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Anyone get depressed thinking about all the years they wasted with PMO?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Jun 27, 2019.

  1. Not to mention the severe confusion, extreme loss of hope and sanity, extreme loneliness, anxiety and suicidal thoughts for months/years on end. It’s the unspeakable pain that’s driven me to away from this habit and to never look back. I know there’s light at the end of this tunnel and that a lot of us are in this together. It stings so bad..thank god for this community and my drive right now. There’s no other alternative anymore
     
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  2. bigboibez

    bigboibez Fapstronaut

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    So many people can relate buddy, When i'd get anxiety or down before i'd say 'fuck it lets just pmo' whereas now it just isn't an option, it caused this, and if I do it ever again i'll just be stuck in this bullshit cycle for life. I tried going back to pmo like I used to but I cant enjoy it at all anymore. there is only one way out of this mess and that is to quit. good luck brother
     
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  3. Yeah, a lot of us feel the regret ... however that is past, and unfortunately we cannot travel through time and change our past, its done what its done. And when it comes to future, we can't really rely on it either since its unpredictable.

    But what we can do is be aware of the present moment, this very moment is the one where you have the choice. You have the choice whether or not to feel depressed about your past, and anxious about your future, and decision lies in this moment.

    Now when it comes to emotions such as fear, anxiety, depression, confusion, loneliness ... i can't really tell you that its a choice, its because of the chemistry in your brain, its not that easy for us porn addicts to control our emotions, otherwise all of us would have 500+ days on our streak counters. And let me tell you that you will feel such negative emotions through your journey a lot, but what is very important ... is that those are just emotions, they do not define you. They come, do their dance, and leave and that's what you need to know.

    Don't fight off your emotions, you can't repress them, repressing them will cause another negative behavior. See if there's something good you can get out of such negative emotions (i recommend journaling) and then move on, acknowledge your negative emotions be aware of their presence and work on your calmness and awareness (i recommend meditation) such emotions will be here for some period of time, but they won't be stuck with you for ever, because that's not your identity.
     
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  4. Ditch

    Ditch Fapstronaut

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    I'm frustrated over years lost but I'm glad I figured it out when I did, now I have my whole life ahead of me.
     
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  5. Learn from past mistakes and then move on. Spending too much time in idle reflection on the past is wasteful of our most valuable resource in this life: time.

    Even more wasteful of that resource is idle speculation about what might have occurred had we done differently in the past. As a wise friend once told me, "Ain't no such thing as 'might have been.'"

    "The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it." - Thomas S. Monson

    Forward! One day at a time.
     
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  6. WilBil99

    WilBil99 Fapstronaut

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    No regrets just thanks for the time I have now that will be clearer and more productive. Males in my family tree usually succumb to alcoholism and none of them were able to overcome their disease. With my addiction I don’t feel like I have a death sentence rather I’ve been sprung from death row. Concentrate on what we have and be thankful. We are blessed to have today. Good luck to you and forgive yourself!
     
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