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Do you use the ignore function? How much?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Bombadil, Jun 22, 2019.

Do you use the ignore function to mute other users?

  1. I don't use the function, I just ignore them in my head.

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  2. <10

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  3. <50

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  4. <100

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  5. 100+ I HATE EVERYBODY!

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  1. One Strong Girl

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    It’s a last resort for me. I actually share the funny messages with other girls on the forum , but sometimes it gets pretty bad that ignoring is the only option.
     
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  2. Bombadil

    Bombadil Fapstronaut

    That's a great tactic. I can't think of anything that would make them run away faster than having a bunch of ladies laughing at their pervy personal messages...
     
  3. Hros

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    Hah, yeah, good point :D.
     
  4. I still don't understand why some people even get to use the "ignore" function; if someone is annoying, you just ignore them and they disappear. In the internet, caring for whatever someone you don't know says is just difficulting everything for yourself without a real reason; if you let some random person on the internet undermine your tranquility in real life you're gonna have it even harder as there's not such thing as an "ignore button" there.
     
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  5. Don't be afraid of being rude. Not saying you are, I'm just saying that's something women often struggle with. We don't want to be rude, so we let conversations go too far sometimes instead of just ignoring or whatever. I've gotten a couple people asking me things that I think seem a little sketchy, and I generally either dont respond at all, or I will just flat out tell them that's an inappropriate question and they shouldn't be asking me that.

    Good on you for hitting that ignore button! You shouldn't have to deal with that crap.
     
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  6. Also, tip for the ladies: I gotta say, it helps a LOT to not have my gender listed and to have a masculine looking avatar. Most people who I've spoken to a lot know I'm a woman, but I helps keep away all the random dudes who just see me around once or twice. They just assume I'm a dude, and I'm cool with that. I don't really get a lot of weird messages from guys here, and I think that is a big reason why.
     
  7. That's completely understandable. Everyone has different limits. Not everyone can just "point and laugh" at someone, for instance, saying a bunch of sexist and horrible things about them. In fact, I think it's a bit sad that so many people are so comfortable with that and not effected by it at all. Human beings have emotions. We aren't designed to just be attacked and ridiculed with no negative feelings about the subject. It's perfectly okay to take care of yourself and know your limits.
     
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  8. Actually, there are arguabley easier ways to ignore people in reality than here on this site. I can't stop some dude from harrassing me all the time on a website, unless I use the ignore function. If i knew that person in real life, i would use the real-life equivalent of an ignore function, and I would tell them they aren't welcome in my home and to get the eff out. And if they refuse, I would call the police and get a restraining order.

    Look, if people don't want to use the ignore function, that's fine, do whatever you want. But I don't like the way it's seen as some kind of weakness to block somebody who is harassing you. It's not weak at all. You need to take care of yourself, and as I said before, everyone has different limits and different levels of mental and emotional health. Don't knock someone for putting up boundaries for themsleves against abuse.

    It also seems odd to me that some people here act like it's weak to ignore someone rather than just not reading their stuff, and yet isn't that exactly what we do with porn by using programs like K9 and covenant eyes? It just makes it easier to not see the things that are becoming a burden to you in some way. The guy I have ignored is on soooo many threads on this site, always staying the most sexist crap, and sure, I could just not read it. But it's easier if it just isn't there. There's nothing wrong with using that function to make my life a bit easier and my time here on this site less harmful.
     
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  9. EXPONENTIALLY

    EXPONENTIALLY Fapstronaut

    Had a gay one time trying to holla at me making me questioning my sexual orientation, and also many "haters" as we could say. I don't know, I just like serenity.

    Go from the presence of a foolish man, when thou perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge. -Proverbs 14:7
     
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  10. letter

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    The ignore function is somewhat dysfunctional on Xenforo, so I don’t use it.
     
  11. One Strong Girl

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    I do that too. I just let them know it's not something they should be asking , if they brought it up again, I'll just not reply. But a couple of them kept messaging days afterward. Which was just too much.
     
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  12. One Strong Girl

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    That's a smart move. But for me My name says it all lol. I didn't think much about it when signing up. Oh and I literally had one guy asking me to change my name because it was triggering lol.
     
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  13. Bombadil

    Bombadil Fapstronaut

    Funny I don't get that. Suppose Bombadil just isn't that sexy... Who knew? :)
     
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  14. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    I have >10 I think.

    There are two types of people who are my ignore.

    There are the complete jerks. There's not many in this forum but there are some. There this one guy who is obsessed with politics and has the tendency to bring politics into threads that have nothing to do with politics. He told me I was partly responsible for the political problems in the country and then told me all millennials are childish and since I'm a millennial I'm childish. Quite honestly I fucking hate him and wish he'd leave the forum. I shouldn't let him bother me so much since he's just some bastard on the internet but I do.

    Not all religious people are jerks but the real religious fanatics on this forum are jerks and I don't want to hear what they have to say.

    Another section are the people who sometimes start trigger threads. Usually, they don't remain on the ignore list but while their trigger thread is active they're on it. They're not bad people but I'm not in a good mental place to handle such triggering posts. If I were in a better mental place I'd probably wouldn't have them on the list.
     
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  15. I'm glad you're here because you keep the forum's language flowery, among other things.
     
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  16. Bombadil

    Bombadil Fapstronaut

    Yes! Well done! Bit disappointed that cockwomble isn't on the list though...
     
  17. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    A healthy person wouldn't let someone undermine their tranquillity but most people who are addicted to porn aren't healthy. For some, it's vital for their recovery that they ignore some people. In the past, I've gotten so stressed by the fights on here that I've relapsed. I'm not blaming the people who stressed me out, I'm saying we need to figure out a healthy way to deal with triggers and for some people using the ignore button is a healthy way at their point of recovery.

    True. There's this guy who has a podcast where he sometimes brings people who've been having fights online into a studio to have a debate. He said once they're in a studio together face to face they're a lot nicer to each other. The trouble is on the internet people aren't viewed as people with feelings but as screen names without feelings.

    Oh dear. Maybe he should have blocked you instead. That reminded me of the time when some men were complaining when female members had photos of themselves in avatars were making them relapse.
     
  18. IGY

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    How bizarre, right? o_O
     
    Last edited: Jun 24, 2019
  19. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    It is bizarre but your other comment is rather bizarre as well.
     

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