Can I help him?

Not much help from me for you.

It sounds to me he is not really interested in quitting PMO

He has to want to recover, you can not make him want to be better.

Maybe some of the SO's here will have better advice.

 

Do you have any boundaries in place dealing with these issues?

 

I don't know how qualified I am to answer, but I'll do my best.

I think this is something very important. He has to be honest with you, otherwise you won't be able to help him, and he won't be able to help himself. I really think that you should have the expectation of him telling the truth, otherwise maybe it is better to end the relationship so you don't end up getting hurt over and over.

That is a lot (unhealthy?) amount of sex. I think he should get professional help, since it isn't normal to need that much sex. Maybe he could visit a sexual health therapist or something similar. And I don't think that you should have any more sex with him than the sex you want to have. Sex is supposed to be nice for both. From the sounds of it he is using you sexually.

Overall it sounds like an unhealthy relationship. If he doesn't want to take active steps to get rid of his addiction (by professional help or at least joining a forum like this) and if he won't be truthful it might be better to let go...

 

I'm sorry to hear about this, it sounds like a tough spot for you to be in, giving all that love and attention and still not feeling like he cares enough to give it up for you. This does sounds pretty serious especially considering you are having sex 2-3 times everyday (I'm not sure that in of itself is even healthy) and he still needs more. Unfortunately this needs to be his decision and something he will need to commit to on his own. I'm not sure if you give an ultimatum or not but something has to change. Think of it like someone with an alcohol or drug issue, there's only so long you can stand by while someone destroys themselves.

 

he needs to do a reboot meaning no sex or any stimulation for a few months, and he needs to realize the seriousness. Sorry but getting in a relationship with a P addict is about the worst thing for you. Sadly, majority of guys have the same problem

If he doesn’t really want to change then yes you should leave him because that’s the only way he will change

 

go to forums then rebooting in a relationship then partner support then significant other journals and you will see what you are getting into. this will ruin your life and his

 

Im terrible at them

My advice is do what works for you, get input but do what you think is best

Mainly figure out what makes you feel safe and word them so they are clear and whatever consequences u decide stick to them.....if you falter in your follow thru you lose all credibility and he will know you are not going to enforse them

The SO's aroumd here are much better educated on boundaries. But ultimately take all the advice u want but do what your heart and your conscience tells you, dont let someone else tell u what you need to do

 

This one will be tough for you but no sex masturbation porn or psubs.

Show him this
https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.re.../1_year_on_a_simple_tip_which_will_guarantee/

 

one of the best boundaries you can set is time spent online as it is the first step to relapse. also, installing covenant eyes is great because you will be able to see if he has tried to view, and also set restrictions online, so he won't be able to view.

 

First of all don't get intimate with him that never helps a PMOer. I'm telling you that based on 10 years of addiction. PMOers will always see porn hotter and sexier than the most beautiful gorgeous woman on earth. The only way he would be willing to quit is for him to have the true inner desire to quit.

What you can do though is to help him see how his life would be if he quits and how terrible PMOing is and he is missing out on almost everything good in life. Give him ample time and make sure he sees the nothingness and horribleness of porn.

if he insists then add more pressure on him by telling him that you would leave him if he does not quit (That would make him take things seriously) and also give him time because quitting porn addiction takes time, thereafter if he insists on the PMO path then there is no hope.