New lady needs help

Welcome! I think you'll find there are quite a few stories like that floating around here. You've taken a good step in the right direction coming to NoFap. I won't patronise you and pretend it's all unicorns and rainbows, it sounds like you have a hard road to follow. First step would be to start a journal, so you can see progress, and what sort of things are triggering your addiction. Also there is a lot of stuff here you might find helpful, so have a poke about (though do be aware that we have more than our fair share of juvenile idiots as well).

Hope you manage to defeat this.

 

@badteresa, there are sub-forums for the partners of porn addicts, you'll find lots of others going through the same issues there:

• Partner Support
• Significant Other Journals

And there's a private group here: SOS: Significant Others Support

 

Heh. Let's just say there are some 'interesting' solutions doing the rounds.

 

You may find many users here will encourage you to come clean and stop hiding things from your husband. There's no single right or wrong way to get yourself better, but total honesty and transparency usually helps the recovery process even though it can be devastating.

 

I think honesty would only make YOU feel good, but it would totally destroy him. Sometimes the best you can do is showing that you Love him by stopping, your cross to carry would be your secret. In many saa meetings I have been they encourage to keep it to yourself because going out with that bomb too early can cause more problems that it can solve. I would say though that being open helps, so if you can share in saa meetings what you cannot tell him, that would help you a lot. In the end the only forgiveness that matter is the one that we get from GOD. And He totally Loves YOU, no matter how bad you think you are. Keep going!