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Bad Escort Experiences

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by GA93JDeereboy, Dec 12, 2018.

  1. Peiskos

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    I agree that sleeping with an escort won’t prevent you from ever loving or being loved by someone in a relationship in the future except for one small point, contracting an STD from an escort can ruin your life so it’s certainly a danger you risk. I couldn’t imagine being with my girlfriend now if I had some STD, it just wouldn’t happen.

    Your story is similar to mine, I saw a bunch of escorts but now I have a girlfriend of 2 years with a healthy sex life, just want to warn people of the risks of contracting something, even with a condom it’s never 100% I was lucky I didn’t catch anything but others won’t be as lucky especially if seeing escorts is something they do for a long time.
     
  2. My experience was in Thailand. After reading my friend's long email to our friends about his "amazing" experience going to these hotels and selecting the girl and having her wash her etc, i was hypnotized that this is something i must try and enjoy.

    Not long after reading about it I ended up in thailand, I went out for days withholding sex because I wanted to make it special and good - but at the end, ended up at this place where you get to pick a girl - they call it a fish thank - 30 girls or so and you get to choose who you want to be with - then they take you in the hotel and they wash you in the bat and then sex.

    Long story short - this sounds really tempting on a theoretical level - but experientially it was the most boring, depressing and unpleasant experience.

    I cant describe why this is - I think the only way one could really enjoy this is to do a shit load of hardcore drugs - like coke and meth - then this would be a fun experience before the nightmare of coming off those drugs kicks in which makes you wish you were dead.

    So my experience was i picked the girl, it felt really weird and awkward, it was like having sex with a Robot or a human who is dead inside, and at the same thing I was feeling an inner shame for using my social status and money to support a business that is de-humanizing women. of course, I didnt think about it like that then - i would just pretend like this is normal because everyone else was doing it.

    I find that having sex with a prostitute or escort does not work very well because there is a DIRECT conflict between my intentions and her intentions.

    When I have sex I want to connect to her heart and make the experience as long as possible to please her, but she wants to finishi me as fast as possible and get the fuck back to the next guy so she can cover her rent money.

    In other words, we want to have sex with someone who we have genuine affection with we feel united with another human, and we experience intimacy and we forget about our ego for a few minutes - but when we have sex without love, our ego becomes stronger and our suffering becomes stronger.


    Then my journey continued in other countries - the illusion of fun in the next girl continues.

    I met many girls one thing I almost fall in love with one of the girls and it was the most terrifying experience of my life because the condom came off and nearly gave me a heart attack.

    Another time I had a huge bad trip thinking this girl was going to call all her gangster friends to rob me - and she wouldn't leave my hotel - I had to literally pick her up and remove her - and then i packed and escaped the city lol It was so freakin scary - I felt like i'm in a really bad movie.


    Every time I went through these experiences I felt an intense sense of fear/anxiety and at the same time thrill and excitement of doing something that i'm not supposed to do - I think part of us loves a challenge and to break the rules.

    I'm learning that is one of our needs - to face death. So now i try to meet that need through public speaking and sharing myself more authentically on social media.
     
  3. Hey bro I highly recommend you do this - you will not only help others but heal yourself. I have done this about drugs and steroids - but may be i should take my own advice and do it about sleeping with girls over seas. There is a sense of fear of what others will think but i find most people respect you for having the courage to try to help others from suffering.
     
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  4. To be honest, I had really good experiences where I could imagine to have a relationship with some of those girls I met and they seemed to be as interested in me.
    I also had really bad encounters, even though they were only few and I did it just because I thought I had to do it, no matter what.
    Thanks to God, I didn't catch any STD which I actually deserved.
    I also wasted a lot of money and had that guilt following most of the times.
    Not that I worry about it, but still, the worst aspect of it is that if I'll ever meet a girl which God chose for me, I have to tell her that I had visited more than 40 prostitutes...
    Well, unless she was a prostitute in the past.
     
  5. Don't worry bro she will have her own stories to tell you too lol the past is but a memory it has no reality the main point is that you have evolved beyond it and those experiences were a necessary part of your evolution so you can have a chance at real love and intimacy. :)
     
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  6. Thank you for your kind words.
    As I said, I don't worry about it and I'd rather overcome lust completely to the point that I'd not care about women at all than to have a wonderful wife on my side.
    Meanwhile, I met Someone else Whom I was looking for all the time.
     
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  7. Jackb97

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    Sounds like the worst flavoured water ever.
     
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  8. Jorics

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    i went to a escorts site and paid a girl to lose my virginity ( i am 22 yo) last weekend. I couldn't get hard, my dick was not responding, she tried everything but it didn't work. Now i am somewhat traumatized that if i fuck a girl my dick will not respond. Those were some of the most akward moments of my life
     
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  9. Mattsfreedom

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    I went to a girl on backpage once. She said i'll let you fuck me doggystyle so I jump up on the bed and start going to town, I look down and she has toilet paper all over her butt. Best looking escort I had ever been with though.

    Another time I invited a girl from backpage to my house. I forgot to lock the front door and while we were going to town on the sofa my mother walks in to bring me groceries both of us were butt naked. That's very painful to tell because I know my mother knew she was a prostitute and I had the money laid out on the coffee table for the girl. It was a very embarrassing moment.

    Last 2 stories happened at a fleabag motel in mobile Alabama. I was drinking some beers in the hotel room and I meet the hotel guest next to me and we start drinking and smoking crack and he tells me he knows were to find some hookers. So off we go at 2AM in the morning picking girls up and having sex with them down dead in streets. One of them in particular after having oral sex with I remember telling her to get the fuck out and threw a handful of change out onto the sidewalk. The last girl of the night we brought back to the hotel room and smoked a lot more crack and had sex three more times with her. It was probably 10 am now and informed them I had to head back to NC. I decided in my stupor that she was a really cool chick and could come with me and stay at my house and get her a bus ticket back home later. Well about at Georgia state line my car breaks down and this girl starts really freaking out. We get the car fixed and stop at a truck stop to let her go to the bathroom as soon as she went inside I floored it out of there never knew what happened to her.

    During those stories my life was a complete wreck and mess. I am not that same person and it pains me to write those stories because those are true and peoples lives that I interfered with and treated poorly. This is were sex addiction can lead you and far worse places.
     
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  10. GA93JDeereboy

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    I'm thinking about going public. There will always be haters and nay sayers but in the US here, it is not really spoken of or talked about. I've told some people already. So I may share my experience to help people.
     
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  11. if you do let me know and we can exchange videos lol
     
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  12. the awakening

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    why is that? i'm wondering because not so long ago i was really close to pay for having sex with an escort. and i'm still virgin by the way.
     
  13. GA93JDeereboy

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    I just felt so bad. I could have done alot better. The whole scenario was wrong. When you lose your virginity awakening dont give it up on something like I did.
     
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  14. GA93JDeereboy

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  15. Sometimes your penis helps you out- do you really want to have a great sexual experience with a hooker?
    It may have been nerves, your conscience, or watching too much pornography.
     
  16. the awakening

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    thank you for your response i've read a few people saying the same things about their first time with prostitute. To be frank with you
     
  17. hardowner

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    My first time was with a prostitute when I was 18. My friends had to make me drunk in order to make me approach her. When I could barely walk, one of my friends grabbed me and pushed me on the girl. Everybody was laughing. I don't remember many things after this. Just dancing like crazy and trying to make out with her in public. She got mad with me. I don't remember many things about what happened in the hotel room. I wasn't very hard, but I penetrated her. I couldn't finish, so she quit. I paid her and she left...
    I was 100% vulnerable, she could have had unprotected sex with me, I'm lucky she asked me for a condom. She could have even taken all my money, cellphone, clothes and leave. I left the hotel room door unlocked, so anyone could have entered and leave anytime. I don't remember what happened my first time. I hardly remember how she looked like...

    I don't want to make this post long and boring, so I will say that I had sex with two more prostitutes the following months facing PIED. Later, I met my exGF that was a virgin. I couldn't do anything to lose my virginity with her. I still had PIED. After breaking up with her, I had sex with one more prostitute. I got a pill a few hours before, so she was impressed by my erection. The action was so cold and boring. I didn't enjoy anything, apart from the fact that I stayed hard all the time. I didn't ejaculate...

    Will I ever date a prostitute again? Who knows, maybe. I hope not. I want to find a girlfriend to love and care about...
     
  18. Xiandan

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    I have a comment on another kind of sex workers. You may have read about KTV hostesses in Asia.

    In many KTV clubs, girls are available for selection. These girls are paid by the hour, and what they do is sit with the guy for those few hours singing and chatting with them, drinking, kissing and hugging.

    For many businessmen in Asia, KTV clubs is part of doing business. We entertain our customers, and are entertained in return by our suppliers. It is cheap fun, 6-7 hundred can buy a case of beer (bottles), 3-4 girls for 3-4 hours.

    So, many girls work in KTV, because they make money. Mostly it’s sitting, with touching and kissing. Taking a girl to a hotel costs extra. Many girls take the option of bedding the man when the night is done. For the money, because it’s like a bonus. Many of these women are aged 21 to 30. For a man in his forties, having a beautiful girl almost half my age wanting to be with me, it really strokes the ego.

    Some go to the extent of being a girlfriend to ensure their customers return. I know because I was one of these men.

    It is very different from escorts or prostitutes or massages with happy endings. For escorts, once you choose, you’re on a timer and you know end of the night is sex. The KTV girl could refuse sex, and so it’s the trill of the chase, all night flirting, if successful, yes sex, if no, then no sex.

    For months I thought I found someone who loved me. We had chats and video calls and had a very much gf feel. Watching her without make up, cooking or eating, it makes the feeling beyond that of an escort. Drinking with her and her friends after the club closes and they’re in their pajamas, it makes me think I was someone special to her.

    In those months I PMO regularly, and it messed with my mind.

    I am not vilifying these girls, you have to know they come from a really poor and messed up background and are just trying to make money to escape these kind of work. They often have debts of a few thousand to the KTV boss, and they need to pay money for board and food.

    The KTV I frequent, the hostesses are Vietnamese, and many are mothers. Yes they might be 20-21, but they have kids 3-5 years old. Some are married, so the forbidden fruit of bedding another man’s wife is there. Their looks are 7/10, and therein lies the problem. They’re average looking and makes one think, there could be a possibility of something else. If it’s 9/10 or 8/10, then maybe I would think it’s impossible.

    I thought I was able to rescue her and thought she was different. I spent a lot of money thinking that there could be something. Luckily I woke up from the illusion, partially it was also because she decided to stop, maybe because she found someone richer, younger or she felt guilty. I do know I felt real feelings from her one time.

    If you are ever in this situation, you have to know, they sit with different men *every* night getting groped. The only rest day is when they are sick. There is nothing new in men they have not seen. This also messes up their mind.

    The one I thought loved me, she also went out on dates with other customers and possibly have overnights with other customers. It can make a man crazy thinking all sort of thoughts. Together with PMO, it can really make some crazy fantasies.

    Having visited the KTV club the past year, I have seen the girls who act like they’re not for sale, and you cannot kiss or hug them. They only allow their regulars to do that after a few visits. Recently I have seen these very same not-for-sale girls bed one of our customers on the first night he chose her to sit with him. So money is a powerful motivator.

    So yea, for the past 5-6 months I was madly in love/infatuated with a KTV hostess. She was all I could think of every hour, even when she is not with me.

    In total, my damage is recoverable. I spent 3-4 thousand Singapore dollars visiting her, and buying gifts. I don’t regret it for a moment. She was there when I was at my lowest. She was there to listen to all my problems. When she left, I woke up, and decided to stop PMO, so i am grateful she helped made me want to change for the better.

    So for those guys who happen to visit KTVs and been in a similar situation, you have to know, these girls have it tough, and they need to pay back their debts. It takes lots of understanding of their situation. You may be dropped in favor of someone else, if that’s the case, just pucker up and move on.
     
  19. DiFaaprio

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    Literally the exact same as me, age and all. if it helps i dont really feel bad unless i overthink but it was probably something our younger selves NEEDED to do, will chalk it up as a horny young boy doing horny young boy things
     
  20. I visited UK last year. Because of my PM I fantasizing on being with escort. I browse the site and choose a girl. However when I meet her, she was far different from the pic. I didnt have sex with her. Thankfully not because if I did it perhaps I will contracted some kind of STD.

    I can relate with all of the story, especially about the girl only want money. Thankfully God still save me.
     

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