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Weak arousal with partner

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by DEACONFROST11, May 20, 2019.

  1. DEACONFROST11

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    Hi guys, sometimes I don't get aroused at all with my partner. Other times I do get weak erection. If I ever get a strong erection it dies quickly. I am still hyper aroused by porn if I stumble across sexy pics online by relapse. My question is, does this mean I'm not as into her as I'd like or is this good old pied? I should add I'm four days clean and have relapsed every few weeks last six months. Never get morning wood or random erections. Am I doomed?

    A month ago sex with her came with little effort on my part to get hard but that got me thinking I was healed, then i relapsed to porn. Which ruined my progress.
     
  2. More time brother. The time you are having between relapses has not been enough for you to heal.
     
  3. Classic pied. Stop the pmo and appreciate your woman before its too late and before you hurt her mentally.
     
  4. Had similar problems. I stopped PMO completely, took some specific supplements and did kegel exercises. Now she said she has the best sex ever with me. Took me about 2 months. Just stop watching Porn, Nudes or anything that arouses you except for your Partner.
     
  5. DEACONFROST11

    DEACONFROST11 Fapstronaut

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    May I ask what supplements? Thank you.
     
  6. DEACONFROST11

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    Thank you. I want to beat this addiction forever
     
  7. JesusStrength

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    You are sharing my story bro..
     
  8. Samsonite87

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    Definitely sounds like PIED to me. Stick with it and steer clear of the porn. Your story is very similar to mine. I got off porn for nearly 3 months last year but relapsed and HARD. I am back on NoFap for 4 days now and hopefully for good this time.

    You ask a good question though about if you are into her. Are you? If you are, then focus on what about her you are attracted to or arouses you. I LOVE my wife's body and focusing on the parts of it that really turn me on are what gets me there when I'm with her, whether I'm struggling with PIED/ED or not. Focusing on what about her does turn you on and steering clear of porn should help you get back to a normal sex life and not need digital images/videos to get hard.
     
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  9. DEACONFROST11

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    Good advice. And yes I'm definitely into her. I'd never get hard for her at all if I wasn't. Main problem is porn cravings.
     
  10. JesusStrength

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    I had sex with my wife before.. We have on kid.. Now I can't, but I feel like It was o.k. when I was watching porn.. Now I can't.. What am I going through man?
     
  11. DEACONFROST11

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    That's my situation too JesusStrength. I performed better when on a diet of porn. Now that I'm absent from porn, I can't get hard even with Ed pills. And all bloods and testosterone etc perfect. Kiss my lady get rock hard, get to bed, not a thing..
     
  12. Chefb87

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    Think if it this way. Your addiction wants you to feel like you need it. In order to have sex with your wives. It's finding literally any single way to seep into your kind to make it "ok" to feed it. It makes you second guess everything .
    Maybe it's not actually " you " that's wondering if she's enough . Maybe it's the addiction wanting you to think those thoughts
     
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  13. IF (!!) its is really like this than its intelligent and its basically a entity of its own - some might call it a demon? LOL
    I called my addictions a deamons when I started a NoFap... it helped. Makes your enemy more real.
     
  14. JesusStrength

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    I was going to write that also bro and something stopped me, but it is a demon.. Let me tell you how crazy it is. My wife just told me, we are having another baby and I got a boner.. A pretty good boner.. Why? Did I get aroused by her? Its happiness.. We killed our arousal with porn.. Pray to the Lord Jesus Christ that he returns us to our correct settings. There's nothing wrong with my testicles. There's nothing wrong with my penis. Its the mind bro. I pray for all you guys right now. I'm going to church to thank him and ask him to protect my baby that's coming.
     
  15. DEACONFROST11

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    Congrats.And totally get what you're saying. In the pub last Christmas my lady told me she loved me for the first time. I was happy and got a hard on too. But in bedroom I fail. It's mad how such things work
     
  16. JesusStrength

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    Keep doing Nofap, but don't stop trying to have sex.. The goal here is to have healthy sexuality.. Some of these guys here. Block their own sexuality.
     
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  17. Hopefulgirl

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    Is it because before you wpuld fantasize about porn while you were with your wife?
     
  18. L-Arginine / Pycnogenol Pills (combination pills), Yohimbine (liquid) and Zinc
     
  19. JesusStrength

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  20. JesusStrength

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    Not really... Just fetishes, etc.
     

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