How fast do you get aroused?

That is one weird woman! You are just talking and she bites your bloody arm!?

 

You're not kidding! Lol

 

Well, there certainly isn't a problem per se in being aroused easily. I myself get aroused extremely fast, but in a very controlled manner. It's extremely rare, almost never possible for me to just get randomly aroused. In other cases, where I am really with a woman, I won't get aroused unless the situation calls for it, such as playful flirting, dirty talk or things of the sorts. And of course, sometimes when I am with a woman, my sex drive turns on. For no reason, sometimes your body just says "Hey, I want some sex". But for me all these situations are controllable, almost never out of hand (Used to be a BIG problem when I was a teenager). I can spend the whole day with my girlfriend and not get aroused. But if she starts touching me, kissing me in ways which is obvious she wants to have sex, then yes, my sex drive spikes all the way up. And I personally don't see this as a problem, because it doesn't affect my life in a negative way.

Now, your case is very different from mine obviously. This is affecting your life to the point where it disturbs you and actually makes a negative impact in how you live it, especially when you are interacting with other women. I have been through the same boat as you. My advice for you man, is to just take a break. And I mean really do take a break from seeing women, masturbating, porn, anything explicit that might trigger you. Do not allow yourself to seek pleasure, no matter how desperate you are feeling at the moment. If you have a strong will, you WILL manage to do it. And even if you don't have one, will is like a muscle. Keep training it, and it will get stronger. Never give up friend!

Stay away from seeing other women or talking to them (excluding friends unless they are flings, and family), DO NOT relieve yourself no matter how aroused you may get, and DO NOT satisfy your eyes. Your dopamine levels are through the roof, making so that anything sexual spikes them all the way up and turns your sex drive on 110%. Get used to staying away from all these things, and your dopamine levels will also ajust. You will see in time that you will get less and less aroused, you will find middle ground and have a LOT MORE CONTROL in these kinds of situations. Trust me. I've been there, I've done it, I'm very happy with the results. I went 8 months without masturbating, sex and porn. After those 8 months, I started masturbating again but never went back to porn. But I didn't feel any pleasure or desire to masturbate. To this day, 2 years later, I have had absolutely no desire to masturbate. I've only been having sex periodically, and honestly I am so happy with my progress. It has made me feel much more human, and I hope you feel the same way during this process too! All power to you my friend!

 

I struggle in this. Some days I get aroused so fast with women and other days it’s better. It’s not easy at times when you are so aroused and have no outlet to express it.

We all are men and it’s primal in each one of us to get those urges and get aroused.

My plan is to find a girlfriend and have regular sex so that way my arousal levels are balanced as a man. I’m striving for balanced sex drive.

Porn? Nah. Masturbation? Nah. Sex is necessary for me. So when I’m aroused, I listen to what my body says.

 

I completely understand! Your body seems like it is constantly prepared for the moment, and any time is go time. I wouldn't beat yourself up about feeling aroused. It's important to understand that it is a very natural feeling and you shouldn't be ashamed of it; only if it really makes you lose control and you do some dumb, perhaps illegal things. Of course, I would never accuse you of such a thing; you seem like a perfectly normal person with a perfectly normal issue and you wish to overcome it. More power to you!

I'm glad you considered the thought of taking a break for a while. It can be as long as you need, but I would recommend at least 3 months. During this time, you will feel aroused, you will experience some changes, and you will have MANY ups and downs. These are all normal and necessary for you to get acostumed to helping your dilema. When I started, the first month was tough. Everything was a trigger, and I had to fight hard against going deep into the "pleasure zone". But after the second month, I noticed I stopped getting aroused as often. My mind would wonder as I thought about more important stuff. And on the 3rd month, I could talk more easily to women and not fantasize or imagine what they might look like without clothes. It's all willpower, and we all have the capacity to accomplish anything when we set our minds to it. Some things just take a little more effort than others

And just to add: Your state of being high or drunk is probably because you're so used to quick and easy stimulation from porn and other sources that any trigger will cause that "feel good" high. You need to desensitize yourself from all these sensations and emotions by fighting against them. Be aware of EVERYTHING. Notice when you start fantasizing and stop the thoughts straight away by thinking of something else. Stay away from any and all potencial triggers, and remember that it's going to be a tough road, but you're even tougher

 

Is this about how quickly you get aroused when with an actual woman?

I’m fully recovered, it took a year and change for me and I have a girlfriend and everything, it was a big life turn around for me from where I was.

I think more guys need to understand that not getting an erection while out in public looking at a hot girl is normal. It’s normal to not get an erection when you see a beautiful woman walking around in a mall. I don’t even get those but at the same time I know I’ll get one if I was with her in bed.

To answer the question though I’m at a point now where I get pretty aroused just by holding my girlfriend’s hand and kissing it.