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About Edging

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Everything'sgonnabealright, Jun 15, 2019.

  1. Hi everyone.

    When I used PMO, I mostly edge for 1-2 hours probably and then O at the end.

    Can somebody tell me more about the effects of the edging compared to normal/short PMO session? How to recover faster?

    I had this strange feeling couple of times when I edged, the feeling like O, but didn't finish and still continued, but some parts of the body had feeling of something like electricity coming through, something like that. Anybody had experience something like this? Is it harmful? What has damaged?
     
  2. As far as the electric sensations, orgasm causes your nervous system to spaz out, temporarily causing your entire body to become more sensitive. I know what you mean about the o without o thing, it's probably got a lot to do with way exceeding the body's intended sexual function. It won't have damaged anything, but not doing it is a good idea. Weakening the nervous system never goes well.

    I don't know about comparing the two, I have done both extensively in the past, but in regards to recovery-- the only way out is through.
    Given that there's no set time period for recovery, the best you can do in regards to recovering 'faster' is to look after your body and mind by getting to the source of your problem with PMO, eg in my case it's largely an emotional coping mechanism, and work on that rather than focusing on the 'can't watch porn' part.
    Eating more wholefoods, particularly veg and things with omega 3/6 in appropriate ratios is a really good idea for fast-tracking healing. Think of how much stress constant PMO has put your whole body under; we've constantly and forcibly ejected our life-force in a very real way... Working to replace lost nutrients and regain stability in regards to bodily health is a reasonable hypothesis for accelerating recovery.

    The fun part (it isn't fun,) is the mind part. Most of the people on here have been trying to stop using porn for years. For the most part it takes a lot of work to find a sustainable mental attitude towards recovery, and unfortunately requires experimentation and nigh-on inevitable setbacks. In my experience, I've lost count of the amount of times I've been like, 'I've GOT IT! There's no way I'm going back now!' only to be hunched over my laptop a few hours later.

    The other thing I can recommend is to make this the main website you're accessing for the forseeable future. Join us, be one of us. An addict on their own is an addict prone to failure. Through the vast size of this community there are people who have experience in and can offer their perspective on every single aspect of porn and sex addiction there is. There are a lot of really, REALLY good people here who have made it part of their life's effort to help themselves and others through what can be an incredibly dark and isolating problem to live with.

    All the best, keep posting and keep doing good things.
     
  3. Thanks a lot. Gonna do some research probably about nervous system, if there is a way to weaken it, there should be a way to get back or even make it stronger, right..
    My biggest problem is that I suffer heavily from panic attacks, this is most disturbing thing because of it I can't find a job or start working,which sucks a lot.
     
  4. bfdet

    bfdet Fapstronaut

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    I post the following comments about edging quite frequently:


    Short version: DO NOT EDGE ! EVER !

    Edging is really bad. Edging trains your body and mind to expect and to need prolonged, often very intense, stimulation in order to reach O. That level of mental and physical stimulation doesn't happen with PIV relations. Guess what: when you attempt PIV, your body and mind don't receive the kind of stimulation it needs to O, instead your body responds with PIED and DE. Not good.

    Edging does NOTHING good, so stop. Easier said than done, but it is certainly NOT impossible and very much worth every bit of effort required to stop this damaging activity.

    For more information about edging, have a look at:

    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reb...masturbate-edge-or-watch-porn-without-orgasm/

    DO NOT EDGE. EVER !

    Consider starting right now on at least a 30 day hard mode reboot; it will begin to help you heal from the damages caused by edging. Your recovery may take longer - 90 days or even more. BUT... your body didn't get this way overnight, and it won't heal overnight. Allow both your body and your mind the time needed to heal. It won't be an easy journey, but the results will be worth every bit of the effort you put forth.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  5. Wow! Thanks dude. I can relate to all what you said.
    Okay,so my turning point was that I had a panic attack and everything in my life changed. I am now on my 105 day and gonna be continuing further more. The thing is that I had different mindset when I was doing PMO, I thought it was normal/good because every human being does that at sometimes, so I thought it's no harm, until I found it page and also I had a panic attack,so for me journey is quite easy, I don't have urges and desires to look into woman which is good, because a lot of the guys here have those hard moments, but I hope they will do alright and avoid relapses.
    I mean it's kind of strange, but example where I feel the same is when I am at sauna for example. There is a point where I can't be anymore because of the heat, but it's different. Amm, okay it's difficult to explain since my english isn't first language, but I will try.
    So there is probably receptors or smth that responsible for feeling good(maybe who releases those endorphins or smth,idk). And when I am jogging or at sauna I am trying to do more hard mode, well it's not really a hard mode, but now when I read what you wrote I kind of connect these things together. At first I was running at 5min/km when I started to run faster everytime, where I reached like 4.2min/km, it's kind of achievement for me, because I can just continue training and do better, but at the end, I don't feel good at all, after workouts or saunas, I feel super exhausted, kind of apathy, where I don't anything in my head, just no emotions and thoughts most of the time. Not even my muscles hurts because of the workout or you know after workout you kind of feel that happy/relaxed, but still can do stuff on daily basis.
    Do you think that for example I can't reach that "feel good" emotion in the sauna or jogging, because of that I was edging and was trying to reach prolonged O?
    I thought it's similar things, just P is worse, but I wasn't doing it that often, just once a week, so I thought that my recovery could be kind of fast. I am not expecting to heal after 1 month completely, but atleast I hoped that panic attacks would go away, you know.. I could start working and continue my reboot.
    What's PIV? What's DE?

    I am on my day 105. About the journey I am just going day by day basically, I don't feel urges or smth, one and most important thing for me is just to "recover", because I heavily suffer from panic attacks and it disturbs my life, I can't find a job and start working, which I really want for months now... Everyday I hope that I will wake up and those panic attacks not gonna bother me anymore and I can live normal life.
    Thanks again for your input,brother.
     
  6. You wanna do this serious? Then stop edging! If you wanna make this half hearted don't do it. You won't beat your addiction with half your strength!
     
  7. What you mean by saying "wanna do this serious?" Maybe you didn't read post before. I am on my 105 day now and still continuing. No urges, no relapses. I just want to recover.
     
  8. Sorry I thought that means it happend yesterday or something. Well I didn't read the next post. But this doesn't change the meaning of the message. Don't edge. :D
     
  9. bfdet

    bfdet Fapstronaut

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    Check out the glossary at the top of this page for definitions of abbreviations and terms that may be unfamiliar to you.

    Also, even though you've been around noFAP for a while, if you haven't already done so, please read the "Getting Started Guide" available on this site's home page. It includes a lot of information that you will find helpful as you work on your journey of healing.

    For your panic attacks, perhaps you should seek help from a medical professional to help with overcoming the attacks.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  10. No,no. I understand you. Thanks. I am not doing it.
     
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  11. This is a good conversation. Even with a little communication problem this didn't escalated. We solved the situation and the misunderstanding. I even feel closer to you now through this respect we have towards each other :)
     

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