Some thoughts after 240 days clean

Hros · Jun 3, 2019

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Please correct me if im wrong but based on my experience no PMO led to more depressions and anxiety. What is your thought about this ?
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In my experience, people, me included, often use PMO as a way to "deal" with negative emotions like sadness, loneliness, anger, etc. However, PMO doesn't actually help with any of those. Instead, you're just pushing them away. But all of those bad emotions are still there. No thing's been fixed. So when you quit PMO, all those negative emotions come flooding back.
When you quit PMO, you need to learn to deal with those emotions the right way.

Fenix Rising · Jun 4, 2019

Hros said: ↑

In my experience, people, me included, often use PMO as a way to "deal" with negative emotions like sadness, loneliness, anger, etc. However, PMO doesn't actually help with any of those. Instead, you're just pushing them away. But all of those bad emotions are still there. No thing's been fixed. So when you quit PMO, all those negative emotions come flooding back.
When you quit PMO, you need to learn to deal with those emotions the right way.
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Amen to that my friend. It has been like reading my own story. I'm severely depressed and anxious right now being in "monk mode" for 5 months, but I still believe abstaining from PMO is the right thing to do. People don't realize that chemicals released during O literally have sedative and anxiolytic-like effects (read oxytocin and vasopressin studies). If you binge PMO multiple times a day it's the same thing as taking anxiolytics/sedatives in the form of pills. You're still suffering from anxiety and depression, you just self medicate the pain, while root problems stay unaddressed. Once PMO is removed from your life, you have have no choice but to address the problems head on or they become so unbearable that lead to relapse.

Deleted Account · Jun 11, 2019

Hros said: ↑

Hello all,
I've spent the last week or so doing something I haven't done so much lately, which is sort of binge-reading Nofap posts. I used to do it a lot during my first 90 days, then I eased down to coming here only occasionally.
Anyway, I've been inspired to share a few tips that've helped me, including with a huge bought of urges that I had recently:

Keep your eye on the prize. When I say this, I don't mean choosing a specific goal (say, 30 days, for example), but really imagining the big one: being PMO-free for the rest of your life. It's not just about counting days and just waiting to beat your record or whatever. It's about fully expecting to live a good, clean life from here on out.

When you have strong urges, concentrate on the fact that if you relapse, it doesn't just mean losing your streak. It means having to wait all that time all over again. We're a very impatient generation. To even try imagining waiting 30, 60, 90 days again - seems practically like eternity... So might as well not PMO, right?

People sometimes write about how they're spending too much time on the site, but I believe that when all else fails - it's better that you just surf these forums until your urges weaken. At least here you can help and receive help, along with concentrating on bettering yourself, unlike other, more popular sites out there.

Walking. Anxiety, emotional problems, anger, etc, are some major causes of both relapsing and just wandering around moody all the time. Several years ago, my doctor suggested I take walks for my mood. Only this year I started listening to her, and it turns out that simply walking is amazing! Breathe in the fresh air, let your thoughts just sink in, don't listen to anything - let it just be you there. No distractions. It's time to get to know yourself better. Granted, you need to do this several times. But after awhile, I expect you'll start feeling a bit better about yourself.

In terms of really changing your life while rebooting - turns out it's about taking risks. Scary ones, even. I say this as someone whose shyness has often practically paralyzed me (This goes way beyond social anxiety). When I say "risk-taking", I mean that if your brain says: "This is crazy, don't do it" - then do it.

To conclude, I'd like to say how much I appreciate all the people here who've been so helpful and supportive, and how amazing I think it is that though we all disagree here on a lot of issues (politics, religion, etc) - when it comes to this issue, we can all agree this has to end.
Wishing everyone the best of luck on your journey.
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Great post brother.Congrats for 8 month.

Indurian · Jun 11, 2019

oppason said: ↑

Do you have any benefits after no PMO for more than 8 months ? Please correct me if im wrong but based on my experience no PMO led to more depressions and anxiety. What is your thought about this ? Others please feel welcome to respond as well. I need some kind of enlightenment here.
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Fapping masks underlying anxieties and depression that you have not dealt with. When you stop fapping these issues (unpleasant as they can be) come to the surface. This allows you to experience the pain you were hiding from. Once they are dealt with you will feel much better, and ironically they will no longer be a trigger for looking at porn

Deleted Account · Jan 19, 2020

Congratulations!!! Almost 500 days, and also very beautiful and helpful post!!! Vamos !!!

hyper88 · Jan 19, 2020

"when it comes to this nofap, we can all agree this has to end"

quit@porn · Jan 20, 2020

Hros said: ↑

Hello all,
I've spent the last week or so doing something I haven't done so much lately, which is sort of binge-reading Nofap posts. I used to do it a lot during my first 90 days, then I eased down to coming here only occasionally.
Anyway, I've been inspired to share a few tips that've helped me, including with a huge bought of urges that I had recently:

Keep your eye on the prize. When I say this, I don't mean choosing a specific goal (say, 30 days, for example), but really imagining the big one: being PMO-free for the rest of your life. It's not just about counting days and just waiting to beat your record or whatever. It's about fully expecting to live a good, clean life from here on out.

When you have strong urges, concentrate on the fact that if you relapse, it doesn't just mean losing your streak. It means having to wait all that time all over again. We're a very impatient generation. To even try imagining waiting 30, 60, 90 days again - seems practically like eternity... So might as well not PMO, right?

People sometimes write about how they're spending too much time on the site, but I believe that when all else fails - it's better that you just surf these forums until your urges weaken. At least here you can help and receive help, along with concentrating on bettering yourself, unlike other, more popular sites out there.

Walking. Anxiety, emotional problems, anger, etc, are some major causes of both relapsing and just wandering around moody all the time. Several years ago, my doctor suggested I take walks for my mood. Only this year I started listening to her, and it turns out that simply walking is amazing! Breathe in the fresh air, let your thoughts just sink in, don't listen to anything - let it just be you there. No distractions. It's time to get to know yourself better. Granted, you need to do this several times. But after awhile, I expect you'll start feeling a bit better about yourself.

In terms of really changing your life while rebooting - turns out it's about taking risks. Scary ones, even. I say this as someone whose shyness has often practically paralyzed me (This goes way beyond social anxiety). When I say "risk-taking", I mean that if your brain says: "This is crazy, don't do it" - then do it.

To conclude, I'd like to say how much I appreciate all the people here who've been so helpful and supportive, and how amazing I think it is that though we all disagree here on a lot of issues (politics, religion, etc) - when it comes to this issue, we can all agree this has to end.
Wishing everyone the best of luck on your journey.
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Came to the forum to find something good to think upon and I read your post... It's a delight...... One lapse means wait of 30 days really. That's pathetic......

Thanks for the post

Hros · Jan 20, 2020

quit@porn said: ↑

Came to the forum to find something good to think upon and I read your post... It's a delight...... One lapse means wait of 30 days really. That's pathetic......

Thanks for the post
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Well said.

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