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Masturbating while sleeping(sexsomnia)

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Dyka, Nov 17, 2018.

  1. Nov 17, 2018 #1
    Dyka

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    I sometimes wake up in the night finding myself masturbating or removed some clothes. I was wondering if I was starting masturbating while sleeping or after waking up but I noticed that I really start while sleeping. This is called "sexsomnia" as I read.

    I read that some people even try to have sex with their partners while sleeping. It is similar to sleep walking but exact reason is not known. I noticed that I do this when I sleep after a tiring day.

    For example, I almost never remove my clothes when I fap consciously. But at night, I can remove even all of my clothes. I sometimes notice that the thing I do is something I don't want to do and stop but I'm not always that sober. Sometimes I finish it even after waking up.

    One more thing I notice is that having O while doing this is difficult and it almost doesn't feel anything other than ejaculation.

    For example, yesterday night, the only thing I remember is I angrily removed my top and touched my body(some of my upper body parts is almost more sensitive than the stick in masturbation). I woke up again hours later and weared them back. I'm not sure why I was angry. The dream maybe...

    I won't count these as relapse, even if I have O since they are almost not in my control(like wet dreams). But this situation can be bad if I do it when other people are in the same room. Also, it may be frustrating. It's like "I don't want to fap and I wake up masturbated".

    If there's other people with this problem and solved, it may be nice to hear you.
     
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    i remember waking up once with my pants off, another time i started masturbating in bed and fell asleep and woke up like that haha.
     
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  3. Nov 17, 2018 #3
    SharingTheLoadHelps

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    That happens to me off and on, and I have linked it to stress. We all get nocturnal erections but in normal conditions we're unaware. During stressful periods I used to wake up with hard rock erections that lasted up two 2 hours! Excercise and relaxing before going to bed (no internet or tv unless it is comedy) helped me thru. Hope it helps.
     
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  4. Nov 18, 2018 #4
    Dyka

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    But you're not saying that you masturbate. Just having an erection is not interesting for me (a very long erection, like 8 hours, may be harmful because blood start to coagulate after many hours). But I say that I masturbate while sleeping.

    There's a huge difference. A random erection can be understood but a sleep fapping is not easy to understand. Even science don't know this well, according to some texts on internet (checking academic texts may be more helpful).
     
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  5. Nov 18, 2018 #5
    sfmark12

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    It's like my brain is trying so hard after all these months to get me to masturbate. Even though it's still happening regularly, I'm still the same get PMO out of my life. Im honestly thinking it's part of the reboot process.
     
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  6. Nov 18, 2018 #6
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    "The stick", lol. :D

    Would that be your "joystick" Dyka? Hahaha! :p
     
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  7. Nov 18, 2018 #7
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    It is great that you have shown such resilience after (nearly) nine months. Stay strong @sfmark12. :)
     
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  8. Nov 18, 2018 #8
    Dyka

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    Lol I don't like to use some words like "di.."(actually is an animal). I could use "penis" but "stick" also feels a bit funny. Not as funny as "worm" though XD. "Cobra" is another one.

    "To release the Cobra(kobrayı salmak)" is a commonly used phrase in Turkish street language.

    It may be my "joystick" if I use it with my wife (not married yet) or "pain stick" if I relapse. It can be a "gear shifter" sometimes but it probably won't work.
     
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  9. Nov 23, 2018 #9
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    I'm dealing with virtually the same thing @Dyka. For some strange reason, I also remove all of my clothes when I M during sleep. At one point, I looked up porn when still asleep, and had to count that as a reset when it got out of hand. I'm quite certain that I O during my episodes. I do some sort of Kegel exercise while this occurs, that I never did during conscious M. Nice post. It should contribute well to the emerging discussion of sexsomnia, including my own that you've seen, on this site.
     
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  10. Nov 23, 2018 #10
    Dyka

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    Is it in your dreams? I don't know if watching porn with eyes while being asleep is possible.
     
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  11. Nov 23, 2018 #11
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    Good lord.

    If this happened to someone and their parents walked in...

    GOOD LORD.
     
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    That, friend, is why it led to a reset :)

    Actually, I just did a little research, Non-REM sleepwalking usually occurs with the eyes open. So folks suffering from sexsomnia, a non-REM sleep disorder, might also act out with their eyes open.
     
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  13. Nov 23, 2018 #13
    sfmark12

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    It's happened before. Ever wonder if there is a cure? I've been sleeping with my arms on my head and it is kind of working...
     
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  14. Nov 23, 2018 #14
    Tryingto

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    I've had some experience with this.

    My personal sense is that it is another way the addiction is trying to pull me back into it's grips. When I get relatively clean in my waking life, it is not uncommon for my dreams to get erotic and for me to wake in the middle of the night masturbating. I don't count it as a relapse - unless I let such episodes lead me into more conscious acting out.

    Over time I find these situations lessen in intensity and frequency - but they do show up from time to time and are always to be treating with wary care.

    For what it's worth...
     
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  15. Dec 22, 2020 #15
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    It is a simple solution, start wearing a penis cage at night before you go to sleep. It has keys to which can be put somewhere far away from you or if you are living with someone you can give the keys to them until you wake up properly. I will recommend the CB6000 penis cage, really good reviews.
     
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    wow, so many unexpected landmines in nofap journey
     
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