How to deal with nudity in art classes ?

Hi Buddy,
Thank you for sharing this story, it's excellent that you have found the root of your situation.

You have to start interacting with people! To start it seems very scary, but watch this and I guarantee you will get new ideas!

 

Wow what a story. I feel blessed about all the obstacles I've faced in my life, because it's the journey that matters. When you build your life together little by little from scratch, you won't take ordinary things for granted. You will appreciate everything you've worked hard for. I have never envied or will ever envy anyone whose had a normal, happy life because when I look back at where I came from, it makes me feel overwhelmed. I did all of that, now I'm at a level where other normal people are, but I went through a lot so I will never take this for granted. Though it is important to remember that everyone has gone through shit, but only few have experienced things like you. That makes you different, and stronger. You dream of getting rid of your problems, this dream is very achievable. One day, you won't experience all these issues but you have to work for that day. Stopping PMO once and for all is a necessary starting point. My tip for quitting is shifting your focus to real life relationships. Fantasizing and masturbating about girls you've seen in your daily life is asocial, you have to socialize with them. Not view them as objects, but as beautiful human beings.

 

The musician when learning a tune or composing is involved in the techniques of the art, so maybe there is a parallel there.
Try to view as an artist not an objectifier. Plus simply continue to learn how to control/channel your desires. I know, not always so easy!

 

I agree with this advice @su1cide. When you are in art class, yes it is all about the body. But make a disconnect between the body and sex. Concentrate on the muscle tone and the hues in the skin etc. But when you encounter boys and girls in real life, look inside for their humanity. Rather than objectify them, discover their hidden attributes and connect with them as a person. Not as somebody possessing a dick and balls or boobs/butt or visualizing their pussy. That's out of bounds!

 

I am actually a nude model and am so grateful that most of my clients respect me and see me for who I am. One of the women even expressed that I remind her of her daughter. It is refreshing to know that I can be completely naked and that people can see the human within my body.

 

I remember having to draw a nude model in college. She was quite overweight and I remember hearing some snickering around me. I felt bad for the girl but envied her at the same time for being so comfortable in her own skin. Never really thought about it since, until I saw this thread.

 

So Beautiful.

 

I have also been in such art classes. My advice is to study the anatomics of the woman and don't see her as flesh for lust, see her as a person.

 

IMO, this isn't a situation where you can worry about it. This is real life stuff that you just have to sort of "man up" and not let it trigger you, let your pre frontal cortex override any bullshit from your limbic system in a situation like that. There are going to be situations like that in your life that you just have to rise above - imagine the next time you go to a beach or a public pool and see beautiful women in bikinis - just gotta be cool with that and learn to appreciate beautiful women rather than immediately feel like you gotta masturbate to make the desires go away. Just sorta smile to yourself or even at the women and give them a greeting nod and move on. You'll get used to these kinds of situations.