Virgin with premature éjaculation

Hello Mistercroquant

Healing will take time. Please be patient.

The first thing that you absolutely must do is to get your brain working properly again. Commit to never again looking at porn. I know that that sounds scary.

Then try the 90-day reboot. It'll be hard, I know, so do it for all the right reasons.

During this time, stop looking for a girlfriend. That can wait until your brain — and penis — have started to work properly again.

Until you are fully off porn and fully off addictive masturbation, you will be unable to see women in a mature way. They'll pick up on that, unconsciously, and it will do you no favours.

 

Its gonna be hard but I would recomend getting a girl.You don't have to sex with her just have a normal relationship kiss touch ,share feeling .This is really needed because if you are virgin then you'r brain is wired to porn very strong . That's why younger guys have hard time with this because they didn't experience any sex and their brain only knows about porn so that when PIED comes.

 

You should not touch yourself, if you ejaculate prematurely. You can train it. Stay away from masturbation. How long can you make it?

 

Just slow down when you ate about to cum

 

Slow down, when shortly before you cum. Train it. On-and-off. Read about EDGING , train it at home. I can do this very well. Unfortunately I'too far away.
Otherwise consult your doctor. There are certain SSRIs on the market, that will help you. Since those are lifestyle medicines, you have to pay for them.

 

Hey brother I suffer from it too. Let me tell you my quick story and what you should do. So I lost my virginity when I was 15. I loved this girl, she was a lot like me in many ways and we had lots in common. I adored her and she adored me. Everything was perfect until we had sex. I literally lasted 1 second (I don’t mind if you laugh). I don’t think she really cared because we were in love but I ended it with her in case she cheated on me.
My theory on why I have this problem is simple. I always try and pmo as fast as possible which has rewired my brain to do so and when I had sex I came instantly, I had no control over it. Some guys try to last as long as they can and can never ejaculate during sex.

 

So please do not have sex. Wait until your brain is rewired from all the damage and then get a wife and do it. Trust me brother.

 

You don't just ejaculate, you éjaculate.

Very French of you, Monsieur.

No but seriously- don't edge. Idc what those 2 guys above say, take my advice here- edging will absolutely wreck your body.

Just let the recovery process happen. Give it a few more weeks and then try to get a girl. (Don't test it by doing the deed yourself unless masturbation isn't an issue for you).

Good luck.

 

I learned to last during sex by edging. I am master in edging. There are 3 tricks:
1) If you fell, you are about to come, don't hold it back and do not squeeze. Take a deep breath and open, relax, the more you fight against premature ejaculaton, the worse it gets. Lern to stop the orgasm. You can get control over yourself! Keep your fingers off your dick! Don't dare to touch it!
2) Learn to remain unsatisfied. Remain unsatisfied. I try to squeeze my shaft in order no not let cum out of my dick. I backfire, nobody takes notice of that. It hurts, but this way you don't actually show, you are cumming. You will feel terrible, but this way you remain hard, you can keep on fucking and you will finally shoot 1 meter wide.
3) Fabian7 is great. He's on day 29. My respect! I'm bisexual. I prefer man. I love to show off though. I had an amazing experience when I had several threesomes with a couple. There was one guy I competed with. I hate to be a loser. That guy and I duelled in who can last longer. I have strong willpower and I would never give up. We used poppers. At first, we kissed together. I thought, I'd cum within a second. My willpower to be better than the other gay gave me the strength to hold it back, for an hour. I love to compete, to be good, better, and best.

Edging has one advantage: you lern to keep your orgasm under control and to really load your dick. I love not to masturbate, but to shoot an impressive load. That way I tell my partner, how horny he/she makes me.

I don't know i you understand me. My native language is German, not English. Of you have any questions, feel free to contact me.

 

I agree with fabian7. It's a matter of self conditioning and training. At school, I had a rival and we competed in who can get off faster. I trained myself to make it in 45 seconds. In the US, my "friend" he was really a friend. I miss him. We jerked off together after training. He wouldn't cum, until I did. We learned to cum simultaneously. After that, I didn't care, I just came. I didn't care for my partner. Years later, I had to change my habits again. In my longest relationship, my partner requested the opposite. I had to train lastinging for 2 days continuous sex and I was asked to shoot 2 meters wide. I did it. On a techno parties, I had to f.... in the toilet. I made it. In 2016 I found my man. He loved to f... me until i came, hands off. I made it. I had a short relationship with a guy, who came prematurely. I couldn't handle it. I had to train again. Quote fabian7 "I literally lasted 1 second (I don’t mind if you laugh)". There is nothing to laugh about. I experienced, that as soon as as put a condom on my partner's dick, he ejaculated. It was embarrassing. In all of my life, I always tried to do my best to please my partner. Please, my fellows, always be tough. Don't think about yourselves, but think about your partner. Sex is not about your pleasure, it's about pleasing your partner(s). I feel gifted to have found an accountability partner in this forum. I'm german, I'm loyal. I do not expect anything. I can only GIVE loyalty. Whatever you decide.... your decision. fabian7.

 

Shouldn't be a problem in a relationship. Round 2 dingding and all that.

 

I think once my brain is rewired it won’t be an issue.

 

Learn to control yourself. Think calming thoughts. Concentrate on the woman's eyes, not her body.

Most important:

• Breathe deep and slow.
• Learn how to relax your kegel muscles.

It takes practice, but it's well worth it.

 

I have a similar problem of PE. How are you planning to counter it??? Thanks