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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by rt01386, Jun 18, 2019.

  1. rt01386

    rt01386 Fapstronaut

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    I found this website through Reddit. I've never posted on Reddit, or any forum for that matter, because it's never been an interest of mine. I never wanted to spend time on forums or posting. Social media doesn't really do it for me either. I get depressed when I look at it because I get bored within minutes and immediately wish it gave me more fulfillment. I've tried becoming more involved on social media (Instagram mostly) by posting more. But again, it does nothing.

    The reason I'm saying this is because I want to show how much this forum means to me. For the first time in 10 years I feel like I actually am getting valid fulfillment from the internet through this page. It's too bad that it's because I have been addicted to porn, but I've never felt better than I do right now typing this. I feel like I've been given a second chance and I get to get my life back. I'm only 25 years old which is a better time than ever to become fully self aware of the incredible gift of life. I'll try not to ramble, but this is my story:

    I was a freshman in high school the first time I masturbated to porn. I was the age of 14. I will never forget the night it happened. I felt so guilty that I almost went and told my parents. To make matters worse, I forgot to do a very important school assignment because I was too distracted by my new discovery of internet porn. The next day when I found out I forgot my assignment, I called my mom to check me out of school. The guilt was even worse that day. I felt like such a terrible person because of the taboo that surrounded porn already. That should've deterred me from ever viewing porn again, but it didn't. I went back too many times to count in the next weeks, months and years to follow. There's no way I could ever even put a number on the times I've watched porn and masturbated in the nine years since that day.

    I found this website because I watched a Ted Talk on porn addiction. It's a great video I'll post the link below. I realized that I'm living in a bubble tainted by porn. I have been trying to breakout of a "rut", but the rut is so much more than that. I'm psychologically addicted to porn and that is what runs my life. I don't get a dopamine drip from anything else the way I do porn, until I found this website. I feel like this website is more powerful than porn because it doesn't just affect a tiny section of your brain in an extremely intense way. Instead, it touches tons of different areas! Areas that make me excited to get my life on track. I feel like the process of coming off of porn addiction is actually a stronger sensation than the feeling of porn/masturbation itself because it makes you feel good from head to toe. There is no guilt in rehabilitating from porn. Every day I don't use it is a good day and a solid step in the right direction to building my new, better life. The life I was supposed to have until porn stole it from me.

    Today is my first "official" day of no porn/masturbation. I am starting a reboot and can't wait to see what will come of it. I want to try to go for as long as possible with no relapse. I've tried in the past and always relapsed eventually. But now I'm at a point in life where the idea of relapse physically nauseates me. I don't want to be a person who isn't strong enough to get through. I want to beat porn more than I want to watch it.

    Thank you for reading. I will be looking into more forum categories after posting this and I'll start getting used to the site more. Thank you to everyone involved with this site and whoever created it to begin with because I honestly feel like this has changed my life (and maybe saved it). I plan to be an active user because porn addiction is an epidemic and only our conversations about it can drive change.

    Porn Addiction Ted Talk:



    Thank you again.
     
  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    - You can find the forum usage guide here
    - Here is we’re you will find a glossary of terms often used in the nofap community. Glossary
    - You can also find a guide to the basics of rebooting here
    - If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
  3. I am super grateful you looked into it! I did the same thing and the video you posted is one of the first I watched that led me here too and this is the first forum outside porn forums that I have been a part of so you have made the best decision of your life and it sounds like you are finally ready to put it behind you which is what it takes! This is the second time I have ever gone this long without porn and I hope this site will have the same effect on you. Now keep in mind, you will still have urges but what do you do? You remind yourself of the feeling you have right now and why you joined NoFap! How do you do this? By staying involved in the forums and holding yourself accountable. Whenever you have an urge, instead of letting the urge take over your body, you override your desire and come straight here! Another great way to do it is by writing down your urge and why you are experiencing it. Then you write down why you don't want to and why you won't. This will FORCE you to face the urge and by the time you are done, you will feel much better.

    By the way, the videos for anti-porn and nofap are freaking great! They help brainwash you to hating it and appreciating the feeling of not PMOing. I had a thread that contained many of these videos but it has been taken down for some reason and I am trying to figure out why but look up nofap videos, success stories etc.. By staying true you will build your self-control and focus your fapping energy on what matters in life. Stay focused and don't relapse even once. You know why right? Because you are done with it for good and look forward to your life of freedom. I am very excited for this decision of yours and I can't wait to see the story and the legacy you leave behind. Your story will go very far towards helping many others and your life will improve drastically. Count on it. Better yet, let the counter do it for you. Godspeed!
     
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  4. drac16

    drac16 Fapstronaut

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    Good to hear. I like your enthusiasm. You've already made a significant step [on your journey] by coming here.
     
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  5. rt01386

    rt01386 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the thoughtful response. I'm so glad to finally have a place to get actual fulfillment through the internet. I'm ready for the urges and to not act on them. There are so many others who are still so deeply lost in this addiction...to say that we are the tip of the iceberg is an understatement. I feel like I owe it to everyone who is still lost in it to give it my best shot so when they are ready to get out I can be there to positively influence them with my success stories. This is so much bigger than any individual, it's an epidemic. I used to be ashamed of considering myself a porn addict which really was my biggest problem. It's nothing to be ashamed of because of how potently addicting it is. It took us all by storm and now we're left cleaning up the pieces. Congrats to you as well for taking back control! Every day is a good day without PMO. We are very lucky to be out. Good luck on your journey!
     
  6. rt01386

    rt01386 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you. I'm so happy to have found this site. This addiction is out of our control and trickles down into other social medias. It is so widespread and effects so many people. It's nice to get such positive fulfillment from the internet for the first time in my life. It's too bad it was because of PMO, but that's part of my story now and it will be part of so many others from our generation. At least my story starts with me taking back control, rather than finishing with no control. I hope others will find a way out and sites like these are the foundation for that.
     
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  7. Yes you are right! A quote by one of my favorite songs Good Life by Zhu: "Life is all about you and not at all about you." By focusing on our improvement and life balance we are sure to help all those around us. No longer will we let our surroundings affect how we feel. The way we feel will determine our surroundings. Happy journey fellow Fapstronaut and Godspeed!
     
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  8. Always be positive

    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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    This will help you a lot, watch this and say goodbye to urges forever

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/if-youre-struggling.232140/

    But however urges are sometimes attacking even if you are focused on something else, when i got rid of those 1% foods which increases urges and started enjoying 99% other beautiful foods it became so much easyer for me ^_^
     
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  9. rt01386

    rt01386 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the reply I will check it out.
     

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