Every. Single. Person. Can. Change.

Hell yeah, that's badass man. I feel like I've lost that drive and motivation to enjoy life. I've just been going through the motions--feeling down and depressed. I'm in this ongoing cycle of refraining from porn for a few days, lose motivation, relapse, remotivate, go a few more days without porn, and on and on. I think the problem is that I'm only motivating myself to stop using porn, when it could be more beneficial to work on motivating myself to live and enjoy life. I'm going to give this new mindset a shot and see what happens.

 

Thanks for the advice bro. I'm definitely going to check out that book.

 

Damn! This post is fire! Thank you for the sharing!
I admire you for what you've accomplished, very inspiring! Congratulations!

 

Why are you even on nofap if it is clear to you that porn isnt your issue?
This kind of bitter outlook on life is probably why you have few friends and girlfriends. as OP says, you need to stop viewing yourself as a goddamn victim and take responsibility for your actions. Lighten up a bit, it may help you.
Thirdly, simply going to the gym will not get you women. Strength will not get you women. An aesthetic physique is definitely attractive to girls, but it will NOT get you women.

 

Congrats for the new beast life!

 

Because EVERY success story I've encountered speaks of how much more confident and attractive to women they are, even after a few weeks. I asked when I first started, given my 'interesting' past, whether there WOULD be confidence after a long streak? Whilst no one gave an overwhelmingly positive answer, I undertook, and continue to undertake this choice. Increased confidence and attraction of women? Giving up whacking to porn was nothing, is nothing to gain that.

I WANT to be proven wrong, that what everyone else is experiencing will come to me, but I until then, my rage has me responding here. And to any twit on YouTube who makes these claims.

Yes, the 'A' in HALT is strong in this one.

Gee, that's what my classmates told me when they ALL teased me.

And my scout troop routinely flushed my head in a 'pre-used' toilet.

And my father and brother when they mock me - as a grown-arse man.

Maybe that's what the people who come up to me and tell me I'm a "fucking ugly cunt" would say if I thought to respond to them?

I'll lighten up when I find a part of the world isn't hostile my continued existence.

Oh, and what exactly IS it that makes men more attractive to women? My argument remains that those men who experience this 'increased attraction of women' are largely decent to above-average examples of man-hood that were denying their full potential.

 

The main issue here is you don't stand up for yourself. You just let people take the piss. You gotta do something about that man. Again, being a victim is not a good mentality.

 

Your point is acknowledged and conceded.

 

Why it is good to do cold shower?

 

I've read through the thread and Big up to those who have reached their Nofap journey or should i say those who have been successful in their Nofap journey and who despite the setbacks and relapses have grown the guts to say no to PMO and dump that shit away!! CONGRATULATIONS, i'm really happy for y'all.

I'd want to point one thing out that has been repeated all throughout this thread, Nofap is just a part of the bigger picture of our lives. It is not the sole or center of where every good thing will come from, it is for most addicts, the beggining of something greater and that is simply living our lives in a whole new light where we enjoy ourselves, living happily and pursuing and chasing after our dreams.

Nofap will not fix all your problems, You will fix your own problems, Nofap only provides the freedom to do it. Because you will no longer waste your time, energy, effort, creativity, and intelligence on PMO but will rather have the freedom to use them in more productive ways, having a dream, a passion and a purpose is fondamental for every Man, and daring to pursue it, being bold and putting in the hard work to reach that dream, to do that passion, to achieve that purpose that what makes us men for the most part attractive to women, when we dare live the life that we want all those other things comes in together, the women, the people, the opporunities and a bunch of other amazing things but its only for Me, or You to decide, to sacrifice, to walk out of that comfortzone and really go for what we always wanted in our lives. And Nofap only gives us that necessary freedom.

 

Very well put!

Many thanks for this reminder, @JackReck19. As a recovering addict, I am prone to absolute solutions - this tendency is, after all, what got me in this mess to begin with! I see myself doing this with nofap all the time, but there is much more to it, as you point out.

Thanks for the reminder.

 

So deciding not to eat any sweets/snacks for 90 days will help me too?

 

Any specific training?

 

I knew a girl thru a friend, it just happened.
No worries, continue to become the best version of yourself, the next girl will come along. Keep your faith.
see my thread: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/day339-sex-after-a-long-while-ama.215568/#post-1907230

There are also multiple (3 more) girls that I am working on now thru dancing.
(ethical or not, very debatable. But why not enjoy life more as you said?
Now when dating someone start to seem effortless, I would like to do more when I have the chance.)

For those who doubt, there is something wonderful about dancing.
You have amazing body touch with the women before you even get to know them.
I think I have a deep understanding on my dance partner's body, without having (yet) seen it naked.
Better yet, you can screen out those unsuitable ones quickly. Those you have mutual interest in will give in and cooperate in your dance, like join-meditation, there will be a heart-to-heart connection. Now you two have a special, secret common ground. Much easier to drive the relationship forward at will.

In dancing, you have to be masculine in your attitude to be a good leader.
Just that, too many guys quit too soon. For me, my masculine side really took time, effort and self discovery to develop.

Last week I walked the dog of my current girl, she still have no clue how to control it after having the dog for 2 years.
It was only the second time the dog met me but it likes me and followed most of my instructions.
A stranger even exclaimed "Your dog is so compliant!!"

I never had a dog and never walked any other. It's amazing everything just clicks.
I told a joke recently saying men realize himself being in a woman quite awhile after he got in.
This dog thing we experienced is one of the things that we realize after we get there.

Very well said. May you have wonderful success after success.
Congratulations on your achievements. I think you have truly Reclaimed your Life.


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