank Warrior

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    The best thing you can do for this situation is focusing on your own life and well being. Women like a well rounded man with challenging and interesting things going on in there life. Exercise, read, meditate, find a hobby you enjoy, work hard. When these things happen great women naturally gravitate into your life.
     
    Wank Warrior, Jul 23, 2019
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