What sperm retention does to a heavy fapper?

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Sakhi, Nov 6, 2018.

  1. Sakhi

    Sakhi Fapstronaut

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    If u dont be patient, there are many fake accounts who only telling you the opposite of what you want. Dont know why. Its almost hard to believe all nofappers here who we duuno the identity...
     
  2. Ukulele

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    Sorry to dissappoint you mate, but I don’t focus neither on streaks, nor on sperm retention. I just work on the underlying issues that have led me to masturbation and porn when I was a teenager.

    I only wanted to point out that you actually had the solution for yourself in your own original post. :) I’m afraid there is nothing more that I can offer you.

    Best of luck on your journey!
     
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  3. Sakhi

    Sakhi Fapstronaut

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    Dont worry dear. I now no what to do. I do what works for my body....
     
  4. mastradamus

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    If you haven't been milked 24/7 in a masturbation farm for the past decade I highly doubt that you would age yourself at doublespeed with fapping alone. It sounds to me like you are on a cardboard and lead diet, sleep 30 minutes per night and let leeches snack on your bone marrow. You might have to change some of that too. Best of luck!
     
  5. Fallensoldier1

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    I do agree that MO can impact your health and your hair loss. However it’s usually not that ONLY. The lifestyle that comes along with heavy fappers is at play as well. Such as eating a terrible diet, not exercising, not having a good social life, and of course heavy fapping.
     
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  6. I would like to know how did you find the underlying issues which drove you to PMO when in teens
    I couldnt figure out
     
  7. Ukulele

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    Hi!

    It has been a 5 year ongoing process for me. So my short answer is “with time”. :)

    I didn’t so much go out and looked for these underlying issues. Rather, it came naturally as a result of countless times of dipping back into porn when I knew it did me no good.

    Allow me to elaborate on that. Just as most, I started out focusing on forcefully denying porn from myself, which has resulted in a lot of painful and self loathing years. With the knowledge I have now, I understand that I beat myself up for no valid reason. I did not understand that the part that desired porn wanted it for a reason. It was not random, nor just a habit. I denied this part, hated it, and wanted nothing to do with it. I didn’t know that this part was actually the answer. But I didn’t know this yet, so I kept pushing that part away, and just focused on abstaining.

    After each period of failing (it was always a long time before I could admit to myself that what I did wasn’t working), I tried to change my approach towards nofap. Gradually through the years, my approach has shifted into healing myself and my wounds. I started reading a lot of rebooting materials. I’ve been reading almost every day since January this year.

    With time and effort came self acceptance. With self acceptance came self observation without judgement. With observation came understanding and knowledge about myself. And knowledge is power. The power to tap into that part that desires porn.

    Once I was there without judging it or hating it, that part started to reveal itself. It started telling me why it wants to PMO. The reason is mostly (I do not know all, this is just based on my observation and reading of countless testimonies) it is the intimacy and love we have lost/not received as children/teens. And we are trying to replace that with the false intimacy of porn and masturbation. Men are known to receive love/intimacy before and during sex according to studies. So it is understandable why we turn to PMO.

    Knowing this, I have been working on replacing that love from real life sources. Family, friends, new people. I started by practicing being more open about myself, and share to/with others. With time, I started to desire porn less and less, and desired more to give/receive love to/from others. :)

    In my opinion, this process is definetely not as simple as a “well dude, just do a 90 day reboot”. At least not in my case. But if we go beyond, it might be very well worth it. I used to have no self esteem, but now it is gradually rising. I’d say the more I accept and try to understand and work with all parts of myself (even the hated bad habits and such), the more my self esteem grows.

    Well, that’s pretty much my process. I hope this helps you in some way. God bless! :)
     
  8. Amends25

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    SIMPLE MATHS
    Thats a good one.
    ....Subtract PMO from your life and it equals to happiness, energy, and reversion.
    All that we seek today
     
  9. Amends25

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    Jus fight that piece of shit they call PMO.
    I mean if the battle is so damn long and hard, victory must Damn sweet.
    10 days, congratulations.
    Challenge: i'll race you to 100...
     
  10. Yes I remember I never felt loved by mom and dad when I was a child .
    I was always looked as a future source of income so I have memories ojly of my parents telling me to study all the time.

    I hated that but due to that forcefulness I was not affected by porn until my mom was forcing me herself to study.

    Once mom loosened up on me to do my thing , I have lost it completely and fucked up my life.

    Other reason is that I dont have anyone with whom I can share this openly without threat of being judged
     

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