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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by WilBil99, Jun 18, 2019.

  1. WilBil99

    WilBil99 Fapstronaut

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    I’m 50 and am so happy to be here. I come from a family of introverts so to share personal information (never mind PMO related!) is so foreign to me but part of my recovery is putting myself out there and being vulnerable. I have never allowed myself to be vulnerable before for fear of sharing to much. I’m married w two minor children and want to be more present with them. Stop making excuses to stay behind while they go out so I can overindulge in PMO behavior. I appreciate the opportunity to be a part of this community and for the support I receive. Thanks all!
     
  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    - You can find the forum usage guide here
    - Here is we’re you will find a glossary of terms often used in the nofap community. Glossary
    - You can also find a guide to the basics of rebooting here
    - If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  3. Welcome to the community! The behavior will get worse when hidden in the dark. When you bring your behavior into the light, it allows healing so you have done the right thing. Join a group and stay active in the forums. Come here when you have an urge. If you stick with it you will definitely find more fulfillment in your life. Harness that energy into something productive. Happy to help how I can. Stay focused and Godspeed.
     
  4. WilBil99

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    Thanks for the encouragement and support EquitableMove! I appreciate the offer of help, greatly appreciate it. You’ve been doing this a little longer than I have, how’s your recovery going? If struggling Do I post here for support or do you do that in a forum?
     
  5. I am sorry I was speaking of the website in general but the forum you can post in for struggles is :
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/rebooting-porn-addiction-recovery.2/

    There are other forums too so check them out and if you question where to post, read the rules to each one and it will tell you what belongs or doesn't. I started this NoFap the same day I started my counter and it has been utmost helpful. This is the second time in my life I have gone this long and I must say, this time is different. The struggle was tough until around day 16 or 17. Now I feel great and am a big believer in semen retention as it allows us to focus our energy in the things that matter. I have perspective on life now and will continue this NoFap journey as long as I need it. Something that has really helped when I have the urge to watch porn is coming here instead or writing it down on paper. By writing it down it allows me to put my urge in perspective. I explain to myself what I am feeling, why I feel it, why I don't want to feel, what I am going to do to not feel it. Usually by the time I am done writing it, I have lost the urge. If I haven't then I come here and start getting involved in the forums. It will brainwash you into hating fapping. If all else fails resetting back to 0 keeps me from going back. Sometimes you might find it hard to focus on anything but your urge so coming here will allow you to focus that energy into something positive. Do it long enough and it will get easier and easier. Now that I don't focus on porn I focus on healthy eating, working out, sleep, my spirituality and just life balance in general. It all builds on top of each other and it is just about getting the stone rolling. After all, a rolling stone gathers no moss.
     
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  6. Always be positive

    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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    This will help you a lot, watch this and say goodbye to urges forever

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/if-youre-struggling.232140/

    But however urges are sometimes attacking even if you are focused on something else, when i got rid of those 1% foods which increases urges and started enjoying 99% other beautiful foods it became so much easyer for me ^_^
     
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  7. WilBil99

    WilBil99 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much for your feedback and encouragement! This monkey has been on my back for more or less 25 years. The clarity and positivity I feel after just 1 full week no PMO (no P for 3 weeks, MO when flatline occurred to make sure I could, rookie mistake) is unreal. Really interested in semen retention and will read more about it. Thank you for being a support when I needed it. I never expected after years of isolating myself to feed my addiction I would benefit from the kindness of a stranger. I am truly humbled. Thank you.
     
  8. 25 years is a long time for sure but you can definitely do this! I never thought I would be able to stop and so far it is happening, it's unbelievable. You want it bad enough and will make it happen. For additional tips and information see the couple of posts from the other nofappers above. They will help and I am happy to help how I can. Godspeed Sir!
     
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  10. Welcome @WilBil99! Glad to have you here. Covenant Eyes has helped me a great deal as it is an accountability software online. There is a monthly fee, but it's WELL worth it.
     
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  11. IGY

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    I hear what you are saying, but please consider the importance of protecting your children from the spectre of porn. You know from experience that it will chew you up and spit you out. Of course, you don't want that for your boys or girls. :eek:

    I am not saying you have to disclose your own issues. Any parent would want to be involved in their child's sex education, and you can include the abyss of pornography in those chats/discussions. It is your call, but please consider this buddy.
     
  12. WilBil99

    WilBil99 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for message Igy! My children and my relationships are my motivators for maintaining my sobriety. They are not included or involved with it. I think there may have been a miscommunication. I have t had to delete my browser history for almost a month (because of fear of what may been seen) and that right there has brought me some freedom
     
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  13. WilBil99

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    I just went PMO free for the last 3 days that my wife has been out of town which is a HUGE fucking deal for me. Home alone always = PMO shitshow previously! Dudes if I can do this after 20 years of PMO addiction, anything is possible for each of you. Believe in yourself and take each day as it comes. Thanks for the community and support!
     
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  14. Hi @WilBil99, all the best to you! If you want to join 'The Matrix' challenge click here ---> 'The Matrix' <---
     

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