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I can't take it anymore. This addiction is killing me.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by sarafrazak, May 29, 2019.

  1. sarafrazak

    sarafrazak Fapstronaut

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    I'm 17. I've been fapping since 6-7 years. I really wanna quit doing this. It has actually affected the way I think. Any girl comes over to my class, I'm already imagining her naked. Some girl touches me, bam, the next thing I'm doing is imagine having sex with her. I can't focus on my daily routines, studies etc. I don't feel like doing anything after I've fapped. And I JUST Fapped to pics of a hot girl in my class where her clevage was visible. And that too, twice on the same day. I feel really fucked up and bad. And now a days when I fap, I'm close to an orgasm in just 4-5 mins. Please help me out guys. I really wanna get outta this. Your help would be much, much appreciated.
     
  2. Hello, it's look like you need reboot. Your brain can recover if you are ready to stop PMO.
     
  3. sarafrazak

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    For sure man. That is what I've been trying to do every single day. Resisting myself. But I just can't. I end up doing PMO everyday. Even if I skip one day, I'd masturbate 2 times the next day. This is really fucked up man.
     
  4. zayneyboy

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    Bro i know exactly how you fucking feel it tough real tough but i have been clean for about a month now so if i can do it you can. The trick is don't act on emotion good or bad know what you want and stick to it. You will fail but don't make that deter you because it happens just don't think its all over after. Know yourself first and foremost and think of what you think will help you.
     
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  6. 5adn8m8

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    Daily meditation and writing journals can help in a great deal. You might not even want to do these things but it's another side of PMO. You don't have any motivation to do anything at all. You have to fight this by practicing writing and meditation on a daily basis. I'm sure you feel quite better after a week and when you're able to see the huge difference that these simple activities make, you'll stick to them. good luck.
     
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  7. sarafrazak

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    Thank you so much bro. I sure will try out these things
     
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  8. sarafrazak

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    I'll do check it out. Thank you so much
     
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    If you haven't already done so, please read the "Getting Started Guide" available on this site's home page. It includes a lot of information that you will find helpful as you start your journey of healing. Also have a look at the "Glossary" on the top of this page for definitions of abbreviations and terms that may be new to you.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  10. Hey Man, you are 17 your life is about sex pretty much. I am not sure if you know but at this age your hormones are going to drive you nuts and wanting sex all the time with everything, anyone, anywhere is normal.
    Masturbation is normal and at your age with your sex drive necessary. Do not beat yourself down, this is what happens with allot of teenagers at this age
     
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  11. SuperFan

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    If you really want to stop, you'll take action to help you stop. You'll block porn on your phone and computers, and give the passcodes to someone else. You'll find a real, flesh-and-blood accountability partner (or two or three) so you're not fighting it by yourself (NoFap is great, but nameless, faceless people on the internet from thousands of miles away can't hold you accountable like real-life friends). You'll educate yourself on the brain chemistry of porn addiction and how harmful it is. You'll envision your ideal future and think about it each time you want to use PMO.

    Basically, it comes down to this: if you're truly sick of this, and if you truly believe that it's ruining your life, you'll do everything in your power to stop. If you make excuses about why you can't install a filter, or why you can't tell anyone else about this struggle, then you might have to experience far more pain before you finally get to the point where you can.
     
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  12. sarafrazak

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    Damn man. This is probably the most inspiring message I've read for stopping all of this. For real man. If I really wanna get rid of it, I'll do whatever I can to do so. Thats what it is. I know I should not give in to urges, keep going without fapping till it gets a habit, but can't actually get in this routine. A part of me, doesn't wanna stop fapping. That 5-10 secs of pleasure is all I seek whenever I switch to porn. I truly know, its effects and have to get outta it.

    And true man, we're seeking help from nameless, faceless people, just to relieve our guilt w/ someone, who actually aren't gonna be there full time. Get you bro. Thank you so much man. I just relapsed after a 9 day streak and felt so terrible. Reading this gave me so much motivation to keep going. Thanks a ton man.
     
  13. sarafrazak

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    Get ya bro. But I don't get girls. I just keep fapping. Having sex would've been totally different. I know hormones are driving me crazy, but I don't wanna give in to them, dont wanna make this a habit. And I've been fapping for 5-6years. Kills my time and motivation to do anything. I don't wanna just fap and have the will to do nothing man.
     
  14. sarafrazak

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    Thank you so much man. I hope you're doin good with your streak. I just relapsed after a 9 day streak and felt terrible. This will keep me going. Thanks a lot!
     
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  15. zayneyboy

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    Its normal bro just keep going you got this.
     
  16. Fightyourlowerself

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    Hey man,

    One tip from me - There is a strong correlation between overeating (or eating certain foods like meat / junk food like cakes, chocolate etc) and the increase in sexual urges

    If you are struggling, I would think about what you have just eaten or try fasting and see how it affects you.
     
  17. Godsonftw

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    Porn is the #1 killer of men. It’s a suicidal death.

    So get mad.... mad because porn kills your confidence.. mad because it takes away your time and energetic that could be used for your growth. And mad because it’s a distraction in your life. And will ALWAYS be a distraction even until your an old man because it doesn’t care about your age, sex or race.

    Genesis 4:7
    sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.
     
  18. SuperFan

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    It's important to be gentle with yourself. If you're really struggling with an addiction, then it's hijacking your brain chemistry and it's going to be difficult to stop. But you can be gentle with yourself while still being aggressive and intentional about your recovery.

    Just find whatever tools will help mitigate the problem. For me--I've got a close friend who has the restrictions passcode to my phone. My phone is on a hard lock-down ... my apps do 95% of what I need them to do, but I can't get on a browser on my phone, and that prevents me from viewing porn. And even though I waste too much time on Instagram and Tinder (an app which honestly I shouldn't even be using), I just learned that I can set time limits on those. I'll just have my friend unlock my phone, and then I'll set the time limits, and then she'll lock it again. It's just about making my best life as achievable as possible, using the tools at my disposal.

    I hear you. When you've depended on something for relief for so long, it's really hard to part with. Feels almost like losing a limb. But in the end, you know it's never just 5-10 seconds. Addiction will always take more time than you want to give and cost more than you want to pay.
     
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  19. yyz33

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    I would try and date girls. Start talking to girls and date them; have fun. Get comfortable interacting with them. At that age that is what you should be doing. Learning how to interact with and attract girls so that you are able to have healthy relationships with them. Just don't get any pregnant and don't get an std. Looking back, regardless of whether or not things went smoothly when talking to girls, you will not regret a single moment where you dated. Even if you get your heart broken, you will not regret having gone for the girl in the first place. You will look back on that experience when you are older and be happy that you had that experience. These urges will not really go away. You are human and you are 17. But channeling them through porn is a massive waste of energy and time, whereas if you channel that to interacting with girls and perusing other means of accomplishment (a job, creative projects, etc.) you will be a lot happier. Girls, accomplishment, and friends should be your focus.
     

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