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what should i do

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by JayYoung, Dec 25, 2018.

  1. JayYoung

    JayYoung Fapstronaut

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    Whenever I start psychosexuality, I stop myself from masturbating. But when I go to bed at night, I will have spermatorrhea. I don't know if it is as harmful as masturbation, and I don't want to do that
     
  2. Soccer14

    Soccer14 Fapstronaut

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    Hi JayYoung,

    I don't know what, "psychosexuality" is, and when I did a quick google search I didn't get a clear answer. I also had to google search, "spermatorrhea" as well. In the future, consider defining words like this to make it easier for readers to understand. I think if you do this you'll get more support. Many people will just look at another posting rather than take the time to look up words they don't understand.

    My advice would be, don't worry about it. Stay focused on what is important: abstaining from pornography and masturbation. As long as you do this, whatever you experience, is simply part of the healing process. We all experience withdrawal symptoms of some sort, and these are simply the ones you're having. Just remember that they are temporary, and as long as you continue to abstain from porn and masturbation, you are on the road to recovery. Just remember that it is a terribly unpredictable road. It's just your job to allow them to run their course. All withdrawal symptoms go away if you don't react to them and continue to avoid porn and masturbation.

    On this site people talk about the importance of abstaining from porn, masturbation, and orgasm (PMO). The first two are really the most important. If you're orgasming naturally or spontaneously (as is the case with spermatorrhea), this is nothing to worry about. It's natural, and is just your body's way of healing itself. Same thing with wet dreams. If this happens, not to worry. This is a withdrawal symptom that is part of the healing process. Some people who are in relationships can orgasm without porn or masturbation. Many of these people feel that to heal fully, they have to avoid orgasm from intercourse with their partners as well for some period of time.

    If by "psychosexuality" you mean fantasizing/thinking about porn/women/sex, this is something that also goes away over time. Don't try to force yourself to stop thinking about porn or sex. You can't do this and it's not a healthy thing to force yourself to do. Whenever you notice that you are thinking about porn/women/sex, just notice that it's happening and understand that it will pass, as long as you don't indulge it (start masturbating or watching porn). Just be kind to yourself and remember, "This is normal. This will pass." I would recommend meditation to help you practice this kind of patience/objective observation. Meditation will teach you how to observe what happens in your mind and learn how to avoid reacting to it. Just do a google search for, "Guided meditations on the breath" or "Annapana guided meditation".
     
    Last edited: Jan 6, 2019
  3. JayYoung

    JayYoung Fapstronaut

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    Sorry, I don't know how to translate these words. But I think you understand what I mean, it's just as you guessed it at the end. I always fantasize about women and can't control myself
     

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