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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Distraught XO, Jun 24, 2019.

  1. Distraught XO

    Distraught XO Fapstronaut

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    So I'm 35 and I've been married for almost 3 weeks now. For years I struggled with PMO, even when I met my wife two years ago and resolved to quit porn/masturbation for good. My problem was made worse by the fact that I could only O through this weird style of death grip: squeezing my D between my thighs. The conventional hand method never worked for me.
    Now, my wife is very young (23) and lucky for me I was her first. But I'm ashamed to say that most of the time when we made love, I used drugs to achieve and maintain hardness, without her knowledge, of course. And the few occasions when I attempted to avoid using drugs and hence would get only partially hard or not hard at all, she wondered what was going on and it just tore me up. Just before we got married I had to admit to her that I'd been masturbating actively for years and was now quitting, but I was too ashamed to admit that I'd been using porn.
    My wife has also had problems of her own with masturbation. She told me she'd also been masturbating for some time but never to porn and I have no reason to believe she was lying about that. She even did it right before me a number of times. Hence, because she'd gotten so used to Oing by the touch of her fingers alone, she hardly ever cums during normal sex. She only does when she touches herself or grinds hard on me without penetration.
    Now the both of us have resolved to quit masturbation (and porn for me, secretly) now and forevermore.
    I'm now on day 35 free of PMO and my Lord! I just take one look at my wife's bare behind swinging into the kitchen or bathroom and I get so hard it sometimes gives me headaches lmaooo. The sweetest part is the sex. I still have a bit of a problem with delayed ejaculation, but my sensitivity is better than it has been in years. It feels so good sometimes that I feel I might just burst into tears while I'm in her. We had decided no kids just yet because she wants to finish with school first but if it continues being this sweet, hmm, my wife might be getting pregnant before July is over .
    So yeah, I'm here to tell you that it does get better, especially if you open up to your partner and make an honest effort to change your life.
     
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  2. It sounds like you both have work to do. Keep it up and stay open with each other. Grow together.
     
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