1 Year of Experience and Truth

Hi guys,

It has been 1 year since I met with the NoFap community. I gave a try back then and lasted around 6 months without relapsing.

I didn't relapse because I wanted to see if the benefits were real or not. I just was in a bad situation couldn't control myself and relapsed. Then I continued no PMO for like 2-3 days and relapsing afterwards. That relapse after 6 months triggered everything and I was back to my miserable me before I met NoFap and guys I want to share my experience for those who are in doubt about NoFap. Since I have an experience of long streak of 6 months and relapsing era afterwards.

Quick Background: 25 years old male. Masturbated to porn starting around 13 years and continued with edging before sleep every single night.

Benefits Comparison

6 Months Benefits:

I was back to home from my military service I was unemployed and didn't know what to do with my life actually and ofcourse I was continuing to my fapping sessions everyday. Then I started watching youtube self-development videos where I encountered NoFap. I was so sick of my life that I was in a mood that I could do anything for this issue. So, I started NoFap, going to gym and having cold showers at the same time.

Some Results:

• I was feeling really good. Which I think the positive emotion of accomplishment about controlling yourself was making me feel very good.

• Then I thought this was the key point: "Accomplishment". Day after day I got addicted to accomplishment. I was seeing everything as accomplishment. Like taking coldshowers every single day, going to gym and increasing the weights every time I go and ofcourse controlling myself to not PMO. All these things gave me confidence, believing in myself and happiness.

• I was in a depressed and anxiety mode back then before NoFap. After a while I started feeling less depressed with lower anxiety symptoms. I don't know if this is a placebo effect or not but the feeling was amazing. I felt relieved and enjoyed every single day like I never felt like this before.

• I started working in our family business which is a cafe and most of the time I was helping as a waiter. Then I realized that my communication skills with the people was going pretty well. I felt good feelings and admiration for every single customer and I was getting back the same feelings from them also. Some of them were saying to me directly and for some of them I was feeling the good feelings and admiration from them. Back before NoFap I was scared to open a conversation and was running away from the environments which included conversations.

• Then I wanted to continue with my academic life and applied to a Masters Degree program here in my country for a reputable University. The requested documents were proven English score IELTS or TOEFL and a interview with the professors. I immidiately entered an IELTS. I had a score before but the time duration of the score was expired. I even went to a course for it back then. But this time I was not really prepared. I was in another city for my military service for 6 months and did not speak even a word in English. However I gave it a try and entered the exam. Man, I was never this concentrated ever in my life. There wasn't any brain fogs, I was able to think clearly and in the listening part I was even able to memorize the content. About two weeks after my scores were sent to me and yeay! I scored better than before! Without even getting prepared!

• Then came the interview day. Before, I was so scared from interviews. Because, I did not have good experiences. Because of anxiety, brain fog, etc. I always screwed up in the interviews. But now it was not old me. I had the confidence, believing in myself, no brain fogs and an insane concentration. However, I started feeling anxious just before the interview, I had flashbacks from my past experiences. Interview started and they asked the first question: "Can you talk about yourself?". I started talking about myself for an about 35 minutes looking to professors in their eyes and with a deep voice. They were impressed and yeay! My second achievement I was accepted to the Masters Degree program.

• All my life I was an average student. Highschool overall score 78/100 and college overall score 2.88/4 and I think porn and masturbation were some of the main reasons. My classes started in Masters Degree and I got a score of 3.88/4 last semester! I was so concentrated and clear minded in every single class and exam. I even made 5 projects and presented them which is a huge accomplishment for a person like me who was struggling with anxiety and communication problems before. By the way, I study like 4-5 hours or more everyday without even getting bored

• All my life I didn't chase after girls. I have a 6 years relationship right now even though we have arguments etc. we love eachother and can't seperate apart. Anyways, for those who are interested in attraction. From my own experience, although the increase of confidence, fearlesness and deep voice etc. is effecting the attraction. I think there is something different magical My girlfriend is saying that she finds me more attractive which she did not express something like this in this 6 years. But whenever I enter a crowded place I do not feel people (especially females) are looking at me I SEE them looking at me and these looks continue even after staying in the place for a while.

Relapsing After 6 Months

I was in a tough argument with my girlfriend and started having some arguments with my family. Which I thought they weren't understanding me. I was lost in my thoughts starting getting depressed and BOOM! Relapsed that night to edging before sleep.

Following days I masturbated again and again. I was in a mood "hey I masturbated yesterday I can masturbate today also and start NoFap tomorrow" this sentence lasted in my brain for a long while. And the results?

• Huge decrease in communication skills with people. I even got a feedback from a job interview exactly like this.

• Increased anxiety, depression symptoms, tiredness, lack of concentration and brain fog.

• Stopped going to gym, taking cold showers, and started sleeping around 12 hours a day.

• Lack of motivation for studying my lessons.

• Got into 3-4 job interviews and got rejected. I know it was because of lack of self confidence and communication skills.

Now it has been 9 days since I started NoFap again. I am feeling peaceful again, my joy of life is starting to increase again, brain fog is getting away. I started believing in myself again that I can reach my true high level potential.

Hope this post will inspire you and make you continue on your NoFap journey.

P.S.: Do not relapse if you are passing through hard times. It does not worth it. I did it and the consequences were not good.

I will keep updating this post

 

Yeah that was what I experienced. Ofcourse getting down symptoms were not seen immidiately but I relapsed everyday or a two till these days which effected more and more on getting down.

 

I think you should post this as a new post so more people can reach you out. 3-4 times pmoing a day is way too much which can cause damaging effects in chains. 3-4 times pmoing will cause lack of energy for doing anything which will cause waste of your time and which will cause procrastination for the things that could make you feel good. If you are using medicines for pyschology this is an illness. You should listen to your doctor carefully and implement his/her advices. NoFap is not a medicine nor a magical thing. Ofcourse, you should continue with your streak but besides just not pmoing you should invest in yourself. Go to gym. Do healthy things. Meet new people. If you have close friends spend time with them (this helped me a lot). Concentrate on your studies. My advice is just don't only take your medicine and do NoFap and do nothing. Invest in yourself. Psychological medicines have heavy side effects I understand you. The things you experience might be because of this but NoFap can really help you. Just listen to your doctor and invest in yourself and don't give up on your pills. May god be with you bro..

 

Great point of view bro thank you

 

Actually I wasn’t a open and honest person for a long time in my life. Believe me my number 1 learned lesson from life is to be open and honest in every single situtation. I experienced perfect and very bad things in life. I saw the bottom and yeah I saw the top. now I am between bottom and top but closer to bottom. Trying to climb The downs I experienced in my life came to me because of not being honest and open. Now I am at least living a peaceful life only with changing my attitude in terms of being honest. Trying to be a good influencer person for community and for my country and for humanity. Hope I can climb asap to the top again

 

I guess you will have a brain fog after intercourse too but P is the main problem here. Keeps your mind busy. Should you watch or not? How can you watch? Hope I was PMOing write now. I am so excited to watch my favorite category. If I can not watch right now I will imagine the last video I watched etc. These statements and thinkings make your brain foggy.

 

For the placebo thinkers at least you are not wasting your time and energy for PMOing. So you have time for other things. Automatically you concentrate on other things in your life and you can see the developments and benefits.

 

So today is my 17th day in NoFap and got my first wet dream. I didn’t even watch or think something triggering before bed. However, a year ago I had 3-4 wet dreams but this was different. I had a multiple orgasm like 2-3 times and ejaculated for a long time it felt great actually But I am concerned if any of the benefits will go away. Some of the nofappers say that it is the excess semen that is thrown out from your body. So I will think and believe that my benefits are not gone