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I am in a bad situation, don't know what to do. GF, PIED and ED Meds

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by jimmymontana12, Feb 11, 2019.

  1. jimmymontana12

    jimmymontana12 Fapstronaut

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    This is going be a long one. I really need help. I don't know what to do anymore. As I look back at the last two years after I broke up with my ex I engaged in very bad PMO. After while Vanilla porn didn't work, got into some fantasies and such. Speed up to January 2018. I got a new girlfriend, but realized I have PIED ( or ED). Tried to have sex and didn't work out. I went to the urologist, tested Testo (was fine) and got ED meds since according to him all was fine. Had sex on meds. Was fine. Was stupid and still PMO from time to time. Fast forward to August/September. Suddenly the meds lose their strength. I was basically living a lie on the meds, never told my girlfriend that I am on them. And now I am in love. When the meds stopped working, I decided NoFap is my only chance. Right now I am 110 no PMO and 60 no MO. Still have sex 1-2 a week. When I try to have sex using ED meds I usually get a 75% erection but cum instantly. Is it fear of going limp because I know the meds don't work good? I used to have sex how long I wanted without pied, also when the meds worked well. Now when fapping and PIV I come in seconds. Not during oral and hj. Did a Doppler, everything is fine. I have no idea what to do. I don't fap, don't watch porn, but have sex/oral with GF on Ed meds. Will I ever be cured? Can't really do hardmode. Can't really explain to her how I lied. I am totally fucked and don't know what to do....can I still reboot while on Ed meds? I think I got a bit better. Longer flaccid penis, some morning wood, some minor random erections. I truly need advice. Do I use the meds and hope to rewire? Do I have another issue than pied? I am 26, blood work and Doppler fine. No depression, no other meds. I am getting tired of living this lie.

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  2. MetaGame

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    Kick the meds, Be honest with ur gf, stop stressing since stress is an erection killer. The way out of this is to stop living the lie and pause all that meds / sex. It sounds like ur healing a little then forcing it and then repeating. Could be psychological as well which is why u should really calm down and be honest. U dont have to explain it in an embarassing way just do it and let her know not to worry ur fixing it.
     
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  3. jimmymontana12

    jimmymontana12 Fapstronaut

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    to be honest I dont know how do it. i thought i will manage to fix it so I have been pushing but not much has changed. i cant suddenly tell her I was using ed meds for last couple of months. out of the question. I think I might just stop usng them and say I dont know whats going on...
     
  4. justwintoday

    justwintoday Fapstronaut

    Hey Jimmy,

    I agree that this seems to be very much a psychological issue. It seems to me that you are psyching yourself out during sex leading the the issues on your side. But, you have no clue if it is any issue with your partner. You need to talk to her for two reasons: 1) a good partner will help you work through this and will make your recovery much faster than trying to do it on your own and 2) keeping it from is causing you undue stress which is making the matter worse (a negative cycle).
    I don't necessarily suggest getting rid of the meds, I feel like they've helped me. But they don't resolve the underlying issue, which is what you need to address. However, if you do choose to keep to the meds I might suggest talking to your Dr. about switching or increasing the dosage to give you a boost. But the best med is the hardest, being honest with your partner. The psychological burden is what is holding you down my friend.
     
  5. jimmymontana12

    jimmymontana12 Fapstronaut

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    Hey man thanks for the advice. Mind if I send you a PM to chat?
     
  6. Peiskos

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    Your testosterone is fine, you’re young, you don’t actually require ED meds, it’s all a mental issue and you clearly have PIED aka Porn Induced Erectitle dysfunction.

    I don’t think you can regain normal natural penis function while on these meds. What you need to do is cease all porn watching immediately, even just looking at photos, stop all touching of your penis except for peeing and bathing.

    Then you simply wait, could be months, could be a year + this is the ONLY path to success.
     
  7. DeepSeaDiver

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    Just reading through want you wrote....all else being equal, you may need to be no PMO for at least a month. Skip sex with the gf during that time too. If you have enough of a reboot, you should be able to pick up with a typical sex life. You also shouldn’t have an issue with an erection of you have done a sufficient reboot. You could use the meds if that helps you with the sex, but if you still feel like your stew took quality isn’t 100%, the don’t worry about them.
     

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