I need help stopping

here are some tips for you:

1st- sexual transmutation,
you got to transmute the sexual energy into something useful. Doing meditation, reading and yoga all helps.

2nd- be dead serious,
if you want to really stop, you need to realise the damage PMO have done to your body. Once you're dead serious and ready to sacrifice anything to become the new person, you will. Sometimes we should not lie to ourselves, and most people need to stop cheating on themselves like "a little porn won't do any harm", or "just a little bit of edging"

3rd- quit them all,
if you only quit porn and retain masturbation, it is like you flush the toilet but keep the paper you used. Once you are dedicated and determined, quit them all.


Now let me get back to your questions:
how many days do you need to stop the urges?
In fact, urge for sex or feeling horny sometimes is a mother nature thing, which is designed this way. But having a clear and clean mind will reduce your urges.


Is your life already permanently messed up?
NO! never think this way, it is never too late to quit.


Does this cause acne?
Yes, in a way that doing PMO is draining your vital energy(which is semen), and you would look worse than yourself before you started doing PMO.



Last point I want to make: never believe those "PMO is good for you", I think the editor is just a coward and doesn't even try doing nofap to see the results

 

hope this helps

 

I always suggest small steps, do not try to be all macho. Addictive behaviors suppress your willpower - the very quality you are trying to exercise to stop, the longer you go without addictive behavior, the more enjoyable it will become until even thinking about it releases ton of dopamine and your willpower disappears, and you go and do it.

Set measurable, small goals, like I will limit porn use to 4 times a week and 1 hour max and no masturbation to porn Once that hour is done, I stop take cold shower and move on.
Next make it 3 days and 30min max
Then 2 days and 20 min
Then 1 days 10min

Obviously adopt this to your own use, you should feel limited in your use more and more with every step. You allow your body to slowly recover and avoid acute depressive symptoms. And you will feel sense of progress and clearly see improvement overtime.
At some point you will be able to stop altogether, but if you have trouble you do not just fall back to 0, you can fall back to your previous "safe place" you know you made it there.

 

Hey @Benny Oakley and congrats on getting yourself here. In my experience, this site and the people you'll find on these forums can truly help with the long, difficult process of recovering from this addiction. And it does seem to be a long, difficult process. While I'm sure there are some exceptions, most folks who earn longstanding sobriety tend to view this as a lifetime undertaking. So settle in for the long haul...

Something that might be worth noting in this regard concerns urges. In my experience, these never really go away - and nor do they need to! What happens as we get more anymore clean is that we become more and more able to have urges and not act on them. Not only not act on them, but not feel terrorized, overwhelmed, and / or victimized by them. It's actually pretty cool.

So again, congrats for getting here and best of luck...

 

You’ve made a wise choice Benny to become a part of this community and get some advice.

Couple tips from me:
1 - when you want to masturbate, go for a walk (it’s not easy to do that in public lol)
2 - your brain wants dopamine and goes to a porn site to get it. Study the physiology - it will help you see the body’s hormones as if from the outside.
3 - Be aware of triggers; even a clothing commercial can get you started on the dark path.

 

You can control p addiction through certain techniques.. not directly