I am married with 1 child and I am rebooting

Today is my 7/90 days. Probably the hardest one up to now. I have a big temptations to relapse, but I will continue to fight

 

Thanks a lot. Those are the messages that I really need in this moment

 

Keep it up! It gets easier from here. Each time you say NO you become stronger, wiser, and more of who you were meant to be as a person, husband, and father.

My boyfriend is 10 months in recovery and he describes it as having his third eye opened!

 

Thanks for the encourangment It goes better now.

10 months of complete chastity ? Or 10 months without masturbation ?

 

10 months of no porn or porn subs.
There were a few instances of masturbation (phone sex with me while I was traveling, masturbation to photos of me). I would say the last time he masturbated was in July. So about 10 months of that.

We’ve had sex since the start of the reboot.

 

Day 8: this morning I fell calm and with more energy compared to previous days. I am also not so horny and this is probably the first time that it happens

This morning I also removed two old Twitter and Instagram accounts, that I used in the past to have erotic conversations about foot fetish. Unfortunately I had also experience with this kind of addiction. I hope that this time I am on the right way to recover completely. My wife and my child are a strong motivation for me and I want to live my life as best as I can.
I am very determined

 

Is it phone sex with the partner or masturbating on the partner's photo considered anyway a relaps during the rebooting time ? Should I avoid this kind of activity in my 90 days ?

 

To be honest, I am aiming at 90 days of no PM. If I will be able to realize 90 of no PMO it would be fantastic, but I am not sure to be able not having sex with my wife for 90 days

 

Depends on what you are aiming for. My partner wanted to rid himself of his P habit, realign his mindsets towards women (not objectifying, not always craving “extremes”), and get closer to me and become more sexual. He suffered from delayed ejaculation and that affected our sex life greatly.

We didn’t know about the 90 monk mode reboot at the time and kinda did things our own way. Now, he has his SAA group and I have NoFap. We also listen to podcasts and do a lot of reading about this topic. And talk about it: both in relation to us, but in a broader way of how the world is as well.

I was also away for the entire summer right when he was starting this and I’m very sexual so keeping/growing our sexual connection was important to both of us.

Since I returned home, he has expressed that he doesn’t want to masturbate because it doesn’t feel as good. One time, I asked him to do it in front of me as part of foreplay and he started and stopped himself because he was uncomfortable.

He still looks at my pictures/watches our videos from time to time, though. We talk about when he does and why to ensure he’s not sliding into old habits.

I can say our sex life and, though it’s been painful, our relationship is much better. He is healthier and I am getting more of what I always wanted and deserved.

Talk to your partner, connect with others, and set goals that are best for you.

 

Bad night the last one :'( I was horny and I had a lot of erotic fantasies, concerning foot fetish and dominant women. It also happened to me sometimes in the past but usually these erotic fantasies disappeared after the masturbation. Now that I could not masturbate, these fantasies were much stronger and last night was almost sleepless. The only positive thing is that I did not relapse ... but my mind is still not under my control

 

I relapsed this morning It was just impossible to resist, after one entire night without sleeping. I also had pain close to the perineum this morning (probably due to the chastity ?) and the orgasm was also with pain. Did someone else have this problem ?