Why a woman approached me for the first time in my life.

Amends25 · Jan 16, 2019

iaj said: ↑

Women have approached me before, but this was different. I'm certain that this particular type of scenario was the first time it's happened to me. It was a touching and memorable moment which I partly credit to NoFap.

I was out at a restaurant with a friend of mine and one of his friends. As we entered the restaurant I noticed a woman look at me with wonder. I didn't think much of it. She was sitting alone so I assumed her company (husband or partner) was in the bathroom or something. So I continued walking towards our table in the corner of the restaurant and enjoyed my time with the two friends.

Almost halfway through our meal the lady approached our table with a broken voice and foreign accent. She apologised for her husky tone and said that she just wanted to give me "this" (as she handed me a folded up note). I asked: "Who is this from?" And she replied: "Me." I was stunned. Before I could even register what had just happened, she walked away. She was alone in the end. Both friends looked at me with surprise too. In fact, my friend is more of a ladies man than me, so he was more shocked because a woman approached me instead of him.

When I opened the note it read:
Here for a couple of days, I'd be happy to have a coffee with you (followed by her name and phone number).

Did I contact her? You bet your fapping ass I did! She was only here for 2 days, so time was of the essence. Later that night we met at midnight and hung out. She was a classy lady from Europe and when I asked her why she approached me, she said: "There was this energy about you..."

That has to be the best compliment I've received. Ironically, my friend's friend who was present at dinner predicted exactly that- she said: "You must have an aura about you this evening for her to approach you."

I am so much more grounded, calm and confident since managing my addictive behaviour. She sensed this. Prior to NoFap, I must've been airy, nervous and timid.

I'm now 4 months fap-free and 2 months porn-free. I've developed such resilience that I even delete all sexual content I receive on whatsapp from friends to resist urges and relapses. This strength and self-control is the attractive quality.

It's inevitable; the moment you stop clicking on the digital men and women on your screen, you eventually start clocking onto the physical men and women in real life. Or in this case, they clock onto you.
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Thats awesome.
I havent been approached in a long while
But i know it because of the low energy, low motivation, low confidence and poor conversation are the causes....all because of chronic pmo.
Before i realized how much pmo affected me, there were times that i take a break from it and make breakthru emotionally and sexually with girls. And it leaves me to conclude that when pmo acts up again i mess things up and end up lonely again.
Fucked up and uncomfortable as a man. So am done with that pmo shit.
Its not worth it.
Having women that comforts you is.
Quitting pmo-
Learning more about women-
Being more of a man-
Being confident and going after what I want and who I want-
All these are worth it.

iaj · Jan 16, 2019

Amends25 said: ↑

Thats awesome.
I havent been approached in a long while
But i know it because of the low energy, low motivation, low confidence and poor conversation are the causes....all because of chronic pmo.
Before i realized how much pmo affected me, there were times that i take a break from it and make breakthru emotionally and sexually with girls. And it leaves me to conclude that when pmo acts up again i mess things up and end up lonely again.
Fucked up and uncomfortable as a man. So am done with that pmo shit.
Its not worth it.
Having women that comforts you is.
Quitting pmo-
Learning more about women-
Being more of a man-
Being confident and going after what I want and who I want-
All these are worth it.
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Well said bud and good on you! It’s a constant battle but worth the rewards.

KarmaWeaver · Jan 16, 2019

Nice story, brother! Inspirational

Ejjc · Jan 16, 2019

iaj said: ↑

Women have approached me before, but this was different. I'm certain that this particular type of scenario was the first time it's happened to me. It was a touching and memorable moment which I partly credit to NoFap.

I was out at a restaurant with a friend of mine and one of his friends. As we entered the restaurant I noticed a woman look at me with wonder. I didn't think much of it. She was sitting alone so I assumed her company (husband or partner) was in the bathroom or something. So I continued walking towards our table in the corner of the restaurant and enjoyed my time with the two friends.

Almost halfway through our meal the lady approached our table with a broken voice and foreign accent. She apologised for her husky tone and said that she just wanted to give me "this" (as she handed me a folded up note). I asked: "Who is this from?" And she replied: "Me." I was stunned. Before I could even register what had just happened, she walked away. She was alone in the end. Both friends looked at me with surprise too. In fact, my friend is more of a ladies man than me, so he was more shocked because a woman approached me instead of him.

When I opened the note it read:
Here for a couple of days, I'd be happy to have a coffee with you (followed by her name and phone number).

Did I contact her? You bet your fapping ass I did! She was only here for 2 days, so time was of the essence. Later that night we met at midnight and hung out. She was a classy lady from Europe and when I asked her why she approached me, she said: "There was this energy about you..."

That has to be the best compliment I've received. Ironically, my friend's friend who was present at dinner predicted exactly that- she said: "You must have an aura about you this evening for her to approach you."

I am so much more grounded, calm and confident since managing my addictive behaviour. She sensed this. Prior to NoFap, I must've been airy, nervous and timid.

I'm now 4 months fap-free and 2 months porn-free. I've developed such resilience that I even delete all sexual content I receive on whatsapp from friends to resist urges and relapses. This strength and self-control is the attractive quality.

It's inevitable; the moment you stop clicking on the digital men and women on your screen, you eventually start clocking onto the physical men and women in real life. Or in this case, they clock onto you.
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Well done mate!

Deleted Account · Jan 16, 2019

That is fascinating... simply fascinating event...

tet2vd · Jan 16, 2019

iaj said: ↑

Women have approached me before, but this was different. I'm certain that this particular type of scenario was the first time it's happened to me. It was a touching and memorable moment which I partly credit to NoFap.

I was out at a restaurant with a friend of mine and one of his friends. As we entered the restaurant I noticed a woman look at me with wonder. I didn't think much of it. She was sitting alone so I assumed her company (husband or partner) was in the bathroom or something. So I continued walking towards our table in the corner of the restaurant and enjoyed my time with the two friends.

Almost halfway through our meal the lady approached our table with a broken voice and foreign accent. She apologised for her husky tone and said that she just wanted to give me "this" (as she handed me a folded up note). I asked: "Who is this from?" And she replied: "Me." I was stunned. Before I could even register what had just happened, she walked away. She was alone in the end. Both friends looked at me with surprise too. In fact, my friend is more of a ladies man than me, so he was more shocked because a woman approached me instead of him.

When I opened the note it read:
Here for a couple of days, I'd be happy to have a coffee with you (followed by her name and phone number).

Did I contact her? You bet your fapping ass I did! She was only here for 2 days, so time was of the essence. Later that night we met at midnight and hung out. She was a classy lady from Europe and when I asked her why she approached me, she said: "There was this energy about you..."

That has to be the best compliment I've received. Ironically, my friend's friend who was present at dinner predicted exactly that- she said: "You must have an aura about you this evening for her to approach you."

I am so much more grounded, calm and confident since managing my addictive behaviour. She sensed this. Prior to NoFap, I must've been airy, nervous and timid.

I'm now 4 months fap-free and 2 months porn-free. I've developed such resilience that I even delete all sexual content I receive on whatsapp from friends to resist urges and relapses. This strength and self-control is the attractive quality.

It's inevitable; the moment you stop clicking on the digital men and women on your screen, you eventually start clocking onto the physical men and women in real life. Or in this case, they clock onto you.
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This is a great story, and I am ready to get back into this lifestyle where I don't feel as allured by the digital images of fake women. Tbh I have noticed certain periods where I was not PMOing, that I seemed to have more attention from the opposite gender while not even really doing anything. Currently on Day 15 and I'm just running through these success stories to help kill my urges (starting up lately after leg day a couple days ago) and encourage me to keep moving onwards. Thank you for sharing

tet2vd · Jan 16, 2019

RightEffort said: ↑

I can confirm a similar experience after about a year with no PMO. I was in a relationship already and felt at the time that this is the girl that I may end up marrying.

Was sitting at a coffee shop and talking to a friend on skype video - I had this beautiful blond girl come to me, leave me a note and smile and then walked out.

I open the note and it was her phone number. I told my friend on skype ' you have no idea what just happened.'

I prayed for her to be happiness, torn the number and throw it in the garage. 2 years after my relationship ended.
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You are a good person and your moral compass is superb my friend. I wish you good health and happiness in your next relationship!

iaj · Jan 16, 2019

tet2vd said: ↑

This is a great story, and I am ready to get back into this lifestyle where I don't feel as allured by the digital images of fake women. Tbh I have noticed certain periods where I was not PMOing, that I seemed to have more attention from the opposite gender while not even really doing anything. Currently on Day 15 and I'm just running through these success stories to help kill my urges (starting up lately after leg day a couple days ago) and encourage me to keep moving onwards. Thank you for sharing
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Never skip leg day... and never skip NoFap. I’m glad the story helped, thanks for reading and stay strong

TheProcedure · Jan 16, 2019

what an awesome story

goodnice 2.0 · Feb 21, 2019

iaj said: ↑

Women have approached me before, but this was different. I'm certain that this particular type of scenario was the first time it's happened to me. It was a touching and memorable moment which I partly credit to NoFap.

I was out at a restaurant with a friend of mine and one of his friends. As we entered the restaurant I noticed a woman look at me with wonder. I didn't think much of it. She was sitting alone so I assumed her company (husband or partner) was in the bathroom or something. So I continued walking towards our table in the corner of the restaurant and enjoyed my time with the two friends.

Almost halfway through our meal the lady approached our table with a broken voice and foreign accent. She apologised for her husky tone and said that she just wanted to give me "this" (as she handed me a folded up note). I asked: "Who is this from?" And she replied: "Me." I was stunned. Before I could even register what had just happened, she walked away. She was alone in the end. Both friends looked at me with surprise too. In fact, my friend is more of a ladies man than me, so he was more shocked because a woman approached me instead of him.

When I opened the note it read:
Here for a couple of days, I'd be happy to have a coffee with you (followed by her name and phone number).

Did I contact her? You bet your fapping ass I did! She was only here for 2 days, so time was of the essence. Later that night we met at midnight and hung out. She was a classy lady from Europe and when I asked her why she approached me, she said: "There was this energy about you..."

That has to be the best compliment I've received. Ironically, my friend's friend who was present at dinner predicted exactly that- she said: "You must have an aura about you this evening for her to approach you."

I am so much more grounded, calm and confident since managing my addictive behaviour. She sensed this. Prior to NoFap, I must've been airy, nervous and timid.

I'm now 4 months fap-free and 2 months porn-free. I've developed such resilience that I even delete all sexual content I receive on whatsapp from friends to resist urges and relapses. This strength and self-control is the attractive quality.

It's inevitable; the moment you stop clicking on the digital men and women on your screen, you eventually start clocking onto the physical men and women in real life. Or in this case, they clock onto you.
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shhhiiiiiiiiiiteeee this is the kinda stories i love to hear!! Awesome

theoptimist · Feb 21, 2019

Congrats, I am happy for you. I think that you deserve the super powers, You have worked hard to reach that level

HighHopesHero · Feb 21, 2019

iaj said: ↑

Women have approached me before, but this was different. I'm certain that this particular type of scenario was the first time it's happened to me. It was a touching and memorable moment which I partly credit to NoFap.

I was out at a restaurant with a friend of mine and one of his friends. As we entered the restaurant I noticed a woman look at me with wonder. I didn't think much of it. She was sitting alone so I assumed her company (husband or partner) was in the bathroom or something. So I continued walking towards our table in the corner of the restaurant and enjoyed my time with the two friends.

Almost halfway through our meal the lady approached our table with a broken voice and foreign accent. She apologised for her husky tone and said that she just wanted to give me "this" (as she handed me a folded up note). I asked: "Who is this from?" And she replied: "Me." I was stunned. Before I could even register what had just happened, she walked away. She was alone in the end. Both friends looked at me with surprise too. In fact, my friend is more of a ladies man than me, so he was more shocked because a woman approached me instead of him.

When I opened the note it read:
Here for a couple of days, I'd be happy to have a coffee with you (followed by her name and phone number).

Did I contact her? You bet your fapping ass I did! She was only here for 2 days, so time was of the essence. Later that night we met at midnight and hung out. She was a classy lady from Europe and when I asked her why she approached me, she said: "There was this energy about you..."

That has to be the best compliment I've received. Ironically, my friend's friend who was present at dinner predicted exactly that- she said: "You must have an aura about you this evening for her to approach you."

I am so much more grounded, calm and confident since managing my addictive behaviour. She sensed this. Prior to NoFap, I must've been airy, nervous and timid.

I'm now 4 months fap-free and 2 months porn-free. I've developed such resilience that I even delete all sexual content I receive on whatsapp from friends to resist urges and relapses. This strength and self-control is the attractive quality.

It's inevitable; the moment you stop clicking on the digital men and women on your screen, you eventually start clocking onto the physical men and women in real life. Or in this case, they clock onto you.
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Dude you giving me more will than ever to continue my journey!

g2stop · Feb 21, 2019

Yes yes @iaj this is what I want!

iaj · Feb 22, 2019

HighHopesHero said: ↑

Dude you giving me more will than ever to continue my journey!
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Wow, that’s good to hear. I’m glad it helped.

vibemaker · Feb 22, 2019

Awesome

PowerfulSRE · Feb 22, 2019

Good story, thanks for sharing!

jrizzle619 · Feb 23, 2019

Yeah man that is a cool story, I know that doing something healthy for yourself can have some perks. I don't think that this will happen the same for everyone but it is really cool because this story will really give many people hope. Congrats and good luck on your journey.

Wuzzaap · Feb 23, 2019

iaj said: ↑

you eventually start clocking onto the physical men and women in real life
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That is the most true thing i have ever heard

control your life · Feb 24, 2019

congrats on half year man ! well done!

Deleted Account · Feb 24, 2019

i look like a rapist because of my long midface so women avoid me

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