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ED cured after 4 months of attacking them problem!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by 27yearoldED, Feb 28, 2019.

  1. 27yearoldED

    27yearoldED Fapstronaut

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    Hello a short summary of my sexual life and real life and how I developed my insecureties!

    I'm a fairly good looking dude and never had a problem getting girls or getting girls interested in me. I got laid first time when I was 15 years old and was with several girls that year 15-16, but after that point porn got a larger and larger part in my life.
    Before I was just watching it here and there and it wasn't really a problem.

    But I sufferd a psychosis when I was 17 years old which basicly changed my personality from a confident outgoing guy to a shy awkward kid who had isnane anxiety problems which I've overcome after years of going at it.

    However during the years 16-26 I didn't get laid mainly because I was so much of a coward and a punk that I didn't dare to go for it. Also when you have severe confidence issues mainly based around not actually facing your fears, then it's hard to be outgoing and a positive light. I've always had fear as a factor in my life more so then regular people I guess but yeah. First time I noticed I had an problem with my dick was when I was with a girl I met at a bar. We got home to her place and started to fool around and nothing happened, I got somewhat bummed out but I blamed it on the alcohol.

    After that point I was somewhat discouraged to go after girls despite a growing confidence of the fear of it happening again. But after starting college again where I basicly challenged my fears and insecureties on a daily basis I decided it's time to date.

    I met a cute girl this november and first date was playful and we just drank some beers and had a good time. Second date after that I took her to my place and we watched a movie and drank some wine. We started to fool around and nothing happened down there, or it got hard temporarily but then went away.

    We tried a few more times and then we gave up. I was super bummed out and back then I was ashamed of the problem. I didn't really know where to start but I somewhat understood the problem.

    So the problem and contributing factors was the following

    Alcohol
    to much porn
    being to much of a punk
    Lacking in cofidence

    The solutiion

    So the solution was setting small goals and trying to improve each one of them. Like when I say to much of being a punk what that basicly means is that I used to care a ton of what people thought of me so I had to challenge that. The way I approached that problem was that I started to wear clothes more how I wanted to wear them, starting to trust myself at more and more things. I started to talk to more people at stores and just aiming to be more outgoing.

    To much porn was basicly fairly simple, I tried to cut down failed a bunch of times and managed to get to 13 days before a binge. However I kind of realised that I had to slowly wein myself of it and last time when I watched porn I decided like hey, I'm going to watch porn but I'm just going to watch it once. That helped it a lot for me and I'm not 20 days porn free, with not looking at any porn or picture or anything.

    The lack of confidence was boiled down to mainly not exposing myself to enough social situations where I just had to trust myself to get through them. This involved dating girls just for actually getting to sit down and dating girls and get used to being around them.

    Alcohol this issue I didn't really know if it was the problem since I got hard with a girl during new years while making out so I actually don't think that is that much of a problem. I think the main problem for me with alcohol was that I used it as a crouch and if you ever start to use it as a crouch no amount of alcohol will ever fix that problem for good. Sure you might band-aid the problem short term but it will just make it harder in the long term. So I started taking dates without drinking, started sleeping over at girls places without drinking (not going for sex because of fear) but still.


    So overall I started to make progress steadily but surely in each of these areas. So last night I was with a girl and I basicly just knew that it would work, I got hard by just fucking kissing her and that has never happened for me alteast in my entire life.

    So in bend I got really hard and we had sex and I came with a girl for the first time since I was 16 years old.


    So yeah what I want to share with this is that you can cure your erectile dysfunction but you have to address the problem at the core. Is it to much porn, or a combination of other factors like it was for me?

    So yeah! I'm happy this period is over for me and I finally overcame something at one point in my life I thought I would never do.


    So what's next for me then?

    I'm still going to go forward and keep challenging my insecurities and keep going forward. I knew what got me to this place and this was hard work and it's nothing that can take that away from me!
     
  2. Congratulations on moving forward!

    Just as you said it yourself, keep pushing. There may be times where you watch P again but no matter what, don’t give up. You’ll be a failure if you give up not when you watch P again. Years of going through watching P may take time to get rid of but you’re on the right track.
     
  3. guitopher

    guitopher Fapstronaut

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  4. 27yearoldED

    27yearoldED Fapstronaut

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    Yes I agree, that's the main thing I have a good direction in my life for the first time in like 10 years and it feels like I got a second chance at life.
     
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  5. Kingchef

    Kingchef Fapstronaut

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    Like a fucking boss
     
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  6. 27yearoldED

    27yearoldED Fapstronaut

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    Update since last time and this is likley the last post.

    I broke up with the girl I was with and I think I managed something like 22 days without porn and after that I relapsed, it wasn't really that bad though since I got some streaks going for 3 days here, 7 days there so wasn't back to jerking all the time. But yeah nofap and no porn definetly works wonders for sexual performance and getting hard.

    Anyhow musterd up the courage to ask out a girl I was interested a while back and she said yes and we are currently dating and the sex is great :D

    It just feels soooo fucking freeing to being able to acually have sex and exploare what's fun and not. But I can defenitly tell that it's several things that can help you improve your nofap journey;


    But I kind of want to share some tips I've learned along the way since I want to give back something to the community that helped me;

    It's not the end of the world if you can't get it up or not

    This helped me realise that first of all I'm not alone with this problem: I talked to close friends and all have experienced this and it's a waaay waaay more common problem then everyone thinks! So find solice in that you're not alone.

    Stress levels can fuck up sexual performance!

    I think this is why meditation helps some people so much because it's a terrific stress reliever. But try other forms like moderate exercise like walking in nature, jogging, listening to more music, do shit you enjoy to blow of steam basicly. Improve your sleep by drinking less caffeine, having a regular routine there's so much shit you can do to improve stress levels.

    Challenge your insecurities!

    This tip is something that's maybe about myself more so then others. But I've been a insecure kid all my life basicly, I had so much oppurtunity to have girls but I was never confident enough and always had a wall of fear infront of me. But I learned that it's basicly was only myself in my way of doing the shit I wanted to do.

    Every day without porn is a good day closer to your goal

    Sure it's way better if you get a super long streak, but it's not like your progress completley gets shutdown. But it's not the all or nothing mentality, hell even jerking off to pictures is 10x better then watching high speed, click sessions.


    So I'm just gonna end it. I hope that this helps someone and just find faith that if I a insecure guy, jerking of to porn for 15 years, failed miserably on what 3-4 dates in a row still manged to push on forward and make this thing happen!

    Good luck on your journey guys, you're all going to make it!
     
  7. Homelander

    Homelander Fapstronaut

    Thanks for your valuable and honest story. The best of luck moving forward!
     

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