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Why Should I Quit?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by AUTiger7222, Jan 9, 2019.

  1. LoyalKnight

    LoyalKnight Fapstronaut

    Nobody can force you to quit here mate. I am fighting is addiction since September 2016 and I intend to fight it until I die.

    You will live once. Do you want to live and die as an addict who PMO's himself to an early grave or do you actually want to do something with your life?

    It is ultimately your choice.
     
  2. I think that I understand your question now.

    Everyone has a passion, but not everyone has found it yet.

    We can't tell you what your passion is. Only you can discover it.

    Here is what I s suggest that you do.
    • You've already made an appointment for therapy. Fantastic! I hope that it helps. Be patient, because these things take time.
    • Set yourself up for a hard reboot. Delete your porn stash (yes, I know that's scary). Install a porn blocker. Change your badge to PMO. Yes, I realise that you might reset a few times; that's OK.
    • Get involved with any type of charity, community or volunteer work where you'll meet people. It doesn't matter what type as long as it fits within your ethics.
    Charity, community or volunteer work is a great way for people like you to find some sort of meaning in life. It probably won't lead you directly to your passion (whatever it might turn out to be), but it will be a first step.

    Keep posting. We're here for you.
     
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  3. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    Why? So I can get a life? That would be great. I'd love to get a life but I can't beg someone to give me a job. I can't beg someone to be my friend. I can't beg someone to love me.
     
  4. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    Yes.
     
  5. countitjoy5

    countitjoy5 Fapstronaut

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    Do you want to lose out on everything that is worthwhile in this life for the sake of some worthless sin?
     
  6. Headgoodrin

    Headgoodrin Fapstronaut

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    Brother..you have to reflect on you life..if you re not a Christian, maybe you can find enlightenment if you study the bible and maybe join the Christian religion..dln t give up brother..porn is very dangerous and it corrupts our mind..our Lord loves you brother.you are not alone
     
  7. No you can’t beg for those things but if you quit porn you’ll have so much more time and motivation that you can apply to other things.
     
  8. Jerome5

    Jerome5 Fapstronaut

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    If it’s not a problem for you then don’t quit. Some people are happy just fapping or whatever. It’s when it becomes a recognisable problem or is holding you back, then it’s tie. To do something.
     
  9. Uhh… yes, that's right. Beggars generally don't get much.

    You have to get out and get them.

    Finish school first. Do your absolute best, not because anyone tells you to, but because it will give you the best chance. You won't appreciate how much so until after you've finished.

    Ask what kind of a person do you need to be for sometime to want you as a friend. A whingeing wimp? A complainer? A loser porn-watching fapper? Someone who gives up and takes the easy way out? A needy beggar? Seriously, would you want someone like that as a friend?

    Nope. You need to be a role model. A man who knows what he wants, and doesn't give up no matter how hard it is. You don't make excuses but instead keep trying new, different ways until you succeed. You don't accept shit from others, and likewise you don't give shit to others — you're strong and firm but not a bully. You are a role model because people want to be like you.

    That's why we say, "Get a life." Not, "Beg a life." Because, frankly, a life begged isn't worth it.
     
  10. Nobody here cant help you unless you do. I think you have a lot of reasons to quit, you are just covering your eyes to your problems because you are in your comfort-zone and are convinced that everything is "so far so good."

    I noticed you are going to school, so far everything is somewhat alright, im assuming. You spend most of your time in your bedroom because you can. But what when life pops out that bubble of comfort zone and you need to take care of yourself and maybe other people ?

    If all of us waited for something magic to happen to us, every single fapstronaut would be addicted to this day.

    Let me tell you that i had very similar thoughts like you, i would tell to myself i have no reasons to quit because there should be a perfect time for my mind to "click" and then i would be this awesome James Bond like guy with superpowers and i would revenge everyone who got into my way when i "was an addict". Except i am no longer 16, i am almost 22 and shit only got worse and circumstances never got better, nothing "clicked". Now that i have delayed everything, pain is 10x times more harsh as once you get hit by life things arent so simple you are not free to choose whatever you want without suffering consequences.

    Many times i have felt sad, anxious, very very suicidal, nervous, brain fog, depression(many of these i feel to this day), I also am very terrible student, i would always complain to my friends how nothing is good in my life, how i dont have luck and so on and so on.
    Ohh and those friends arent really that close of friends, so yeah.

    And you know what, i stopped feeling pity for myself and i came to conclusion i need to do something ASAP, even though i felt like i want to pull out my dick and jerk off couple of days ago, i took a notebook and i wrote every single thought that i had, went out for a walk and started to force and discipline myself towards better life. Because ohh man i am tired of being terrible at everything, i am tired of playing with my imagination how everything would be great while i would not do jack shit about it, i am tired of being this socially awkward guy that cant look nobody in the eye, cant lead a proper conversation with anyone but my parents, im tired of being a shitty student, im tired of being negative about everything and everyone, i am simply tired of this life filled with shitty habits that consume me slowly but surely, i want to do something out of my life and i had wasted my time for long enough.

    Yes i feel urges, cravings, anxiety, depression, brain fog and all other emotions and responsibilities ... Yeah i can jerk off to my favorite pornstars except i am fully aware that wont change anything and i must accept the fact i need to suffer in the process of making something good out of myself.

    So in the end, its all up to you. None of us here cant help you unless you make an action, you can keep delaying and being blind to your problems and keep on running from them. Or you can start doing something about them and work towards fixing your life.
    Remember, there is only one solution to your problems ... there is no middle ground here.

    You can avoid and mask your problems with porn and masturbation all you want, except those problems will never run away and they will keep growing and growing, and then you can keep medicating yourself with porn and masturbation again but problems will still keep growing and then again you can keep going with PMO cycle to numb those problems down a bit, but the cold truth is those problems you ignore would only keep growing bigger and bigger and you would end up being consumed by this vicious PMO but its okay, you would be waiting things to "click" in your head - But they never do, so you keep waiting and waiting, time stomps you, you look around after time has passed so damn quickly, but no wishes and dreams were accomplished because the "click" in your head did not come at all.

    Or you can stop pitying yourself, start working on bettering yourself right now and when time passes by you find yourself becoming what you wanted to be, laughing at those bad PMO days and looking yourself in the mirror with pride, getting ready for another day to be slayed with your awesomeness, walking around with no shame and confidence radiating around everyone who is in your presence ... Having everything you ever wanted.

    In the end, you have all people of NoFap willing to do their best to help you because we want you and everyone else to dominate your own world and be your own pilot.
    However, they cant help you unless you dont want to help yourself you cant start doing anything yesterday or tomorrow, the only time you can start doing something is in the present moment, time is ticking my friend do not waste it.

    Damn, i made this one too long now dindt i ...
     
    Last edited: Jan 10, 2019
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  11. Those are cool statements. I'm going to adopt them, thank you!
     

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