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Fuck this addiction

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Jun 18, 2019.

  1. I really hate this. I knlw this is a bullshit post guys but fuck this addiction. Once you think youve gotten past it, it comes back around and throws you to the damn ground. Whats the use of "getting back on the horse" when in the end you emd up relapsing again. Im angry, depressed, antisocial, & irrational when i dont use. Im gonna get off this website for a hot minute. Theres fucking girls pressing me for sex consostently and what, i tell them my darkest secret amd tell them i cant? Im fucking done, im outta here. Im not giving up in quitting porn but im just through with this stupid game. Im just done.
     
  2. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    Calm down. A relapse it not the end of the world. You are concious enough to know that what you did is wrong, it's not like you are back to square one.
     
  3. Khufu

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    take a bench an drink some Gatorade son an then go back out there an play the best game of your life
     
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  4. If you're tired of same process, break the cycle that leads you to the same position.

    No matter how intense urges are, its you who has a choice whether you'll relapse or not. Many people here miss the point, and this topic is the pure example of it. Many people here think that once they start a nofap journey that all they have to do is sit there and wait for days to pass, for a magic click to come in their head and suddenly they wont have any urges and they will get all these massive benefits that will turn them into superheroes.

    Here's the deal, what you guys need to realize is that nofap is a lifestyle, its about adapting to a lifestyle that won't include any porn, and/or masturbation. Adapting to such lifestyle takes a lot of persistence, discipline, determination etc. Most of guys here feel shitty because they watch porn, then they start a nofap journey and when their brain starts to rebalance itself, causing their emotions to go in a total shitstorm ... they end up watching porn because they feel bad and can't take it no more, so the process repeats. And that's why you don't see the point of getting back on the horse. The point of getting back on the horse is to learn what led you to a relapse and keep going through your journey, doing whatever it takes not to relapse again, ever. What if it happens ? Well, looks like you have a new lesson to learn. What if it happens again, and again, and again, and again ? Well eventually, you will learn that no matter what shitty situation you're into, whatever intense emotion you're feeling won't be worth relapsing for because you know you will feel even shittier after a relapse. Therefore, you will have to find a way to deal with such negative emotions or situations without using porn and masturbation at all.


    Many many of you guys here have totally twisted expectations on this nofap journey that leads nothing but frustration. You obsess too much over how many days you're clean(not necessarily a bad thing) but don't look on your overall progress, you're focused on chasing women, dick hardness, losing virginity, having sex, etc. NoFap is not a magic pill that's going to have all women chasing after you and you'll be on top of your game, and that's why you end up being frustrated you're just missing the point and underestimate the process of nofap lifestyle. This journey can be way simpler, but you guys keep on complicating it.

    However, i understand, i am a PMO addict myself, if i wasn't i would not be here, this is not easy and i know it really well, it takes a lot of sacrifices, pain, tears and whatnot i was stuck in same problem for years, but once i took a full responsibility for myself and stopped acting a victim i made real good progress in terms of getting rid of this addiction. No, i am not free from this addiction at all, but i made a huge progress over time, this progress taught me a thing or two it was and still is a bitter experience for me. I want you to learn what i did in easier way.
     
    Last edited: Jun 18, 2019
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  5. drbt444

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    Fantastic post! I am 30 days clean today and the above post directly to my truth.
     
  6. I think you never realized what addiction is and never took it seriously. Causal attempts at dealing with addiction are not effective and could have negative effects, like poor self esteem and depression.

    If you one can no not get himeself/herself to take a cold shower every morning, can not do daily workout, can not go for a 2mile walk every other day - all activities people know they need to do but lack the elusive "willpower" to actually do, how does one expect to use that "willpower" to deal with addiction? Considering that addiction is far more difficult to deal with than waking up 5am every day for a mile run.

    What you need to do is actually exercise your ability to get things done, if you say you will take a walk today - you take that walk and if you did not - you relapsed pretty much.
    Part of dealing with addiction if developing your ability to control yourself, and it is not something you learn how to do, it is something you train every day.
     

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