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Being Alone and Diving into Monk Mode

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by BruceD, Feb 25, 2019.

  1. BruceD

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    Seem I have avoided real intimacy and substantial relationships with women most of my life. I did have a 4 year relationship with someone I almost married. However, the PMO alienated her and she knew damn well I was still looking as stuff.

    Cut to 3 years later. I have my own place, an almost below-average job for now (it puts food in my mouth and the lights on). I get on this hamster wheel of getting some initial streaks going (4-8 days) and then, BAM, Relapse!

    This all stems from feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and loneliness. I have been fine with being alone a lot of my life, but maybe that's not such a good thing. We need connection and to share things. But I do think it's best for Monk Mode to begin.

    I strive to be the man I want and to offer this to someone down the road. But I have work to do. And I will be posting more. Please drive on!
     
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  2. neutral1000

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    Dealing with social anxiety and loneliness is well known for me. I have been living in Great Britain 2008-2011. I know how it feels how to be alone in different country. Everyone seems to be outgoing in such moment beside you. Lack of good job, vanishing interests (beside PMO). I think there must be a bridge, foundation for new life style, some area of success. It might attract women.
    Best wishes Bruce, you can do it.
     
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  3. overclocked

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    I was also scared to do monk mode. Now I kinda miss it.
     
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  4. BruceD

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    I dived in and to keep myself very busy, I decided to resign from that job for a much more lucrative opportunity. It will take time and grinding, but I feel it's the right move.
     
  5. expressyourself

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    Hey man, I highly suggest you check out this video on how to deal with loneliness by actualized.org / leo gura on youtube.

    It helped me a lot!
     
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  6. BruceD

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    Thank you I will!
     

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