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This is probably a fetish. Fetishes often feel alien, because they are effects of escalation.

 

Hi 19m, I'm new here, but I would say:

1) Its ok if you do like things like that.
2) From what I have read others saying, yes, porn can make you get bored of what your watching and need something more extreme and start watching things that you dont think should interest you! things you never want to do in real life, but your looking for a bigger excitement. If you think this is the case then I think giving up porn should help you over time.

Keep avoiding the porn. Good luck

 

19m, I should also say - I have also watched porn in the past and MO'ed to it that was of gay, bi, cross, and similar. Its not anything Im into. I was partly curious if I'm honest.. The stuff I wanted actually didn't offend me at the time, its just also nothing I would actually partake in my self. I do think I had that period of trying watching other porn like that because I was bored of other porn.. which I guess is a red flag that porn is not doing good things.
So yeh, dont freak out and just try cutting out the porn

 

hey man, I would also agree with jimparker. In society we're so conditioned that we have to be either this or that, homo or hetero - but the truth of the matter is that human sexuality is fluid and you can't categorize yourself in just one way. We always want to feel like we're normal in relation to rest of society and that's why we sometimes try to suppress our feelings and emotions, which in the long term is detrimental for your mental health. I'm definitely heavily leaning towards hetero, but I've no problem appreciating guys or whatever, I even experimented a bit some years ago when I was finding out more about myself.

Porn can be bad in its own way, and as earlier mentioned, it can make you need go more and more extreme to become aroused, but kinks and fetishes aren't inherently bad. Embrace it. Sometimes porn can help you find out what you like or don't like - it has definitely helped me, even though I also came through with the decision that porn had more negative side-effects than good ones.

 

We all have to set our own goals, but what I have read and what I believe is that if your trying to recover from the effects of too much PMO then you should really not watch porn even if not masturbating. Watching it will still give excitement and will leave your brain needing more. I would suggest setting yourself a reasonable period of time not even watching it.. but congrats in the 19 days so far without MO