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Re-training my mind

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Maverick47, May 19, 2019.

  1. Maverick47

    Maverick47 Fapstronaut

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    So, I have been off of porn long enough. I am still not having any success. I'm not even sure if PIED is my issue. Maybe I just have sexual anxiety. I have enough enough sexual encounters by now. I was with this fine ass woman today. I had her naked and my massage table.I was so aroused and then thought came to ,y head "what if I go soft". Well, after that thought I was fucked. I was not able top get hard for the rest of the time I had her there. She left disappointed as I was humiliated. She was so fucking hot too.

    I just masturbated without porn. I closed my eyes and masturbated like most teens back in the day without any magazines did. It was tough. I couldn't even get a full erection that way. I did finish, but the erection was weak.

    Based off of the information I just want to hear some thoughts Has anyone experienced this or something similar. Can I get some advice?

    I'm thinking about masturbating on a consistent basis the I just explained above. To get my mind back on track. At least that's my logic at this very moment :D

    Sounds stupid, but maybe if I do it enough I will be able to control my mind better....?
     
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  2. The Bink

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    How many days have you gone without porn?
     
  3. Maverick47

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    I haven't counted, but it's been a long time. There have been some times when I caved in, but they were spread out. Largely spread out.
     
  4. The Bink

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    I have a major case of PIED too. Been with a lot of girls and couldn't get hard. No matter how hot they were. I'm doing Nofap for a long time and right now I'm able to stay hard but I still can't O. Still it is progress.
    The thing with PIED is that it takes a long time to heal. According to yourbrainonporn some guys need about a year of abstinence or more to fully recover from PIED. Depends on how severe the PIED is. Some dudes get better after the initial 90 days or earlier.
    The thing is, you realy need to cut out everything. P, M and O. Just M and O will slow down the recovery significantly. What can help however, is making sure your brain rewires from porn to real sex. So keep dating and find someone who is supportive and build up your sexuality from there.

    Hope this helps. Stay strong man!
     
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  5. Maverick47

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    So, I need to avoid P,M,O and try to have sex? I have that situation now, but I just don't want to have sex with her. When we have had sex I can get semi-hard. It's always disappointing to me. This girl I'm speaking about is not the same that I mentioned above when I started the thread.
     
  6. llortaton

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    When you try not to do something, it happens.
    Like, at school, I was telling myself, "DON'T YOU DARE GET A BONER."
    Next thing u know...
     
  7. BeastModeAlpha9

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    I had the same experience too, PMO is different to real sex. I am hoping to do a 90 day reboot on hard mode no PMO and no sex and eventually when I start dating again find a nice easygoing girl who I can get relaxed with. There's nothing worse than being with a girl who thinks you should perform on demand, especially when you're recovering from PMO addiction. And one night stands are basically two people masturbating with each others bodies. No love making involved and intimacy is dead.
     
  8. IGY

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    LMFAO! :D :p
     
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  9. IGY

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    No. If you set your criteria as no PMO, that means no sexual activities alone or partnered. o_O It is called hard mode for a reason! At the moment you are doing no P only and that is why you aren't getting anywhere. The most effective method to reboot your sexual responses back to 'factory settings', is abstain from all sexual stimulation for several months. YMMV. ;)
     
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  10. BeastModeAlpha9

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    Truth!
     
  11. Maverick47

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    No sex either? One of the guys above is telling me to attempt sex in order to help.
     
  12. BeastModeAlpha9

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    He means initially no sex, during your reboot, complete abstinence for 90 days. That way your sexual tastes can set back to normal and natural desires will occur. Not porn induced or porn related. However for some people it may take longer. Also looking for just sex is counterproductive anyway because sex is meant to be about intimacy and that is how you will have a fulfilling sex life.
     
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  13. IGY

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    That is no good in the first few months of your reboot. Your brain has been super stimulated sexually and you have issues with ED. If you attempt to have sex, you will just feel humiliated time and time again when you cannot get it up brother. In any case, your entire sexual system (including the brain circuits) needs a vacation from everything sexual. Later on, when you have made some significant progress (such as frequent boners), then you can have sex again and your brain will rewire to a real person, not a sex worker on a screen and not to your hand or mattress. :rolleyes:
     
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  14. llortaton

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    :D :D :D
     
  15. Agii

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    Hi am new here and will like to have a friend but don't know how to do it
     
  16. BeastModeAlpha9

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    Hey bro, how's it going? The website takes a little getting used to but if you got any questions let me know. I'm happy to help
     
  17. Maverick47

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    Damn...this will be tough, but I'll make it. The end goal will be worth it. I've missed out on too much.
    Is this the same guy from the channel "How to beast" or just a fan?
     
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  18. BeastModeAlpha9

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    Bro you can make it, be around positive people who bring out the best in you. Bring the best out of yourself by being aware of how you feel and seeing if that's gonna move you in the right direction. If not, then write down things that you know will make you feel good everyday and get them done.

    So cool that you recognise the logo, I'm just a fan of the channel but it kind of works with what I'm trying to do here on NoFap
     

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