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I can't stop masturbating

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Lonelyboy759, Jan 3, 2019.

  1. Lonelyboy759

    Lonelyboy759 New Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys well I'm new to nofap here well I've been watching porn when I was in 5th grade well now I have stop watching porn but, I always keep masturbating. IDK but, quitting masturbation is just so hard for me what should I do?
     
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  2. Thomas8

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    Understand what need that masturbation is providing you then find a more productive way to fulfil that need. There a book called the power of habits, recommend reading it. Goes those how to break bad habits.
     
  3. jwitcher

    jwitcher Fapstronaut

    Hey bud.
    Don't worry, you're not alone in this journey to overcome this bad habit.
    Think of it this way - it's not worth spending 5 seconds of your day just chasing that urge, when you can do more in that day.
    Do find better habits, like Thomas above me said.

    Good luck.:)
     
  4. Brother,

    This is indeed a difficult road. I will share with you what insight I have.

    I have a very dark sexual history, I used the sensation and chemicals which I gained from fapping/intercourse truly like a drug. But there was more to it. This is a very insidious addiction.

    If you recall back when you were younger, I am willing to bet that you felt shame and guilt for what you were doing, especially if you were looking at porn. See shame and guilt become a drug unto themselves. The more that you feed them, the more your mind is addicted to them, they will at certain points try to drag you down, very low. Depression, anxiety, all of the physical effects that can come these are states of the mind. The mind becomes accustomed to them. You begin to thrive on the guilt and shame which then manifest into all the other things I just mentioned and far more.

    The truth is hard to swallow, the more you chase things which are immoral and negative for you, the more you will chase them. The simple reason; they are hollowing you out! You can try to fill this void with nearly anything. Trust me when I tell you that there is nothing on this Earth you can truly fill it with. Its all temptation, the temptation to debase yourself, to degrade yourself, and its is honestly evil. I know that may sound a little extreme, I know that many believe that there is no such thing, that all is relative. This you need to answer for yourself.

    We become what we partake of, brother! Be more than mere empty temptation. You are stronger than you may think. But to truly kick this, you will have to redefine and recreate who you are. For me, this is only possible through God the creator, and I am certain this is a universal truth.
     
  5. fthis6464

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    The power of habit should be required reading for all trying nofap. Another amazing book I just finished is The Willpower Instinct. It had so many methods I never have even heard of, and made me realize how I act and make willpower decisions every day.
     
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  6. youngweef

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    Idle hands are the devils workshop. If I get bored, my mind wanders down those habitual avenues. If you look at my status history, you'll learn that I went 120ish days PMO free. My secret was keeping busy and minimalizing alone time when I felt weak. Worked great. Then I relapsed one random day because I hooked up with a girl, missed the sensation and the rest is history.
     
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  7. You can stop, you just don't know how to yet. What you mean is 'I haven't been able to stop yet'.
    Read, learn, and gain experience...
     
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  8. Coolyorky

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    It can become a substitute for real life feelings and events. Instead of feeling good about going to the gym or completing a project fapping feels good but you didn’t have to work for it. Fapping is a free high. In life feeling good (dopamine being released) comes from a mission accomplished. Doing something worth doing. Most guys on here including me know what you’re going through brother!


    Doing the same things over and over achieve the same results. Make changes until something works for you and you beat this. This is serious.

    You can do it
     
  9. CreamyLucious

    CreamyLucious Fapstronaut

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    If you don’t mind sharing, what was the reason you wanted to start this journey?

    The reason I ask is because my reason is that I want to return to having normal healthy sex with women. But P addiction has taken me to what I hope is just PIED.

    But your comment stood out to me because I noticed you said you did 120 days- before you achieved that, did you have erextion issues with women??
     
  10. youngweef

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    Yes, I did have PIED. The very first time(s) I had sex, I had a hard time maintaining an erection. Sucks. But I didn't know it was because of porn. That happened in 2013. I didn't start my 120 day streak until '16. After 120(ish) days, I had stronger erections but I still didn't feel at 100%. Maybe 75-80.. I started because excessive pmo caused alot of issues in my personal life. The anxiety when it came to talking to women and the lack of motivation to even attempt to were overwhelming. I wanted to kick the bad habit and move on with my life so I could feel at ease and possibly have a real relationship. Do it for yourself first. Now if I could only take me down advice. I'm on day 0. Best of luck.
     

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