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Recovery seems slow... VEEERY slow

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by BigCheese23, Jan 1, 2019.

  1. BigCheese23

    BigCheese23 Fapstronaut

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    'Sup dudes,

    Like many of you, I started watching porn pretty much as soon as puberty hit, probably around age 12 or 13, don't remember. Been addicted and trying to quit ever since, which is a story that's waaay too complicated to convey in one post. My longest streak ever was 2.5 months, which was years ago, and a few 1-month streaks here and there ever since. My current - and hopefully final - streak is 2 months, as of yesterday, which I'm proud of.

    I don't know if any of you have had this experience, but recovery seems particularly slow for me. I don't feel much different at all from when I was watching porn all the time, albeit maybe a little less enthusiastic about life... What's the term for that, flatline? Anyway, I've read many a success story on these forums describing dramatic and noticeable differences happening as soon as 1 month after stopping porn use, and it's not that I'm impatient - Like I said, I want this to be my final streak - just concerned. Anyone else experience slow recovery?
     
  2. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    Yes sir. I've seen here people swearing they started to feel better after TWO years, and also after just 20 days. I'm in my 40 something days and I don't feel so good, but I dont feel as bad as when I'm continuously fapping. Give it time man, you'll feel better soon
     
  3. I’m still very much in a flatline sexually. No libido and shrivelled, hard flaccid cock. Withdrawals have got a lot better with some even dissapearing.
     
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  4. Anonymous86

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    What is a hard flaccid exactly? My dick is shrivelled except it's like softer. I kind of hope it's the same thing?
     
  5. BigCheese23

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    Thanks a lot, guys. For a while there my mind was trying to play the "oh, you're not getting any better, so porn is clearly not the issue, may as well fap again" card. Glad to know it's not just me.

    Happy new year, by the way!
     
  6. AvengerOne2019

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    I wonder if you have another underlying issue that is the problem. I know that PMO ruined our lives but maybe, just maybe, you have an illness or something.
     
  7. BigCheese23

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    How many days has it been for you?
     
  8. Fallensoldier1

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    This, yes. This happens to me often still even now. I have had some days and moments of feeling great and such positivity. But not many, even now at my 90 days. Very discouraging. But I’m trying to keep going. I did 90 days hardmode so if the opportunity comes up for sex, I would try it. But I still don’t want to PMO. But I am having urges to look at P again.
     
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  9. MarinoBigFan1984

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    I’m in my 40s and know from experience recovery takes a long time. Older dicks heal slower and are more affected by relapses. Recovery time is very slow. It’s part of the price we pay for addiction.
     
  10. aerokus

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    This is exactly the card my mind always likes to play. Stick with it, 2 months is a great streak, good luck!
     
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  11. Don't forget that puberty is a crucial time for brain development, especially when it comes to sexuality. In essence you've wired your brain to think of masturbation and porn as the norm. So doing that for 10 years is like a permanent blueprint that is there in your brain telling you PMO is what you should do to feel normal. If you've done this for years your brain is going to be particularly stubborn about parting with this habit. In fact it can get pretty ugly once you decide to quit pmo. In case of severe addiction, especially when you discovered porn at that age, long recovery times are not abnormal.
     
  12. Yup, me too, I’m 46, and I’m pretty certain that my recovery is gonna be slow, pmo addicted since early teens, ed starting to show 3/4 years ago, flatline hit earlier this year, I know I’m recovering as I don’t feel suicidal anymore, and brain fog lifting, anxiety down a little, have wood when sleeping,
    I’m trying to be positive about it, like it will give me time to sort my life
    If my libido came back now, as much I’d like that, I don’t know if I’ll have control
    So at least with time I can do yoga, meditation, etc for when it does
    I’m also forming a strong Bond with my wife
    Lots of cuddling, kissing
     
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  13. It can take years
     
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  14. No it just takes a long time for some of us. Some people have had a continuous two year flatline.
     
  15. RollerCoaster

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    Yeah, knowing that it is very hard for me to stay positive and believe in the success of a reboot :/
     
  16. phwrancesco

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    you need at least a 90 days streak man, only after that you can decide if keep rebooting or change strategy.
     
  17. Uncomfortably Numb

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    IMO if the addiction ran deep the recovery will be equally long and slow.
    However, you CAN do this
     
  18. This has been my experience. When I first started rebooting back in 2012 and had my first half decent streak in 2013 of 77 days, I felt a bit of libido towards the end and even had a rock hard boner when I relapsed to porn, I didn’t even manually stimulate, I jizzed from visual stimulation. Now I’m 15 months in still flatlining but a lot happier.
     
  19. MarinoBigFan1984

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    I’m figuring I need a good 6 months to get strong boners back. I want a dick that is strong, straight, and can perform.
     
  20. sleepysapphic

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    6 months does seem like a long time, but consider the time it took to develop, sustain, and suffer through addiction and it's after effects. In the long run, 6 months to change the outlook of the entire rest of your life is actualy pretty amazing.
     

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