New Here - Death Grip

I have just read your description, but I am still not clear what you do. You just say that you rub the head of your penis on you, or on her. That would seem to suggest your glans penis is very sensitive, yet all your other comments indicate that it is desensitised.

 

Morning wood is triggered by a different mechanism than erection by sexual arousal - it's like a reflex.

Probably. Stop using porn. Stop masturbating in any fashion. Wait - let the dick and especially your brain recover. Nobody can say how long - lots of people use 90 days but there is nothing magic about that number. Then try to "rewire" to sex with a woman. Search here or at https://www.yourbrainonporn.com for rewiring.

I don't know.

Again, morning wood is like a reflex, it doesn't involve your mind the way sexual arousal does. Be glad you have it, it means it's not a physical problem. (Some here have lost Morning Wood, but it comes back for many after a long enough time with no PMO.)

It seems quite likely.

I don't know. Probably. But a long period of no PMO is going to be needed to deal with the PIED in any case, so you'll find out.

 

Same iss

 

I have a similar issue. I wake up rock hard. Even get one at night when I think about sex. Whenever my wife and I try it either never gets erect or erect enough to penetrate. I know it’s because of P. I just hope through abstinence of P. And learning to appreciate my wife I can achieve a normal errection.

 

What sex are you thinking about at those times? If it's porn fantasy, this is part of PIED. If it's thinking about actual sex with your partner, then maybe you've got performance anxiety .

 

First: I am not an expert. At all.

Well, maybe. It sounds like you've come a long way, if you no longer have ED, but still can't get orgasm from vaginal intercourse . Some would advise: no orgasms allowed, except the desired sort. That's a hard thing to do, i know. I don't know the answer, because giving yourself blue balls doesn't sound good. But maybe it's the only way.

It has worked for lots of guys here, according to them. Maybe some damage can't be undone - but i can't think of any other way to attack it.

I'm going to have to admit that i don't know if I'm fully back to "normal" - being able to climax from vaginal sex. I'm perfectly ok with my partner finishing me off with mouth or hands . That's because i have no relationship - i only use escorts, because I'm 63, not in a relationship, and none on the horizon.

This is all to say that vaginal intercourse for me always involves a condom. It feels ok, but so far i haven't orgasmed that way. I'll have to admit that i haven't tried it very long. So my expertise is very limited.

 

Sorry to hear things aren't so good. Keep fighting.

 

Sex with my wife

 

Well, that's interesting. But you're new, if you're just breaking free of PMO, things are very likely to get better, though it's hard to say just when. The fact that you get hard thinking about your wife sounds encouraging.

 

Hi @Whatname from what I understand from your first post, the method you have been using to M all your life will definitely have caused the skin on your glans to thicken, thus causing you to have less sensation over time. This might be more pronounced if you are circumcised.

Also, your inability to O from conventional stimulation and sex is typical of PMO addiction and PMO related sexual conditions.

The best thing to do would be to try a total reboot and to also look at other techniques to restore sensitivity to your glans and upper shaft skin (like using moisturizers etc.).

I am no expert but I am definitely seeing some changes since I started my NoFap journey