Nofap, PMO and Females

A little background: 19-20 Year Old male who recently discovered Nofap earlier in March.

I understand that somehow Nofap is encouraging us not to view women as sexual objects and instead see them as a person.

I’m trying my best to contain myself however these girls are wearing provocative outfits.

If I am trying not to see them as the sexual objects paddled by these porn industries and here they are trying to get the attention of males then it’s a pretty tough challenge.

I need someone to shed some light on this and I appreciate every single perspective.

 

Thanks for the advice! Hopefully I don’t get too nauseous from all the bouncing around XD.

 

Hey! Just a female perspective here. I dress for myself. I dress to feel good about my body. I dress for comfort. Yes, that does sometimes mean I wear leggings or low tops or dresses. But it's never for the benefit of anyone else. It's how I feel comfortable with my body.
Most women I know have had body issues throughout their lives and learning to love themselves is a difficult and sad process. Once you get there it's rewarding to wear what you want and not care what others think.
So for the most part, most women don't dress for male attention (again, from my perspective).

 

Nice hearing from a female perspective. And now that I think of it I think it makes sense!

 

Thanks for your perspective!

 

When I look back on the time I was heavily into porn, I think it's sad really, climaxing over a picture or a video of a woman. There is so much more to females that is at least as attractive, but males tend to be turned on by visual imagery primarily. I for one think the highly pitched female voice is just as arousing as a body part, the touch of a woman, their female personalities, their energies... All I'm saying is there's more senses to us than vision and people should learn to live with all 5. That doesn't mean you should masturbate to the voice of a woman or whatever, but it will put your masturbation habit into perspective, and so you'll learn to handle the urges by snapping out of that fantasy. Fantasy just doesn't lead anywhere. That's why it's sad to be using porn. Genes and vitality wasted, gone into thin air, doesn't serve anyone except for the porn industry itself. Using porn just isn't my understanding of self-care anymore. There's no connection there. The lack of connection is what empties the porn addict's soul.

Not the most practical tip I know but seeing the bigger image is what's really necessary to break a porn habit. Reflecting on and studying one's own thoughts is extremely helpful in that respect. It's a bit like giving yourself therapy.

 

That’s true. We’re all at war, psychologically. Thanks for the advice!