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Struggling with Sissy/Femdom/Humiliation Porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SThompson4555, Jan 12, 2019.

  1. SThompson4555

    SThompson4555 Fapstronaut

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    Anyone else struggling with these genres? Any tips to recover specifically from them?
     
  2. I did have sissy fetish yeah. It reached its peak at about 10 years of being severely addicted.

    Basically you have to quit all porn if you want to ever recover. It's been a year since I last saw porn and only now am becoming really crazy about women again. I recently changed my diet which I believe plays a big part in it as well. Eat a diet that promotes testosterone, preferably one that avoids dairy products.
     
  3. like bken said, you need too quit pmo all together, and exercising a lot and eating healthy, practice self praise mantras and believe it, confidence will return when you allow it and want it to.
     
  4. I would need more context on your situation. How did you get here?
     
  5. Often this stuff is due to classic porn escalation, which happens because after a long time watching porn your brain starts craving novelty in order to get the same rush it used to. So you start watching more extreme, fetishistic, graphic kinds of porn - even though it's not necessarily something you're actually interested in. But then this is confusing because you're like - Why am I PMO'ing to this stuff? It can become very self-destructive over time.

    Like others have said, you have to abstain from all porn (not just the weird stuff) in order to let your brain/body reset back to it's core state. How long this takes depends on how long you've been watching this stuff and how deviant it is and also just individual differences with people. I have noticed that after about a month my normal self starts returning, with the kinds of feelings I naturally have had all my life except when influenced by the type of manipulative porn you mentioned.
     
  6. ReclaimedLife

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    I dont know what a sissy is. Can you please explain i am walking through mud with weights on my joints and a crocodile chasing me. I also have a bikini model that i am carrying on my shoulders.
     
  7. It is a cross-dressing fetish usually started through hypnosis videos where people can comply and do crazier and crazier stuff. It's oddly prevalent and has a good chunk of people addicted to it because it appeals to many peoples insecurities.
     
  8. Breach

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    *Raises hand*

    I think the poster above me nailed it when he wrote that it appeals to peoples insecurities. For me at least I got dragged into it whenever I felt like crap. And it gives you a momentarily sense of relief getting humiliated. But it's not healthy since eventually it's not gonna be just a coping mechanism, it's gonna work its way into your brain and just wreck your self esteem.

    I'm hoping abstinence from PMO will help me, it certainly seems to have helped others here. If you also watch that stuff when you feel like crap then I'd suggest you try and work on that too with whatever steps you can take. Wether it be seeking a psychologist, going to the gym regularly or just going outside for a walk 30minutes a day. Basically I believe that you and me need proper, healthy ways to deal with our insecurities and negative thoughts. A way that doesn't propell us further into misery.

    Good luck!
     
  9. SThompson4555

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    I'm sure insecurities play a large part. I had started out with normal porn, then it escalated to porn where men were dominating women, and then ultimately to porn where women were dominating men, or men dominating men (sissy, humiliation, BBC, cuckolding). To be honest, I'm triggered even talking about it but I feel like I have to. It's strange thinking that I'm reluctant to give up something I don't even want to do in real life.
     
  10. hope2overcome_

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    This was me last 3 months. Somehow I contracted this femdom fetish. I was driven insane by it. One night I just couldn't sleep thinking about it. I must have pmo'd like 5 times. Next morning went to work looking like a zombie.

    Fast forward to today where I am adverse to this kind of porn and i dont even think about it.

    How did I do it?
    Well, my fetish escalated to wanting to visit a professional. Then I started reading reviews and one review, this guy started to describe the scat play he had with his mistress. it was so disgusting, it made me want to vomit. Then I realized, they aren't having any sex, we are confusing the femdom shit with a sexual undertone. Other than wearing revealing clothes, there is nothing sexual at all about any of it. It is simply a man who has gone through some shit in his life making him feel hopeless, disgusted at himself, vulnerable and just sad and then there are this callous stupid women that seek to exploit these men for money by giving them the treatment they want. Just cause these men want it doesn't make it right to give it to them. They need serious psychiatric help. Those girls should be ashamed of themselves for treating men that way. How would they like it if men treated them that way?

    If the aforementioned group is not you. Then, this fetish is a result of porn. The way to fix that is simply acquiescing that there isn't any sex at all there. You are just making it sexual. The video is trying to portray it also but look at it carefully, no sex, no involvement of sexuality, just our minds making things sexual when it shouldn't be. The reason for that can be 2, either escalation as others have said or it is you trying to quit porn but not quitting feeling sexual gratification from images/videos as a result, your brain took on the femdom fetish. The latter was my case.

    What do you really want with a girl? Intimacy? love, etc? But, it's your mind wanting to feel sexual gratification from watching these videos that is making you into this strange individual you don't recognize.
     
  11. ReclaimedLife

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    All it does is making you feel worse about yourself mate. You start resenting woman and men at the same time. Woman because they treat men like this and men because the let the woman treat them this way.

    Come with me, i am climbing a mountain and am currently fighting a grizzly bear because he thinks he can sleep in my cave. Silly bear.
     
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  12. Pussyaversionadict

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    i too have a full blown addiction to sissy hypnosis, brainwashing, cock conversion, pussy aversion and forced gay. i am or at least was a straight male all though a virgin. Things have been progressing steadily and once i actually started corresponding with one particular clip Lady the intensity of my addiction has really gotten bad. She has increased the intensity of my brainwashing and im afraid soon i will be meeting a man that She has been incurraging me to do. i don't know how to stop this. The clips just feel so good.
     
  13. hope2overcome_

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    Why?
    Dopamine. You channeled your sexual identity to porn like most modern men. When you get horny you think porn. That was just the starting point. For one reason or another, trying to get away from hardcore porn, or escalation you started to watch femdom porn. Now, your sexual identity is still attached to porn but femdom porn.

    How to stop it?
    What if you never watched femdom porn but witnessed a dominatrix and slave session. You would not really get turned on because seeing it first hand you will realize there is a minor sexual undertone but in reality it is not sexual. It literally is a man who is hard on himself probably hates himself getting taken advantage of by some woman who is trying to make a quick buck. She goes home and think "my goodness, i feel so sorry for those men. They must have been abused when they were younger" as said one domme from an internet article i read(not gonna link here). It is really exploitation. We as kids who started our sexual journey watching porn are used to exploitation. We need to see outside this lens. We know this is not fulfilling, its the dopamine being connected to the reward center which makes it desireable. But it is not fulfilling. When we fantasize the dopamine triggers and we may think of fantasies that make the scenario salacious enough to pmo to but in reality its not. Your fantasies may be pushing you to see this guy but when you are there you will realize how bad of a decision this was. And...after the fact? You will not wanna look at yourself ever again. I have been there. Not worth the headache at all. And....all that pain..... because of some dopamine infused fantasies that made the idea desirable. Please dont do that to yourself.
     
  14. Pussyaversionadict

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    Thanks for the post, i really don't know wat i will do but will probably end up doing it. This feels to good to stop
     
  15. hope2overcome_

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    be prepared for the consequences which will not be pleasant.
     
  16. Pussyaversionadict

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    Why is Goddess egging me on to do this then? She says this is destiny this is who i truly am She says how good it will be? Sorry, this is so confusing. The clips and Her words are so good and hypnotic. When i watch and listen.
     
  17. It's simply a dopamine filled lie designed to bring you misery. Please figure it out before it is too late. Remember why you came here.
     
  18. ZenAF

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    You're playing a game dude. Believe me you do.
    I've played it too. First we watch out of curiosity. What is hypnosis? That stuff can't work! And you watch it and you think "Just as I thought, it doesn't work." But you're still curious and then you start to play along. You know it doesn't actually work, they can't just gain control over you like that, but when you act like they can it feels good. And so you keep playing that game. Over and over again.
    Until you forget that you're playing.

    You're most likely not gay, you're not a "sissy" and she doesn't have any control over you. All you want is to feel good. That's it. And you see that stuff as a reliable source of feeling good.

    There are other sources. Natural sources. Real women! ;) Not dom's just normal women. Sounds lame compared to femdom? Well that's just because you don't know how good a real woman can be. It can't be put into words how much better a proper sexual relationship is compared to that sissy crap.

    If you want to be free of that stuff, you need to convince yourself that you are eating sexual junk food while there's much better stuff out there. You need to stop wanting to play the game.
    That's up to you and you alone. Mistress has no say in it whatsoever. She never had any power over you in the first place. You let her have it. You can take it away anytime.

    But as long as you think it's better than anything else (which it isn't believe me) you're not going to get away..
     
  19. hope2overcome_

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    Simple. She wants power. They are mentally unstable. They take on two personas. One where she is a normal girl and then when she is working, she is a dominatrix and anyone can predict what they want. She see's your vulnerability and is exploiting it by ushering you to go forward with this because as a dominatrix that is all she can do. She thinks it is what she has to do. They also derive satisfaction from this because it gives them power. Now, imagine you dont call her goddess and you dont submit to her, she will have no power.

    Let me tell you a story of my experience with a dominatrix. I was vacationing out to san diego one night and at 2 am i couldn't sleep, I was watching too much femdom. The novelty was too much for me to handle, it just felt soo good. I couldn't ignore. I must have called her like 20 times at 2 am. Finally, we set up a time and i was at her house int he middle of nowhere. Everytime she tried to tell me what to do and how to behave. I wasn't feeling that. But, at the back of my mind that dopamine rush, that feeling of unfulfilled sexual gratification was there. I stayed and i did everything she told me to do but i just couldn't handle someone telling me what to do in real life. For everything she said I said something in return. I removed her from her dominatrix pedestal. It made her feel powerless that in my true self i am not a submissive it was just porn videos making me do this. I told her I am leaving. She yells out. "Security!!!" and this ex-cop her husband runs downstairs with a gun and I yell, "OK ill go forward with this." But while laying down i realize there is no sexual gratification from any of this. The whole thing playing in my mind was the fantasies I cooked up while watching porn that turned into cravings and I felt unless i give into to it, i wont be satisfied or happy. SO, I told her i still want out. It
    s okay if you keep the money. Its fine. And, her and I had a meaningful conversation. She was a normal sweet human being. Not the dominatrix she portrays herself when she is working. As are all of them. Our minds process cravings differently. It creates vulnerabilities and the novelty of the whole thing causes cravings which in itself becomes a vulnerability anyone can exploit. It isn't her exploiting you, it is you exploiting you to go forward with this due to cravings.

    Cravings are such a thing, it bases its power of some foundations, 1.) Fear of missing out, the fear that if you dont go forward with the cravings you are missing out on pleasure. 2.) You want immediate desire...now What the cravings present seems like heaven.

    Of course, both are not what the body wants it is what the mind wants due to conditioning. And, both are false desires. We are used to getting what we want now so when faced with the same situation we get confused. Really, the way to handle cravings are to let it go because when we do the true desire becomes apparent which is wanting a girlfriend in an equal masculine/feminine relationship. Not the dom/sub ones, thats cravings talking. Instead of experimenting with such a stupid thing which will hurt you badly. Try to not entertain thos ethoughts and you will realize those were fabricated thoughts birthing cravings. Not true desires. Find you, the real you without cravings or porn induced fantasies.
     
  20. Pussyaversionadict

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    Everyone has given me some really good advice and i thank everyone. Not sure what i will do yet as i still can't see myself without Goddess or without the hypnosis. At this time im afraid im to much of an addict and need the sissy/gay hypnosis, cock conversion and pussy aversion. Goddess is everything to me i need Her to badly. Besides, as She said, She knows a lot about me?
     

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