32 years old, no libido or sex drive, can't get hard even with porn

To be honest with you, I think we should admit that you are no longer in your early 20s and it is common to see a drop in libido to some extent. Age plays a huge role when it comes to recovery and we can all agree on the younger you are the quicker you recover. I am not going to comment on how your online relationship broke you, instead I would focus on the fact that you push your D to its limit for a long and consecutive period of time. You mentioned you still get nocturnal erections from time to time, which means you are not suffering from physical ED (ie there is nothing wrong with your dick), but either psychological ED and/or PIED. I would say after you butchered your excalibre for years with hard core stroking and beating, together with the rather brutal use of suppliments, you cannot expect to recover from this rotten state with merely 3 weeks of nofap. It feels like you have beat it to the brink of destruction and then revive it with suppliments and V-pills just to stroke it for another hundred times. I doubt even a full 90 days hard mode reboot would help the situation. Give it at least 6 months if you can. That is, no PMO at all for 6 months, including sex. See if it gets any better. Of course, I bet the majority of this community are not medical practitioners hence this will be the best we can tell you. If you are still very concerned about your ED situation, you are advised to seek proper medical attention.

 

It's very clear that you need to stop looking at porn, jerking off and taking any sorts of erection pills immediately. You are still young enough to recover from this but you won't be for much longer.

 

What is proper Sex? Any situation where you exchange money for sex won't give you proper sex.
And for some of us, it is super ******* hard to find girl we like, we want to sleep with, that also likes us.

I am in a similar situation, i am turning 32 this year, had a very similar past with technically no woman at all until 31 and having used porn as the only means of being in contact with pretty naked girls whatsoever.
Only difference is that i've now had beautiful mutual sex with a pretty girl.
But that wasnt a coincidence. I knew i had a problem, did everything i could to address it and after a lot of losses, eventually succeeded.

What i would recommend for you is:

Stop watching porn in any form or shape. NO ******* EXCEPTIONS!!!
Sounds generic, but go to the gym and start working out. Woman can feel how you feel about yourself from a mile away. Make yourself happy about yourself, try to make a list about what bothers you the most about yourself, give them priorities and work on them from hardest to easiest. I had issues all my life because of my dicksize. I know i am average and that made me think i am inadequate.
Girls especially HATE that. The only thing they actually hate is us complaining about our shortcomings. She might not even have an issue with my dick and my brain still told me that she has. That shit is toxic af and we need to address that.
I started walking around naked with my head up high in the gyms locker room every time i went to the shower.
Before, i would just cover myself every chance i get and look to the ground the whole time.
You must learn to own who you are mate.
Tall, Small, Big, Thin, whatever.

Look at what upsets you about yourself first and tackle it. Dont try to change things you dont have control over and NEVER, EVER compare yourself to other guys..
You are living your own life and only you are your own comparison. Improve based on what you can do better for yourself.

Sports
Nutrition
Hobbies outside (dancing classes etc...)
Face fears i.e. Skydiving/Spider therapy/Social Anxiety (super important and character changing, trust me)
If you have trouble with talkign to girls, i highly suggest working on yourself first

I know you can do it.
But you MUST be willing to put in the effort.

 

Quit porn for good, drink lots of water and only eat foods that weren't processed by man. Avoid dairy all together.

 

Just curiously, why do you say to avoid dairy? I eat pretty well but I do enjoy milk either by itself or sometimes with chocolate flavouring.. Is it bad for T levels or something like that?

 

It's full of the cow's hormones (which as you probably know are female hormones, i.e. estrogen). It will have antibiotics in it as well, and God knows what else. Rest assured dairy is a major endocrine disruptor and can therefore affect testosterone levels.

 

Damn! I've always been a drinker of milk because I find it good for keeping weight on (I'm a naturally skinny guy). I'll be doing a bit of research on this and I think I'll be cutting out the milk! Thanks man

 

If you've been suffering from ED I think it will do you a lot of good. Dairy probably won't hurt in very small amounts but if you've been consuming milk products on a daily basis then it could be messing with your hormones for sure, most likely even affecting levels of testosterone. (edit: don't replace dairy with soy bcause that can affect testosterone levels too)

 

I too am suffering from ED.
When you say all porn what about thumbnails from YouTube video because I've been getting random recommended videos and they have underwear pics on the thumbnails? I mean there's stuff everywhere you look.

 

Meditate
Go to the gym
Do yoga
Eat healthy
Avoid artificial stimulation of dopamine.....alchohol, drugs, excessive caffeine
Stop touching your dick
Read up on adrenal fatigue, the recovery process is similar

 

My bad, what I meant was any kind of sex, vaginal or BJ, voluntary or paid. I agree the use of the term 'proper' is superfluous.

 

That's true if you live in US. EU countries have very strict rules regarding antibiotics and no growth hormones are allowed, so drinking milk should be OK. Milk is one of the healthiest drinks/food you can have on pair with eggs if you don't suffer form lactose intolerance or dairy allergy: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41430-018-0187-x

 

Milk causes loads of acne problems, eczema, breast cancer in women, loads of other shit, no reason to enjoy milk unless it is cashew or nut milk )

 

Yes please don't worry about your dick. Keep doing of what you doing, that means don't do anything and don't watch anything. You will go through huge flatline (probably more than one) and then you will reboot your brain even when it comes to erection. But you must find a different life hobby for yourself because otherwise, you will get back to it afterward.

 

Body gets used to it, don't worry about it. I developed some problems after 200 days into "monk mode" but your main goal should be to cure your PIED and have healthy sex life with your partner not go loco with long term abstention. I'm not against MB per se, probably 3 times a week is OK for someone who has not developed sexual compulsive behavior like PMO, but for us long term addicts, probably not.

 

Milk is not helpful in any form at all, not even yogurt. But some people don't have reactions to it. I drink nut milk. Coconut, cashew, almond milk and so on. Regarding ejaculation - When your body needs to clean the pipes you will have a wet dream, your body knows how to take care of itself.