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Please tell me how to stop masturbation forever

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Sakhi, Feb 15, 2019.

  1. Sakhi

    Sakhi Fapstronaut

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    I have struggled to stop masturbation forever so many times. The longest I can go without pmo is 14 days. Then I relapse again. I dont watch porn most of the times now. I didnt watch porn for 20 days.after that again relapsed. The problem is masturbation. I relapse every week. I havent been ablestop it forever.
     
  2. bobross

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    The start is always hard, but you also need a better mental approach. You can't stay clean only 14 or 20 days, you can do it for the rest of your life! And it only comes with lifestyle changes. How long do you spend a day just idly browsing internet? How often does that lead to a relapse?
    You can also search for some articles about what PMO does to you, and read those when urges come. And make yourself a list of reasons why you want to quit. Read it, expand it, and if you relapse, try to understand how it happened, and learn to prevent it
     
  3. Well, if you have no regular normal sex, then
    14 days is hard point, dopamine is highest. Find ways to consume your energy.
    Study, exercise, go out new places/travel, make yourself busy, develop yourself.
    If you are tired enough, you highly likely have no mood to mb.

    Also, guard your mind, and eyes. If you mental masturbate, you are pretty done if
    you haven't learnt to be on control. Control the mind, desires, urges, you're the boss, aren't you?
     
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  4. ImpureHuman

    ImpureHuman Fapstronaut

    The addiction is our mind is hijacked by compulsive behaviour.
    Aim for something greater than the addiction. The recovering from addiction is the way to achieve that aim.
     
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  5. Infrasapiens

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    When I feel aroused I just remember how I don't have a partner and I get sad and the feeling doesn't goes away instantly but the shame manages to slowly drown it.
     
  6. First, maybe you should reset your counter, if you continue to relapse every week.
    Second, you need a proper motivation why to stop masturbation at all forever. If it is because you believe it´s a sin, or with some forced religious intentions behind it, there is a 99% chance that it won´t work. You need a realistic goal to strive for.
     
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  7. Sakhi

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    I totally believe its destroyed my life and my body and I have seen it as a sin. You cannot do it in moderation too. Its addictive..
     
  8. Do you really want to stop masturbating? Check your motives and motivate yourself from them. If your motives are not strong enough for you to stay away from masturbation, then perhaps it is the case to review your thoughts on the subject.
     
  9. Nekkhamma

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    Just today, brother, just today, one day at a time...one moment at a time...one breath at a time...don’t think about forever...don’t think about days and weeks and months...just today...just here and now, finding something other to do than pmo...making new habits...up until now, porn has been the habit...it’s time to make new habits...habits like exercise...habits like setting goals...habits like meditation...habits like learning an instrument or new skill...habits like journaling...habits like coming on this website every day and posting on a couple of threads each day...you can do this..just today, just right here, right now, one day at a time, and then the days start to add up, but just keep it in today, brother, good luck!
     
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  10. Sakhi

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    Brother. Which meditation is best for sexual energy tranmutaion?
     
  11. Nekkhamma

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    I don’t know, brother. I’m no expert, but I know some people do tantric practices, various yoga practices...some people do practices that involve visualizing and contemplating all the different internal and external parts of the body (lung, liver, brain, blood, pus, etc) and that can help to alleviate lust...I think if you experiment, study, and try different things out with an open mind, you’ll find some tools that work for you :)
     
  12. Aquablue

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    The best tool to start the process of transmuting sexual energy the "Mool bandha" practice. This is very simple and helps to raise energy from lower chakras to higher ones. Build up of creative energy (which has its origin in the base chakra and builds up in the sacral chakra as sexual/procreative energy) results in sexual urges if it is not raised up further. This is especially the case if one's mind is focussed on sexual thoughts, as attention is what directs energy to a purpose.

    So the secret of tranmsutation is to use the breath and attention to move energy to higher centres. Initially this is to the solar plexus in the abdomen then to the heart. From the heart you can start manifesting your true self and whatever you need around you to fulfill your purpose in this life. If you go even higher up to the third eye you will obtain a new sense of perception and understanding and see much much more than you currently can. And further up is the crown chakra which connects you to the source of everything - cosmic energy.

    To carry out this practice, you need to ba able to feel the sexual energy in your sacral/ genital region. Close your eyes and pay attention to it. Link it with your breath. Then take a conscious breath of inhalation focussing on the breath as it goes from your upper body down your spine and meets the energy you feel in your sacral area. As you do this contract and hold your PC muscles, so that you have fully clenched this when your breath and attention reach the base of your spine. Hold your breath and attention for a few seconds then slowly and consciously visualise the energy moving up to your abdomen and heart as your breathe out. Repeat this every time you feel a sexual build up and this tension will dissolve as your energy is moved up. You will feel orgasmic energy in your abdomen and then heart. It will then manifest in whatever you choose in a very powerful way. If you want further spiritual growth, you can proceed to higher chakras, and when you connect to cosmic energy, the pleasure is a thousand fold what people experience with usual sexual release from the lower chakras.
     
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